(Closed) Weddings with themes: Yay or nay?

posted 4 years ago in Themes
Post # 2
217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I don’t think they’re lame but I think it depends what you mean by “theme”. Is it going to be like an 80s wedding where people are expected to dress up or just a theme decor wise? 

Post # 3
791 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I think even without a theme everything should blend well.  You would not want to use gold edged engraved invitations if your wedding is an afternoon bar-b-que.  Your colors and style should show through.  Some themes get cheesy.  The only one that truly makes me cringe is the ‘fairy tale-Cinderella’ theme.. but that may be because I am in my 50’s and it always makes me wonder if the bride has a firm grasp on what marriage is.

Post # 4
1385 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

What kind of theme? I’ve never been to one that was super themed like a halloween or Christmas one but always thought it would be fun. Our “theme” was blue willow as far as decor and everything tied back into that. Our cake was blue willow, all the flowers were blue and white, we had blue and white china for people to eat off on, our invites were blue/white, table runners were blue toile etc..Not overboard, but enough to be noticeable. It helped and made things easier to have a common theme, and I like to see that in weddings rather than just random decor.



Post # 5
422 posts
Helper bee

I just saw someone recently had an “under the sea” theme, and it honestly made me almost cringe, that seems like something a teenage prom would have (no offense to anyone into this theme!). 

Post # 6
473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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greeneyedgal13 :  DH and I just had a baseball “themed” wedding two weeks ago! Nothing over the top, but little tid bits of baseball here and there. My shoes, his cufflinks, the ring bearers carried mitts down the aisle while the flower girls carried kissing balls that looked like baseballs, baseball themed centerpieces, baseball cake and cake pops, late night Chicago style hot dog bar and some pics at a baseball field. But it’s not like we were all dressed up in baseball jersey’s or anthing and we got TONS of compliments on how cute of an idea it was! Here’s some pics:




I’m a firm believer on doing what makes YOU and your Fiance happy! Who care’s what everyone else thinks!? I’m sure some people saw our “theme” and rolled their eyes, but I couldn’t care less because DH and I loved it! 🙂

Post # 7
4229 posts
Honey bee

People always say “my theme is wedding”, but I think that’s so dumb. To me a theme could be anything from “silver and pink” to like someone said “under the sea”. It’s just a way to tie everything together.

And honestly, even if someone does want to do a heavy theme, who cares? Why can’t you have seashells on your invites and part of your centrepieces if you’re doing an ocean theme? Can weddings only have flower petals and floating candles now?

Post # 8
9565 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

It makes sense to have an “aethsethic theme” that ties everything together ie a color palette, or garden vintage or sleek modern or whatever. Personally I think the over the top theme-themes like halloween or a movie or something are more appropriate for a bday party and are not as elegant or sophisticated, even distracting.

In the end though, the couple gets to throw their dream party and it should reflect them, and if anime/teletubbies/disney/tim burton/steam punk is your dream party than whatever! have fun and suit yo self. Plenty of people find a traditional wedding vibe to be boring and stuffy. 

Post # 9
7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Personally, I am nay. Its a wedding, not a childs birthday party. 

That said, if someone else wants to waste spend their money that way, its not really hurting anyone (unlike a cash bar, which actually impacts people). So, similar to wearing an OTT dress at a bbq wedding, you do you. 

Post # 10
10274 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Some people do themes well. Others do a theme and it ends up looking like a kids birthday party. But it’s your wedding. Do what makes you and your fiancé happy.

Post # 11
763 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We’re kind of doing a theme…I guess? Aestheticaly it’s vintage with burgundy, navy and gold accents, but we’re also adding in Star Wars. Nothing too crazy, but for example I am making the table numbers which will be burned wood with an image of a character for the table (Yoda, Han Solo, etc.). The burned wood will still give it the vintage feel without being over the top. Our invites snuck it in as well. Just small details!

Post # 12
2498 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

No, for the same reasons

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Post # 13
47423 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s all in the execution. Just like there are mermaid wedding dresses that are over the top and inappropriately sexy for a church ceremony, there are themed weddings that are gorgeous, elegant and refined.

Post # 14
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I do not mind a nice themed wedding! I actually even like them if they are done well and everything ties together! I DON’T like a wedding that seems too busy.

I will say, when I was in highschool, one of my mom’s coworkers had a halloween themed wedding. I thought the idea was really cool, but when we went to the wedding, it just seemed like a halloween party or something. Everyone was instructed to wear costumes, and it didn’t seem to tie all together. It almost seemed child-like!
With that being said, it was their wedding and they had a great drunk time!

I like a more simple and tied together theme. An autumn theme with leaves, little details, and a warm color pallet would be more my style personally. 

Post # 15
1249 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I think a theme can work well if it’s subtle. You don’t want your wedding to look like a child’s birthday party. 

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