(Closed) Weddings with themes: Yay or nay?

posted 4 years ago in Themes
Post # 16
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Busy bee

I think themes can be very cool. I operate on the “less is more” rule though. No more than one or two thematic items on a table at a time or else you start looking immature. Just think of valentines decor on Valentine’s Day. A sprinkle of confetti hearts at the table is fine. Or a special red  candle. But pair that together and you end up looking like Valentines day barfed all over your table. 

Post # 17
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Honey Beekeeper

Other than color coordination and general decor, I’m not a fan of themes. 

Post # 18
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

IMO it’s your wedding–you do whatever will make you happiest, with regards to theme.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Personally I think they’re tacky, but I do think the decor should match to some extent, eg. a colour or style 

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Im having a themed wedding. I agree with one of the PPs its all about how you execute it. We are doing a very suble star wars theme..so just small things, our save the dates had it, cupcakes will, some decor signs and some photos of the bridal party. 

Post # 21
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Sugar bee

I also agree with PP’s that it’s all in the execution.

Our theme was A Midsummer Night’s Dream and I thought it was quite lovely…

Post # 22
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’ve said on other threads about this that I loved how David Tutera used to show the difference between a theme done well and a theme run amok. When done well, it can tie your look together and give you a guideline to follow so you don’t have a wedding that tries to incorporate all the things that have moved you on Pinterest (swans! Ice sculptures! Uplighting! DIY! burlap! Barns! Elegance! Sparkles! All of the mostness!)

Our theme was Caravan of Love. Our venue had a large, random caravan on a platform the premises (which I realized after already choosing our theme.) Our son loves cars and I don’t like waste so we built tiny caravans as table numbers and spray painted a few old fashioned model cars to add for our center pieces (then he got to keep the cars after the wedding). Some vases of flowers and tiny twinkle lights and we had a great look that went really well with the funky artsy look of our venue. My mother was skeptical when I first described it but she told me several times later that everything came together beautifully (and she’s the queen of “Don’t do tacky.”)

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: Backyard

Have a wedding that reflects the two of you. If that turns into a theme, great. You don’t need to have a theme if it doesn’t reflect and have meaning for the two of you.

We knew our wedding would be simple, rustic, and outdoorsy. We started coming across a lot of picnic baskets and already love picnics, so we ended up with a picnic themed wedding.

We incorporated picnic baskets in the ceremony with my bouquet and the flowers as well as a small one for the rings. We incorporated picnic baskets at the reception as centerpieces and wedding favors. We actually took each one on a picnic and included a note with details about where we went, what we ate, and what Bible passage we read. That way, guests got to keep something that had played a role in our relationship.

My point is, I think themes can be great and have a lot of meaning. Just be sure the ultimate theme of the wedding is your love and commitment!

Post # 24
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Bee Keeper

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TwilightRarity :  I hate how David Tutera’s show was turned into a different direction the last seasons. I miss My Fair Wedding so much and couldn’t get enough of it (when regular brides asked for help about their wedding themes). I don’t absolutely understand why the show’s set-up was changed. It was so perfect.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee

Our theme was a Southern Fairytale. We got married in a mansion that looked like a castle, I wore a lace and sparkle tulle ballgown, and our colors were lavender and gold which had a whimsical, fairytale feel to it. Other than that, we didn’t do anything with the theme. But I was glad I had It! 

Post # 26
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

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socalgirl1689 :  I agree. I figured it was because he was becoming more well known and having celebrity clients was a sign that he had made it. That and the fact that his show became more of a reality show about him than it was about his clients and their events!

Post # 27
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Bee Keeper

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TwilightRarity :  You got a good point. The newer seasons involved a lot of drama about his home life and  his own staff. He is also quite acting diva-ish. It’s funny how everyone who I know loved the original set-up was saying how they hate what it has become. At first I thought it was only me.  Perhaps the idea backfired?

Post # 28
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Blushing bee

I think people should do what they like. If having a theme would make you happy then go for it! I think the best weddings are ones with lots of the bride and grooms personality and taste incorperated.

Personally I have been heckled by a few people trying to ask what my theme is but I just dont see the need. Me and my fiance just dont have any obvious thing that would make a good theme. I dont feel bad at all that I dont have one.

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Well I think there’s a difference between a “theme” and a “style”. Themes (like Beauty and the Beast, or circus, etc) I find to be really tacky – even when you avoid kids bday party, I’ve still never seen one done well (because it seems like when you avoid kids party, you’ve just landed on adult fundraiser instead). A style, on the other hand (like Art Deco, rustic, woodland, etc) is a must for a wedding I think. Without a set style a wedding often looks messy or boring. A style pulls it together to feel cohesive. 

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