Post # 46
open bar and food are most important to me. I went to one wedding where the venue was decorated beautifully (it was a cousin of mine, and I found out later that she spent close to $50k just on decor). However, when the food came out it was absoultely terrible. It was obvious that she spent most of her budget on decor and cut corners elsewhere. At the end of the day, all people remember was how crappy the food was.
Post # 47
Great food, drinks, and dancing are the most important to me. I appreciate an appropriate cocktail hour with appetizers and drinks before the reception. I say “appropriate” because one wedding I went to had a cocktail hour with huge displays of shrimp, multiple food stations with heavy foods, and carving stations with prime rib, etc. It was too much and very few people were then able to eat the lovely 5 course meal that was served an hour later. I hate the idea of wasted food. That said, I like light but excellent appetizers at the cocktail hour, an excellent dinner with open bar, dessert and coffee/tea afterwards, lots of dancing, and late night food such as pizza, sliders, potato skins and the like. I also love a good after-party.
While I think the budget should be spent mostly on food and entertainment, I appreciate creating a good atmosphere, so I like a venue that is nicely decorated. It doesn’t have to be elaborate, but something more than a bare church basement with drop ceilings. I think it helps with the whole feel of the wedding.
What I hate is lots and lots of front-end stuff like speechs and spotlight dances that can go on for an hour or longer, and then no time for dancing because the night has almost ended.
Post # 48
jessie0317 : If you were a guest at a wedding with a cocktail hour between ceremony and reception (one hour ish and bride/groom will be attending most of it to mingle) if there were some appetizers, a beverage and some lawn games….would you be put off by this?
I know you were asking someone else, but this is exactly what I’m planning for my farm wedding next month, so I can let you know how it goes! We’ll have a few lawn games, fun but not dance-y music (we’re creating a playlist of stuff that people like to sing along to but wouldn’t necessarily dance to), open bar and apps during the cocktail hour. During the reception, we’re keeping speeches short (just our parents since we’re not having a wedding party, and we’re giving them a firm 2 minutes per set of parnets), and we are not doing a garter or bouquet toss.
During the ceremony we’ll make sure we’re mic’d up so all our guests can hear us and the officiant (my biggest wedding pet peeve). We’ll have 2 locations for the bar, and the appetizers during the cocktail hour will be on 2 tables and refilled by our caterer, so guests don’t have to wait for the right passed platter to come by to get what they want. We’re doing an edible favor that is TSA-compliant and guests will have a cute bottle when the maple syrup (provided by our officiant’s farm) is done. I’ll happily keep any extras to give as little gifts to friends who couldn’t come, or people at work.
At my brother’s wedding last weekend, the bride’s family went WAY over their allotted time in (self-aggrandizing) speeches, and her father went around and put bottles of fancy wine or champagne on like 5 tables – only certain family members or friends got this, most did not. It was super weird and tacky. Also they had only 1 bar so there was always a long line for drinks. And they wanted everyone to go outside to dance but it was in the mountains and it was really chilly. I would have sprung for some space heaters to make the patio more welcoming. Weather is one thing I need to consider more for our wedding – gotta plan for those contingencies!