Weekday Wedding advice!!!

posted 3 months ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Would you have an issue attending a Thursday wedding in September at 6 or 630pm?
    Yes, Inconvenient : (24 votes)
    56 %
    No, Will work Fine at 6pm : (5 votes)
    12 %
    No, Will work fine at 6:30pm : (14 votes)
    33 %
  • Post # 2
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2021

    Is Friday or Sunday an option at a reduced rate? I feel like a Thursday is kind of pushing it unless it’s a destination wedding and people will be making a week long vacation out of it anyways.

    Also, I see a lot of “I” in your OP and not a lot of “we”. Does your Fiance feel the same way about this venue as you do? Does he feel it is more important to have this specific venue than to have it on a different day? 

    Have you spoken at all to your “VIPs”? 

    Post # 3
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    1796 posts
    Buzzing bee

     

    If you want to have a Thursday event, check with your VIPs to make sure that they can attend.  Not everyone can travel for a Saturday wedding, let alone a Thursday.  So you might get more declines with a Thursday, but if the venue is more important than guests, go for it.  

     

    Post # 4
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    998 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    alexsie :  Absolutely check in with all parents, siblings, VIP friends, the wedding party etc…

    If they are free on your specific date, then you should be good to go! I wouldn’t do any earlier than a Thursday night. People need to work the next morning.

     

    ETA: Are you expecting a full, traditional wedding with a rehearsal dinner the day before and the day of being FULL of makeup, hair appointments, photos, all that other stuff? Your local people WILL have to miss work! Check with them first.

    Post # 6
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    5783 posts
    Bee Keeper

    If I was local I’d be fine with a weekday wedding. I would not travel to one unless we were quite close though, and I wouldn’t take off the day after. 

    That said, I think the 630 start is good, giving people as much time as possible to get out of work and get ready. I’d also recommend a full dinner. Keep in mind if people have to work the next day, it’s probably not going to be an all night party atmosphere. I’d do pics beforehand for you and your husband. 630-7 ceremony, 7-730 family pics, 730 people start to take their seats, 8pm (or earlier) dinner is served, 9pm cake cut. HOpefully its not a far drive for most, so people can be home by 10 if they have to get up early the next day. 

    Post # 7
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    607 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

    alexsie :  As a VIP guest such as close family or friend, I would definitely make the effort to take the time off and be there. That would be a given for anyone I really care about.

    As a more extended guest such as a family friend, extended family or colleague, this would be a real struggle for me. I would be much much less likely to attened. Even if I was local, for a 6pm wedding, I would have to take time off work that afternoon to be able to get ready and arrive on time. Then I would likely need to take the following day off if it was a traditional celebration with drinks and dancing. It’s quite a bit of extra hassle and unless I was very close with the couple, I likely wouldn’t attend. 

    I would do what other PP’s have said and look into doing a Friday or Sunday wedding so you can limit how much time off people have to take. Remember your guests are also spending money to attend (ladies will get their hair done, a nice dress perhaps, the gift and travel costs even if you are local such as a cab to and from) and taking time off work adds to that expense.

    You may have to make a decision between your dream venue and your dream guest list. Will you be disappointed if a portion of your guests do not attend?

    • This reply was modified 3 months, 1 week ago by  gunnabamissus. Reason: Spelling errors. always spelling errors
    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

    I mean… Friday is better, but I’d go to a Thursday night wedding if I was local. Just expect it to end earlier. 

    But I would talk to the wedding party in you’re asking them to miss 1-2 days of work. 

    Post # 9
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    998 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    What kind of traffic is in your town? Are your wedding and guests located in a one-light Small Town USA or does “local” imply all of Los Angeles County? Think about rush hour and how that is going to impact your guest’s comfort.

    Post # 11
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    998 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    alexsie :  Awesome! I think you’re going to have a great wedding!

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

    I think it’s your wedding and you should do what you feel is best. However, I would definitely consult with super close family and friends (which it sounds like you’ve already done) and go from there.

    I would say though to assume more people will have to decline, or stay a lot shorter than normal due to work schedules. But as long as you’re prepared for that, I see no reason not to save some money on your dream venue. 

    Post # 14
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    607 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

    alexsie :  That is totally fair! And I don’t think it is selfish to have the wedding you want and can afford. I honestly just wanted to give you an outside perspective from a different view. 

    I know for my own wedding, having to sacrifice a big portion of my guest list wouldn’t fly. There is definitely a good selection of very close and good friends that I would be hugely disappointed if they didn’t make it out for my wedding. It just wouldn’t be my dream day without those people. So from my perspective, it’s a huge disadvantage to lose out on those people attending due to it being on a weekday.

    But since you’ve talked to all your key people and aren’t worried about the rest, have your dream wedding! As long as it’s what makes you happy! 🙂

    Post # 15
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    1688 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    alexsie :  No no no no

    You are passing on the expenses to your guests.  You get to save money, but your guests either miss out on $$ or have to use vacation time. 

    Fridays and Sundays are borderline because they typically only need 0.5-1 business day off.  A Thursday will guarantee 2 days off for your guests that are travelling.  Even if it was local to me, I finish work at 4.30 but reasonably get out of the office by 5pm.  I would then have to drive home (in peakhour), get ready and drive again in peakhour to the wedding venue.  I’d either need to leave early so I can be at work at 8am feeling fresh, or take the Friday off if I was planning on staying late/having a few drinks. 

    How does a 6:30pm ceremony work?  It would have to be 6:30 on the dot, will last until at least 7pm, then rush people in for dinner to start dinner at 7:30?  That’s late for people who haven’t eaten since 1pm, and I doubt you would even manage it at 7:30, 8pm would be more likely. 

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