Post # 1
We’re doing a weekday wedding because it’s saving us like.. uh… $6,000 or so. haha.
We wanted September 5th next year, but it was taken =(We were trying for a Thursday, because we want a sunset ceremony overlooking the water but we want it to be warm (thus early September… Maryland) So it’ll be like 6pm-11pm
We don’t want to do the 12th because it’s basically like September 11th o_O
We can do the 26th but we like the date of the 25th better, but it’s a Wednesday. We figured people could just maybe take Friday off and make it a long weekend, but would it really make much difference if it was Wednesday versus Thursday? Any options?
Is Monday a better day?
Post # 3
@yanamari: I read your post 3 times and I’m still not sure of some of your details. But that might be because it’s late and I’m sleepy 😛
If it wasn’t on a weekend here’s what I’d do: If it was a family memebr’s wedding I’d take the next day off, otherwise I’d just leave early. Just being honest.
Post # 4
1) Do you have a lot of Out of Town guests?
2) Are you having a Rehearsal Dinner the night before?
I would prefer a Thursday over Wednesday wedding personally. If all of your guests are local though, I don’t see why it’d be a big deal since the wedding is at night.
I had a Destination Wedding and got married on a Friday…all our guests were Out of Town. They flew in at various times of the week…the latest was Thursday night so they took half day Thursday off of work. Almost everyone left Sunday b/c they had to go back to work.
Post # 5
We are having a Monday wedding on July 15th, 2013.
We chose this date because this is the month that a lot of the adults in our family have taken their vacation and are off the entire month, so I know for a good portion of the family members would not have a problem with a weekday wedding. We also ran by our close friends if they’ll be willing/able to take Monday off to come to our wedding which they all happily accepted to do.
Since it is a weekday wedding we are expecting some people to not show up and that is fine, I am not going to take it personally since I know it is on a weekday. We plan on having the wedding from 5pm-10pm.
I am all for weekday weddings because they are so much cheaper and that will always charge over the comforts of the weekend weddings even if it upsets some people. I just shrug my shoulders and know where I stand in their lives. Like I said I don’t have a problem with someone saying they can’t go because of work, but I am cautious about people who won’t go just because it is on the weekday and their work isn’t what is holding them back if you know what I mean.
I don’t think that there is that big of a difference between Weds/Thurs, if you want to get close enough to the weekend without it being a Friday then choose Thursday. One of my FI’s nephew got married December 28th which was a Weds and everyone showed up in attendance is that gives you any solace.
Post # 6
There would be only 3 out of town guests, possibly. Our friends said they’d stay a week regardless, since they’re from here, and my Aunt would also stay a week because she never gets to come here and always stays a week when she can get out here, so it wouldn’t matter to her either, so the only other one is his Uncle. So maybe one that would count?
The rehersal dinner would probably be a few nights before, but everyone in the party would already be local.
Post # 7
September 12 is not the 11th. I understand your thought but it’s really not the same day….
I vote TH so they can take the day off on Friday if needed.
Post # 8
I voted Thursday, as they can take the Thursday and Friday off, and won’t be going back to work until Monday.
I personally would find a Wednesday a little awkward.
Post # 9
I say Thursday so people can make it an extra long weekend. I’d rather take 2 days off vs. 3.
Post # 10
I attended a Wednesday wedding last year and it was pretty terrible as a guest. I had to fly in Monday and the earliest flight out on Thursday got me into my home Thursday night= 4 days I had to take off work. Even though the girl was one of my best friends, I’m not sure I’d ever attend a Wednesday wedding again…
Post # 11
@yanamari: hmmm I’m into dates so I want to tell you to go with the number you like but I also work M-F and have been known to want to party on Thurs night MUCH MORE FREQUENTLY than on a wednesday night… so I would go with Thursday just because I’d want my guests to be in a festive celebratory mood, not looking at their watches knowing they have half their work week left.
$6000 is a fantastic savings! how exciting!
Post # 12
Thursday evening! People will take off on Friday if they want too and make it a nice long weekend!
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Nothing wrong with September 12th either. I almost forgot September 11 this year until I wrote down the date to sign a contract that day.
Post # 14
Thanks everyone! Bah. This is what I was afraid of. We REALLY wanted September 1st because it was our anniversary, but it was too expensive as it was a holiday Sunday = So September 5th sounded pretty good… and then we found the place was booked. Argh! Fridays and Sundays are still just too expensive. All the deals they’re cutting us (vendors also) to do a Wednesday is crazy. We’d probably be looking at $18-20k for like 65 people, but instead we’re looking at like $12k.
So no other digit that’s non-weekend sounds good at all. 19th was semi-okay but it’s also taken. September 12th just rings like September 11th to me, so I don’t really want it, even though it really doesn’t matter anymore. Thanks for the opinions! ^_^