(Closed) weekday weddings

posted 10 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: would you attend a weekday wedding that was NOT on a friday?
    YES : (28 votes)
    43 %
    NO : (37 votes)
    57 %
  • Post # 3
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    1084 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    That’s hard…..how far do your friends who aren’t from overseas have to travel to attend you’re wedding. 

    Post # 4
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    3226 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Honestly, I would go, depending on how far the drive would be.  You said you’d provide a bus and all…so that’s thoughtful.

    If people have to work, a Monday is not great.  But then again, if they are smart, they would request to leave early on Monday and take Tuesday off…so it shouldn’t be a problem…if they actually think ahead!

    Post # 6
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Only if i was in Jamaicca or somethign AND i was SUPER CLOSE to the people. Like, BFFS. Otherwise, sorry wouldn’t go and skip work for it

    Post # 7
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    672 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    Honestly, it would depend on how close we are to the couple.  My vacation time is super limited, so I wouldn’t be able to take any off.  But it was a close friend, I totally wouldn’t mind and would happily attend with no complaints.  For a random cousin who I hadnt seen in a couple years or a coworker I’m not close to?  I’d probably not.

    Post # 8
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    1580 posts
    Bumble bee

    Well from your spelling of ‘centre’ I’m guessing you’re not in the US?? Oct 11, 2010 is actually a US federal holiday, but I’m not sure if that helps you.

    Post # 10
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    2015 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I think it’s safe to say that any immediate family members will take off the whole day to spend with you.

    However, I have to admit, if I wasn’t super close to you, and I was invited, I would not attend, and if you choose to do a Monday, Tuesday or Thursday wedding, you should count on only close friends and possibly only immediate family being there.

    Speaking from personal experience, I can say, though, that it was our friends and family, not the venue, that made our wedding amazing. Our venue was our first choice, and it’s beautiful and lovely, and I feel lucky we had our wedding there. But if given the ultimatum between guests we really want there or the perfect venue, guests would hands down win.

    Given your situation with the overseas family members, I would say do it if you’re really set on the date and venue, but keep in mind, you’ll probably have an unusually low acceptance rate, and you’ll have to be extra understanding 🙂

    Post # 11
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    6659 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I would have voted “Maybe”. Just because it depends on how close I am to the couple. For example a wedding on a Saturday that’s nearby for someone I’m not that close with I might go, but if I have to take the day off from work and there’s traveling involved probably not.

    Post # 12
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    1084 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    So most of your friends that are coming live somewhat near the city, like they don’t have to drive up 4 hours and home 4 hours.  For us, we had a lot of guests who were scattered about and either had long drives they did over the weekend, a few, or had to drive between 2-4 hours.  I think in that situation it would be really hard for me to want to go to a monday wedding.  If I was in town, it would be a bit of a pain but not that big of a deal.

    Post # 13
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    4479 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    Would I go? If I could, yes. Problems: it’s outside of the city center and starts when most people are still at work. If I were a guest and your wedding started at 4 and took me half an hour to get there, I’d not go, because I’d already be at least two hours late due to work and having to get ready. And if for some reason I could leave work early and attend, I’d end up leaving immediately after you cut the cake (or earlier) since I’d have to go to work the next day.

    So if you don’t mind that a lot of people will probably miss the ceremony and the wedding will wind down early in the evening, and that a good chunk of your guestlist won’t be able to make it at all, then I don’t see a problem with it. But if you’ll be hurt by declines, you might want to find another date.

    Post # 14
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    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I know for me personally, this would be very difficult, esp. around that time of year.  I work in finance and it’s very hard to get time off around “quarter end”.  Fiance is a teacher and they’re not really allowed to take “personal” days since they get the vacations off that the kids do.

    We’re struggling with this right now as Future Brother-In-Law is getting married on a Friday in October next year.  I doubt Fiance will even be able to make the rehearsal.

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Yeah you should have had a “maybe” on the poll. I voted no, but I would have voted maybe because it depends how close I am to the person. Also, I really hate having to take off work for weddings when I’m just a guest at someone’s wedding and not in the wedding party. If it was a BFF, obviously I’d make the sacrifice, but if I wasn’t super close with the people or it was one of my FI’s friends and I was just “and guest” I wouldn’t go.

    Post # 16
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    1756 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I might be marginally likelier to attend if it were a Thursday rather than a Monday, and just take Friday off, too, to make a four-day weekend out of it. At the weddings I attend, however, my friends and I like to drink, and there’s no way I’d be willing to drag my sorry butt into work on Tuesday morning.

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