Post # 1
okay, so the more i think about it, the more it stresses me out. my Fiance and i have set our wedding date as october 11, 2010 because it is a day that will work for the venue of our dreams. the venue cannot do weekends, fridays, or wednesdays… (long story) october 11th falls on a monday. i’m stressed because i’m not sure if guests will come for a wedding that is on a monday. we originally justified it as us having many overseas (family) guests so for them, whatever the day of the week doesn’t really matter. however, i’m now thinking about our friends….
we’re thinking of having the ceremony at the same location as where we’ll have the reception. ceremony will take place at around 4 or 5? then cocktails and dinner at 6 or 7? something like this… to further complicate things, our location is about 30 minutes away from the city centre (we are thinking of hiring buses to take guests there and bring them back into town).
URGHHHHHH what to do?
would you go to a weekday wedding that was NOT a friday?
Post # 3
That’s hard…..how far do your friends who aren’t from overseas have to travel to attend you’re wedding.
Post # 4
Honestly, I would go, depending on how far the drive would be. You said you’d provide a bus and all…so that’s thoughtful.
If people have to work, a Monday is not great. But then again, if they are smart, they would request to leave early on Monday and take Tuesday off…so it shouldn’t be a problem…if they actually think ahead!
Post # 5
@bvig- the location would be 30 minutes away from the city centre… we’ll likely have buses from the city centre bringing guests to the location. i’m thinking of people who truly want to come, but don’t get off work till 6… then they have to make their way to the city centre, and then another 30 mins from there = a lot of time….ARGHHHHH
Post # 6
Only if i was in Jamaicca or somethign AND i was SUPER CLOSE to the people. Like, BFFS. Otherwise, sorry wouldn’t go and skip work for it
Post # 7
Honestly, it would depend on how close we are to the couple. My vacation time is super limited, so I wouldn’t be able to take any off. But it was a close friend, I totally wouldn’t mind and would happily attend with no complaints. For a random cousin who I hadnt seen in a couple years or a coworker I’m not close to? I’d probably not.
Post # 8
Well from your spelling of ‘centre’ I’m guessing you’re not in the US?? Oct 11, 2010 is actually a US federal holiday, but I’m not sure if that helps you.
Post # 9
@Jacqi- nope, not from US! i live in hong kong. no US holidays for us unfortunately.. if anything, we go by the british system.
Post # 10
I think it’s safe to say that any immediate family members will take off the whole day to spend with you.
However, I have to admit, if I wasn’t super close to you, and I was invited, I would not attend, and if you choose to do a Monday, Tuesday or Thursday wedding, you should count on only close friends and possibly only immediate family being there.
Speaking from personal experience, I can say, though, that it was our friends and family, not the venue, that made our wedding amazing. Our venue was our first choice, and it’s beautiful and lovely, and I feel lucky we had our wedding there. But if given the ultimatum between guests we really want there or the perfect venue, guests would hands down win.
Given your situation with the overseas family members, I would say do it if you’re really set on the date and venue, but keep in mind, you’ll probably have an unusually low acceptance rate, and you’ll have to be extra understanding 🙂
Post # 11
I would have voted “Maybe”. Just because it depends on how close I am to the couple. For example a wedding on a Saturday that’s nearby for someone I’m not that close with I might go, but if I have to take the day off from work and there’s traveling involved probably not.
Post # 12
So most of your friends that are coming live somewhat near the city, like they don’t have to drive up 4 hours and home 4 hours. For us, we had a lot of guests who were scattered about and either had long drives they did over the weekend, a few, or had to drive between 2-4 hours. I think in that situation it would be really hard for me to want to go to a monday wedding. If I was in town, it would be a bit of a pain but not that big of a deal.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Would I go? If I could, yes. Problems: it’s outside of the city center and starts when most people are still at work. If I were a guest and your wedding started at 4 and took me half an hour to get there, I’d not go, because I’d already be at least two hours late due to work and having to get ready. And if for some reason I could leave work early and attend, I’d end up leaving immediately after you cut the cake (or earlier) since I’d have to go to work the next day.
So if you don’t mind that a lot of people will probably miss the ceremony and the wedding will wind down early in the evening, and that a good chunk of your guestlist won’t be able to make it at all, then I don’t see a problem with it. But if you’ll be hurt by declines, you might want to find another date.
Post # 14
I know for me personally, this would be very difficult, esp. around that time of year. I work in finance and it’s very hard to get time off around “quarter end”. Fiance is a teacher and they’re not really allowed to take “personal” days since they get the vacations off that the kids do.
We’re struggling with this right now as Future Brother-In-Law is getting married on a Friday in October next year. I doubt Fiance will even be able to make the rehearsal.
Post # 15
Yeah you should have had a “maybe” on the poll. I voted no, but I would have voted maybe because it depends how close I am to the person. Also, I really hate having to take off work for weddings when I’m just a guest at someone’s wedding and not in the wedding party. If it was a BFF, obviously I’d make the sacrifice, but if I wasn’t super close with the people or it was one of my FI’s friends and I was just “and guest” I wouldn’t go.
Post # 16
I might be marginally likelier to attend if it were a Thursday rather than a Monday, and just take Friday off, too, to make a four-day weekend out of it. At the weddings I attend, however, my friends and I like to drink, and there’s no way I’d be willing to drag my sorry butt into work on Tuesday morning.