- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2018
Good Morning Bees!
I hope everyone had a great weekend, because I certainly didn’t…well, actually it was a great weekend! I got to go shopping at the jewelry show with my Mom! I totally splurged on a pair of diamond infiniti hoop earrings which I’ve been wanting for a while now and I got to meet my daughters new boyfriend…..yeah.
I sincerely hate to tear someone apart, but I don’t like this guy…at all. But for lack of a better word, my daughter is besotted with him, and I don’t want to make it sound like he’s awful, but there were a couple of things that really bothered me. Tell me your thoughts, please!
For one thing, he’s short…and I don’t just mean short, I mean REALLY short! As a woman that stands six feet tall, married to a man that towers over me at 6’4….it’s a shock to have some petite little man running around in your house! I mean, every one of my dogs outweighs this guy, and you could just tell that he was totally uncomfortable….I know it doesn’t have anything to do with anything, but in my experience, people who are uncomfortable with their height, or lack thereof, tend to be a little more aggressive to compensate…and I kind of saw that in him with the way he walked around, kind of puffed up…?
Secondly, he is gorgeous! And I don’t mean ruggedly handsome, or wickedly attractive, I mean that he’s….pretty! Kind of dainty, with an angular face and pretty eyes…he’s prettier than my daughter AND HE KNOWS THIS!
Third, he never says, “Thank you” for anything, I served this young man three square meals, put him up in our home and entertained him for 48 hours, the words NEVER left his lips…as if he was entitled to all of those things, why should he thank me or Mr. 99 at all?
Fourth, I’m pretty sure he’s got a drinking problem….he kept asking me if he could have one of the beers that he saw in the fridge, otherwise he said he wouldn’t be able to sleep….WHAT?! I asked my daughter, and she said he drinks every night…and please understand, I come from a family that drank wine with most dinners, but there’s a BIG difference between wine with dinner among a family of four, and sitting down with a bottle of Everclear and drinking yourself into a boozy slumber every night…WTF?
Of course after they left, Mr. 99 and I sat down and did a post mortem of the weekend, since he spent more time with him than I did, and I guess this kid smelled like a bar-room floor, sweating out whatever he had downed the night before in the car with my husband…admitted he was hung over, had already gotten two DUI’s and has to be driven around by our kid! Oh, and he’s living with her since he got thrown out of the place he was staying….
On the plus side, he’s great with our grandson, he seems nice, however misguided and poorly raised and I’m willing to suspend judgement and see if he’s going through a rough patch or is an honest to god schmuck….but I have to admit, he scares the hell out of me…and more than that, the way my kid looks at him scares me to death…she’s crazy about this guy and he is a mess!
Bees, your words of wisdom, humor and experience are sorely needed, are Mr. 99 and I on the right track with behaving like we’re just as crazy about him or should we pipe up on this?