Weekend party plans… Just found out I'm pregnant.. Not sure what to do

posted 9 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Tell them you’re on medicine and can’t drink. 

Or a few hours before tell them you have violent diarrhea.

Also, congrats!!! 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee

What about saying your allergies are acting up and you had to take allergy meds that don’t mix well with alcohol? If it’s spring in your hemisphere seasonal allergies are a good blanket excuse. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

stillnothing :  If I were you I’d be pretty tempted to just skip the whole thing, but obviously I don’t know your friend and have no idea if she would hold that against you or what. 

If you do go, I’d let her know you’re not feeling too great so you’re probably going to call it a night early and head home. Since it’s a long drive for you, it would make perfect sense if you didn’t want to drink. Maybe order a beer and babysit it the whole night, pour some out when you use the restroom or something.

Congrats!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2020

Meh I would just come down with a fever of 101 and a red, sore throat. When people use the antibiotic excuse everyone jumps to pregnancy anyway. I’d get her a nice little gift and take her out to lunch next week. Or if she can keep a secret and you don’t mind her knowing, tell her what’s up and leave early before bar hopping and if anyone else asks it’s because of some preplanned reason. Promised to pick mom up from the airport, promised husband to be Designated Driver (why on earth did the forum change that to dirty delete?) for him and his friends, getting up early for whatever. 

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Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

stillnothing :  That would be hard! My friends are quite the party animals and I’m taking a month break from drinking and I’m dreading the upcoming pressure! 

Honestly, I’d probably just fake sick. I’d imagine that your friends aren’t dumb and will likely figure it out if you refuse to partake in normal activities. Good luck bee

Post # 10
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Helper bee

Is there a reason you don’t want your friends to know you’re pregnant? It would be a shame to skip the whole thing just because you can’t drink. I don’t see why you can’t just tell them the truth, and remind them that you haven’t announced it yet, so they don’t go blabbing to everyone.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

cypresstree85 :  a lot of women do not like to announce a pregnancy until they’ve finished the first trimester in case it doens’t stick.

Congrats, OP! Why not try the good old, “I’m on antibiotics” excuse? That should be enough and if your friends still “try shoving beer” in your hand after then I sugest getting new friends. I hate people who pressure others to drink (or do anything they’ve already said no to) and it sends up all the red flags for me.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

cypresstree85 :  most people just wait longer because of the higher risk of miscarriage in the first trimester. 

stillnothing :  would anyone notice if you took the beer you were handed but didn’t actually drink it? Just dump a little out now and then. I doubt the antibiotics excuse flies anymore these days, it’s such a common go-to. You could pretend you’re trying to reduce carbs or something though. Everyone knows beer is a bad one for that!

Post # 15
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Helper bee

stillnothing :  I understand. You could just say you’re trying to lose a few pounds and with your diet, there’s no room for alcohol calories.

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