Post # 1
Ive only been on here a short time and most of you already know my story. Some people would consider us engaged already since the Boyfriend or Best Friend told me if we found a venue we liked and they required a year in advance booking we should go ahead a book. Well I have really been trying to impliment Mr. Bees plan. Not so much going out with the girls (as I really dont have any girlfriends anymore) but more of working on myself. I have been working on my diet and school and really trying to grow myself the past week or so. Well last night the Boyfriend or Best Friend brought up weddings again. Everytime he brings it up I will try and sway the conversation in a different direction now. Well he said he wanted to talk to me about something and he wanted me to just listen. He started out by saying how much he misses me and how he knows how impatient I must be because he is as well. The reason he hasnt proposed is because he knows we are both struggling a bit right now and when you get married not only do you combine incomes but also combine debt and he doesnt want us to combine our debt and me loose my house (I bought my own house when I turned 21). He realizes that what he has done in the past (incurred debt from college) is a reason we are also not engaged right now but he is trying to make it right. He then told me that he loves me and he cant wait for me to be his wife “very soon”, but he also told me “Hey atleast you’re better off then like 95% of the woman out there.. you KNOW your getting a ring”. LOL!! He then changed the subject very quickly and we havent revisited this. I have no idea where this conversation came from but as hard as it is to wait I do have to say I am very lucky that he is being so grown up about this and really thinking of our financial future together.
Sorry ladies but I just needed to vent and as I said.. I dont have any girlfriends anymore. Thanks for reading!
Post # 3
Oh Ren… it’s good to have those conversations, isn’t it? And to know that he’s approaching life responsibly?
Are you guys going to stay distance until you’re married, or will you be in the same place sooner than that? I know that the distance makes it extra hard (oh, how I know!), and for us, that was a deciding factor in when we’ll get engaged/married – the sooner we get married, the sooner we’ll be living in the same country!
Good job following Mr Bee’s plan! I think it’d be great if you could make some girlfriends though too — someone from school, work, a local religious community… it’s hard to get to know new people, but it’s usually worth it.
Post # 4
As hard as it is to wait I totally appreciate how responsible he is being and how he has really taken on the “Head of the house” type role and making sure we will be ok! It really makes me feel better knowing Im going to be marrying a mature man.
We have decided to not move in until we are married.. and to make it worse the next time Im going to see him (March 6th) will be at his best friend from college’s wedding weekend..
I have never had good look with having “girlfriends”.. I am a gearhead and a tomboy persay. Most of my friends are guys.. and I prefer it that way.. but I am working on it.
Thanks for the support!
Post # 5
Hmm, it almost sounds like he thinks he is irresponsible for having student loan debt but it is an investment in his guture and what will help him make more money in the future. There is no way that it can make you lose your house since they are both in your seperate names and were purchased before marriage. I’m hoping he doesn’t mean that he is not planning on paying the loan, since student loans basically never go away even in bankruptcy.
Great that he says it is coming soon though!
Post # 6
No no he has been paying extra on his student loans and his car payment to get rid of them..
Post # 7
Aw, *hug*! It’s not any easier because you know, haha. Hopefully he can get that stuff squared away soon and you guys can move forward.