Post # 1
So many questions to ask..
We initially wanted to elope in the caribbean but the more i thought about it, i got a little sad thinking about having nobody to witness the special day.
We are now leaning toward a small restaurant wedding, with the ceremony taking place outside in their beuatiful garden and then a sit down dinner, no dancing.
All of my family are in Canada, his live near us in CT.
A few of my closest family members are flying here in May for my graduation so we thought, why not have a small wedding while they’re here?
In order for this to work, it has to be on a Tuesday night. I’m not sure if this is too selfish or not. My family can only be here from Sat-Thurs and my grad is on Sun. I’d love people’s thoughts on this. I feel like his family would rather do a weeknight than not be able to witness it all, had we gone down south. The other option would have been a big wedding in Canada so I’m thinking a weekenight wedding would be far less of a hassle for them than flying, booking hotels, etc..
Also, when I think of the ceremony ending.. I don’t know how to make a proper transistion from ceremony to cocktails. When you have a traditional wedding, the couple exits down the aisle with everyone standing on clapping and then either recieves people at the entrance or takes off in their limo for pics or reception. I just don’t know what we’ll do other than stand around and look awkward 😛
Post # 3
In your unique situation, I think it is perfectly okay to have a wedding on Tuesday if that is what works for you and your family.
There is no rule, that I am aware of, that would make this socially unacceptable!!
I think it is sweet of you to want your family to witness this event and how better to cap a perfect weekend of your graduation.
On the wedding and your exit—exit the same way you come in, assuming your guests will already be seated, as if for dinner! Or don’t…..following the vows/pronouncement, perhaps you or the groom could thank your guests for coming & sharing that time.
I really don’t think there is a wrong answer here.
It will be a sweet, intimate affair surrounded by those that love you!
Post # 4
I think what you’re doing is fine, as long as you’re understanding that some people just won’t be able to make it. But there would have been the same issue with a Destination Wedding.
We’re also doing a restaurant wedding. Our plan is to disappear for 20 min or so of the cocktail hour to snap some family photos (we’re getting most of them out of the way with first look). Then we’ll infiltrate the cocktail hour, mingle for a few minutes, and then as the guests are seated we’ll gather in a side room and do formal introductions. It might be a little awkward, but our whole event is 4 hours and I want to enjoy the party.
Post # 5
When I first read the title I thought “oh no…” but now that I read your post I realize that it makes perfect sense for you to get married when everyone is there for your graduation. It happens to fall on a weeknight but it sounds like everyone will be traveling anyways so they won’t have to worry about work or school or extracurricular activities. You’ll probably get a nice discount for a weeknight as well.
Post # 6
We are also having our cermony/reception at a restaurant on a weekday (Monday – 5pm) just because it is out 3 year anniversary, and the site fees are 80% cheaper that way! It seems to work well for your situation to have a weeknight wedding as many of your guests are already in town! As a guest, I would feel that is being considerate, not selfish. 🙂