(Closed) Weigh in on our First Anniversary

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

I think you should agree on what to do for your anniversary. If you agree to do the yearly gifts, then go ahead and get the tickets for him and hint at the cift card (although that would be more like plastic, haha).

If he doesn’t want to do gifts, then I say skip the tickets and just do the romantic dinner and go out of your way to look good. hahahaha.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

I think if you don’t make it a big deal for this first one it will never be anything special. It’s a big thing! Now that you’ve planted the seed,maybe he’ll do something anyway,or is it possible he blew it off to throw you off? I’m like that myself and have managed to pull off quite a few surprises. πŸ™‚

Only you know your man….will he feel terrible if you get him something great and he has nothing for you?

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think its all about what you want to do to show your love to your Fiance.  However I would be prepared he may not reciprocate.  If you want to play it safe and somewhat even then I would make dinner, a cake, and have a relaxing evening.  If you want to go above and beyond then get him the tickets. 

 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My Fiance and I chose to communicate what we want with this stuff years ago.  So we would be on the same page.  Here’s how its been working out for us (we’ve been together for 7 years): our birthdays- a gift and take the person out, Christmas- we go to a nice dinner before the holiday and go shopping for gifts together, anniversaries- we do something special together (usually a trip) and Valentine’s day he has to spoil me and I do something a lil sweet too :).  So, whatever you want to do is fine, but as long as he’s aware that he should reciprocate.  That’s just me.  So my advice, talk about it.  I’d ask first how he envisions spending the annivesary.  Then tell him what you’d like to do (I wouldn’t mention the specific gift although how cool would that be to receive??).  See where ya end up after the convo.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yeah, I wouldn’t be thrilled either.  This is your 1st wedding anniversary.  It is a big deal.  And you do have to set a precedent, in my opinion.  So it should be special.  Not everyone is fortunate enough to celebrate an anniversary, so you both have to make it special.  I’d revisit the topic with him, tell him he’s gonna have to go balls to the wall on your anniversary… ok so maybe don’t say that, but make sure he gets how important it is.  And that it should be romantic!  My Fiance is clueless too, so as unromantic at it is to have to basically draw diagrams for this stuff, it usually hits home and you’re on the same page from there on out. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yeah, I agree that you sort of have the set a precedence here.  That wasn’t very nice of him to moan and groan about getting a gift, but guys kinda hate buying gifts. 

I would still go for the tickets…it’s a great idea.  And if it were my Fiance, I would say point blank “I’m getting you a gift.  And we should def do dinner as well.  So make of that what you will.”

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would still go for the tickets. it’ll be fun for both of you, it’s not just something he’ll enjoy. Instead of you slaving to make him nice dinner, why doesn’t he take you out somewhere nice? That way, he provides the food and you provide the entertainment.

btw: who are the cards playing? i hope it’s someone good for your anniversary πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

I would still go for the tickets, I think you should both get each other a gift though!  He knows you are getting him a gift now, so Im sure he will be thinking about what to get you πŸ™‚

Our anniversary is the same as yours, Im starting to think of what I can get as a gift (trying to do the traditional paper gift for 1 year anniversary) and figure out what we will do that night.  We were gonna go to Cabo for the weekend but with all the vet bills we had to pay recently, were gonna save and go on a belated anniversary trip in a few months.  We have gift cards to cover dinners for 2 really nice restaurants so I thought wed do one restaurant Saturday and dinner at the place we got married at on our actual anniversary.  And the best part is I have $50 credit for taxi cab fare so we wouldnt have to spend much money at all and be able to drink what we want πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

Maybe instead of you making dinner, he could take you out for dinner. That way he doesn’t have to buy you an actual gift and you don’t have to slave over a hot stove πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Yeah, screw this makin dinner lark! You could agree to be an ‘out for dinner every anniversary’ couple, instead of you sweating at he oven while he’s frantic runnin round the shops lol !!!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think you should go to the game, and then go somewhere nice afterward.  Maybe get a hotel Sunday night?  I know you live in STL, but it would be more romantic.  πŸ™‚

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