Post # 1
Hi! I’m new here…..new to this particular board and new to being pregnant! 🙂 I just had my 16 week (exactly 16 weeks today) appointment today and since getting pregnant, I have gained 14lbs. I didn’t see the Dr today, I saw the nurse practitioner. When I asked her if 14lbs was good or bad, she sort of hesitated as if wanting to say, “Yes”, but instead said, “You want to gain about a pound per week”. I am normally a very fit and active person (I run and lift weights). Admittedly, prior to getting pregnant, I was probably overly careful about what I ate and what I didn’t eat, and probably starved myself a little more than I should have…..which is probably wny my now fat ass is fat! lol
I should also mention that my Drs. advised me NOT to exercise for the first 12 weeks due to my going through IVF (swollen ovaries, twisted ovaries, figuring out if I the whole thing was going to “stick” as they say, etc.). Prior to IVF, I was at the gym every morning like clockwork lifting and running. Since getting pregnant, we put in a home gym, so I’m getting back into it.
Anyways, I was wondering what your experiences with weignt gain is. I totally understand this is a very personal topic, but whoever is comfortable sharing, please share away!
Thanks so much!
Post # 3
I haven’t had my 16 week appointment yet but at both my 8 week and 12 week appointments, I had gained about 5 pounds total (i.e. I weighed the same at my 8 and my 12). I’m not skinny by any means, but I am on the higher end of my normal BMI and I’m short. I certainly am not a regular exerciser. What “helped” was that it’s been challenging eat large meals while PG and my appetite hasn’t been that great.
FWIW, here’s what the Mayo Clinic says about weight gain. (http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/pregnancy-weight-gain/PR00111) If your BMI was low to begin with, you can “afford” the weight gain you’ve had.
I also know a few people who went through IVF and according to them, they gained weight a little rapidly at the beginning.
Post # 4
Mine has sortof fluctuated – I was on track up until the mid 2nd trimester, and now I gain more than the lb/week. I’m 34 weeks tomorrow, but I’ve gained closer to 40lbs so far. However, my OB always says my weight looks good, so she isn’t concerned. I used to stress a lot about it when the numbers started rising more sharply, but I don’t let the dumb number bother me anymore 🙂
I know some people who gained like 60lbs even while keeping a strict diet and exercise regimen, other people who only gained 30lbs while eating whatever they wanted and not exercising, so I tend to think that your body will do what it needs for the baby and I just try and do everything in moderation. Of course at this stage just unpacking all my boxes from moving is exercise haha, no way I am going to be out running or something now! 😛
Post # 5
The recomendation for women with a normal BMI (ie. 19-25) is to aim for a gain of 25-35 lbs total. The nurse is right that “about a pound a week” isn’t out of the ballpark….*but* it’s also important to know that most of the gains come in the last trimester.
Having said that, some women lose weight in the first trimester, some stay steady and some gain. It often depends on nausea and what women can tolerate food-wise (eg. carbs, lots and lots of carbs). I don’t think women should deprive themselves in any way during pregnancy, and at the same time need to focus on maintaining a healthy diet. I always tell women to eat to their appetite but try to choose healthy options. Pregnancy needs about 300 extra calories per day so the “eating for 2” myth doesn’t do anyone any good. But if you’re already eating well, then just try to relax, you can’t control your weight beyond what you’re already doing (healthy food and exercise).
Post # 6
At 20 weeks I was up 8. I’m so scared to go tomorrow and see the damage
Post # 7
My BMI is high to begin with so very little weight gain is advised. I’ll be 16 weeks on Thusday and I’ve lost about 5 lbs
Post # 8
Thanks for all of your candid and helpful responses! It took awhile for me to come to terms with and accept that tight pants were a GOOD thing!
I agree, you don’t want to stop yourself from eating–in fact, I had to retrain myself TO eat when I’m hungry and not out it off for an hour or more just to make it to my official lunch time (Like I use to do).
25-35lbs is scary and I can totally understand panic as the numbers rise….but to know a baby is at the end is worth it!! I work with a girl who gained 60lbs when she was pregnant and now looks just as she did pre-pregnancy. In fact, when she told me she gained 60, I couldn’t believe it because she never looked that big to me!
Thanks again, ladies! Be well!
Post # 9
@MusicBee76: Hi! I had gained 14 pounds by 16 weeks, on a petite frame with a normal BMI to start out with! I was really freaked out by it having always been very conscious of my weight, but all the doctors said that people gain weight at different times over the course of the pregnancy, and just because I had gained early did not mean I was going to gain 90 pounds in the end. I am 28 weeks and up 21 pounds total, because I stopped gaining much weight at all by 18 weeks and haven’t gained much since. If I use those pregnancy weight calculators, I finally now fall within the normal range (barely – I am at the very top) so I have stopped fretting about it so much. I put on weight a hot second after I got a pos preg test – I had gained 6 pounds by 6 weeks pregnant. I did freak out about it the entire time, and still freak out about it quite a bit so I am a terrible advice giver since I would not have taken my own! As far as exercise goes, I haven’t done anything other than walking my dog when I can manage it, and I have had an inconsistent diet due to severe nausea and food aversions.
One of my bffs is 40 weeks, and up 45 pounds with a normal BMI to start out with. She worked out the whole time until she was put on bedrest at 30 weeks and has been extremely conscious about her diet. I really think that, absent really unhealthy diet and extreme lack of exercise, that your body puts on the weight it needs at the times that it needs!
Post # 10
I was up 8 pounds by 15 weeks and I think I gained 4 more by my appointment this week at 19 weeks. I, like you, was pretty conscious of what I ate pre-pregnancy, but I found the only way I could make it through the first trimester and the nausea was to eat constantly. Now that I’m not sick anymore, I am just super hungry all the time, so ehh whatevs. I don’t necessarily feel “fat” or look “fat,” just pregnant! I also admit that I could work out more than I do now, but since I am super busy with school and still tired a lot I find it hard to find motivation. My shorts from last summer still fit me on the rear, they just don’t button anymore because of my growing belly, so I took that as a sign that I’m probably not doing too bad! Also, I have seen plenty of women gain a LOT of weight during their pregnancies and they don’t have much trouble getting back to pre-baby weight or sometimes even less!
The weight gaining part is tough, but definitely a necessity of pregnancy. I struggled for a while but now I am just trying to embrace my growing belly! It is much easier when you feel baby kicking away in there 😉
Post # 11
Well, I often hear that you’re not really supposed to gain much in your first trimester, but like you, I started gaining early on. I’m now 38 weeks and have gained 44 lbs. I’m not thrilled about it, but people tell me I look good so whatever. 🙂
Post # 12
At 12 weeks I am up 3 lbs. I also started a bit heavier than I normally maintain so I feel like its up even more. Although I did start at a healthy BMI.
I have been only been able to eat carbs and sugar for the most part. Slowly I am able to clean up my diet so I am hoping that I dont gain more than another 3 by my next appointment at 16.5 weeks, which will put me about 6 lbs gain.
I need to get back to some exercise again now that I am feeling better. I have been able to get in some extra walking, but I need to up that now to help manage my weight gain. As well as some light weights. The motivation while I am exhausted is so tough though.
Post # 13
I’m currently 26 weeks and still down 2lbs from my start weight. However, I had to end two cycles with provera prior to getting pregnant, and had some pretty nasty weight gain from that (about 10 pounds each time that I just couldn’t shake), so I like to think it’s just that balancing out that weight that shouldn’t have been there in the first place, and then had pretty gross morning sickness in early pregnancy. My doctor is ok with it since those 20 put me well in to the overweight BMI that doesn’t need to gain as much to begin with.
Post # 14
I’ll be 29 weeks this week and I’ve lost 15 pounds. I was overweight when I got pregnant. I lost 20 pounds but gained about 5 at my last appointment. My docs aren’t concerned with me weight loss and my baby is growing on target.
Weight gain is very different for everyone. I’m sure if they were really concerened they would tell you.
Post # 15
@MusicBee76: I don’t recall how quickly I gained but it was almost like as soon as I got to 8 weeks the pounds started packing on!!! I even cut out fast food (which I ate almost everyday prior to getting pregnant) and I added in long walks everyday (from no exercise before) in total, I gained about 70 lbs by the end. Most was water weight as I dropped 30 by the time I left the hospital and the rest fell off with breastfeed within 4 months of having my daughter. I’ve been at my pre baby weight ever since.
Post # 16
When I first got pregnant (at 130 pounds and 5 foot 7), the idea of putting on 25-35 pounds seemed insanely huge. Now that I’m 33 weeks, ’25 to 35′ (or at least, the ’25’ end of that spectrum) seems laughably small!! I exercise – not as much as I should, but moderately – and I eat reasonably well, healthy stuff, not any fast food or much sugar. But I’ve probably gained about 35 pounds by now at least, and I have 7 weeks to go. Despite all the weight I’ve gained, I don’t feel ‘huge’ at all. I have a little bit more padding overall – but honestly I feel like I have basically the same body I used to have, except with a big belly out front! Maybe I’m delusional and I’ve just been getting bigger so gradually I don’t notice it, haha. Or maybe most of the extra fat is also on my belly(?) but enough people comment that I ‘look so good for how far along I am’ (whatever that means..?), and one notoriously loud-mouthed friend with no filter told me “You do look a tiny bit fatter in addition to your belly, but not much. You know, normal ‘pregnant’ fatter. I mean you don’t have a double chin or anything!” haha..). So I’m kind of confused by the ’25 to 35′ recommendation because I don’t seem to have put on a lot of obvious extra fat, but I’m well on my way to being about 45 pounds heavier when I am full term. I’m honestly not at all worried about it. The baby must need it, if that’s what’s happening, and it will come off with breastfeeding.
So I guess all that is to say, the guidelines are just numbers. Your body composition and your baby’s needs are unique, so the times and rates at which you gain weight and the amount you put on overall are going to be unique to you as well. The best thing to do would be to focus on eating well, exercising a healthy amount, and making sure you feel good! Congrats on your pregnancy 🙂