Post # 1
Hello fellow bees!
This is kind of embarassing — but I don’t fit in my wedding dress anymore.
I’ve got a bad case of widespread endometriosis so I’m on a number of medicines to help my body to simulate menopause and correct some other damages which is also what I think is packing on the pounds. . . A bunch of medicines over 3 years of being engaged. . . I bought the dress before we postponed back in 2015.
I’ve been dieting for about a month now and I’ve made little to no progress. My wedding is in 7 months.
How feasible is it to lose weight before the wedding? Should I be giving up and looking for a new dress? I’m worried letting it out will make it look weird or they won’t be able to let it out enough and I’m not willing to do a corset lace up back.
With my bad health, it’s hard to keep up with a regular workout routine … I’ve tried but I get easily worn out. Just part of my illness.
I’m already avoiding another treatment which would make me gain even more weight… I’m just getting discouraged.
Any bees out there with advice for me?
I’ve included some embarassing photos of just how far I have to go. I’m holding it in as tight as I can…
Post # 2
it’s hard to say, since your illness is obviously complicating a lot of things. if you were healthy, i would say it’s totally doable to lose the weight in 7 months. however, i don’t think i an say that with any authority (nor could anyone here that’s not your doctor, tbh).
that said, as for dieting, i would whole heartedly recommend doing a whole 30 (and continuing to do so for more than 30 days). the super clean eating can do nothing but good things for your health, and oftentimes leads to weight loss as well.
Post # 3
I feel like I’m a broken record all over this message board, but Whole 30 changed my life. It’s the first time in years I’ve been able to lose weight and it all but guarantees you’ll lose weight. Also, I’m usually not a fan of corset backs, but your dress looks like it’d look gorge with a corset and that will give you some leeway!
Post # 4
Hi! First off, congratulations on your wedding 🙂 Secondly, weight loss is doable in 7 months, you can try weight watchers apps for free and focus on diet rather than strenuous exercise. Or if that doesn’t work, how about asking a seamstress to add a corset panel in the back? It’s easier to adjust than letting the dress out. Best of luck, fellow bee!
Post # 5
I’d say based on medications and medical conditions that it might not be possible for you to lose the amount of weight needed to fit in your dress. Since you’ve been trying and haven’t made progress, it might be super hard because of the hormones and medications. I’d look for another dress, still try to maintain a healthy diet, and have a blast at your wedding, without worrying about losing the inches just to get teh current dress to close – you want to be comfortable and confident on your wedding day!
Post # 6
I would go to a good tailor or seamstress first and see if ketting it out us a possibility. If so, you can always work towards losing the weight and get tge deess let out closer ro the date.
If letting it iut and adding a corset are not options, then i would try to reorder the dress in a bigger size or order a new dress altogether. From what i can tell, your dress looks very pretty and you could sell it online to recover some of your expense.
Post # 7
As a fellow chronic illness sufferer, I totally feel your pain. I am mid-flare now with my Cushings and gained a lot of weight in a very short period. I was fortunate that I had ordered my dress from BHLDN and had not had it altered. I was able to exchange it for a different size (overnight shipped to me) and actually ordered another size to have on hand in case the day of the wedding I was feeling bloated.
I know that’s a unique situation to have the ability to have multiple (returnable) back-up dresses, but it shapes my answer. Personally, I would not try to force yourself to lose weight. Seven months seems like a long time, but with an unpredictable illness/medications (I have endo, too) I’d consider finding something that isn’t made-to-order and purchasing that so you don’t stress yourself out. I was SO stressed about my weight, which just added to the issue.
Maybe speak to a seamstress about what it would take to let it out, or about where your measurements would need to be at in order to fit, then give yourself a few months and see where you’re at, and consider a second dress as a backup plan?
I absolutely know how tempting it is not to do a treatment you need because you know it will make you feel worse about yourself physically. I spent so much time worrying about this and am still not psyched with how I looked on my day, but at the end of the day your health is way more important than one day.
I also hope you can get your endo under control — it’s such a nasty beast. 🙁
Post # 8
I’m sorry you’ve been through so much. For what it’s worth, I think that particular dress would look stunning with a corset back… imagine thick satin laces. 🙂
Post # 9
I think you should reconsider a corset back. It would easily solve this problem! Also they should be able to let the dress out a smidge. It’s really hard to count on weight loss with a chronic illness
Post # 10
What is the reason you don’t want a corset back?
Post # 11
I think it would be less stressful for you over the next 7 months if you looked for a back up dress. If you loose the weight- great! But with your health problems, I wouldn’t want so much pressure to HAVE to loose the weight.
Post # 12
On those meds, you’re simply not going to lose the weight that is attributable to them. If you had weight already from poor eating habits, you can clean that up and lose that weight. But forcing your body into menopause is likely to cause weight gain in your middle. The amount of starvation necessary to offset that is unhealthy and unsustainable.
I would start a gentle, daily walk regime, cut down on excessive carbs and white sugar if you haven’t just for your long term health, and look into a corset back even though you don’t want one.
I just don’t think you will enjoy struggling with your body to fit into this beautiful dress (looks like silk satin) otherwise, and bottom line, a happy, healthy bride is a beautiful bride.
Be kind to yourself, this isn’t your fault and it’s more important that you are healthy than you force yourself to fit into this size!! (Fellow endo sufferer here.)
Post # 14
For almost no $$, a seamstress can add a corset back and you will be stunning- I’m so sorry you’re going through this health problem. You will be stunning no matter what!
Post # 15
I think it’s not as easy and diet and exercise when you’re dealing with an illness such as this. hormones do play a huge part in weight loss/gain and with treatment, you can’t always regulate that.
If I were in your position, I would really focus on eating as healthy as I could, and exercising to the best of my ability. Even if its a low impact yoga, walking through the neighborhood, etc- do what you are able to do, consistently up until the wedding. If you make small, consistent changes, you will see an impact!
I would also look into turning this dress into a corset. There’s really no way to know 100% if you’ll be able to fit into the dress before your wedding. Rather than stress out about losing the weight, I would turn it into a corset back so that you have some ‘wiggle’ room. You can have a corset with material behind it, so it’s not showing any skin on your back, if that’s what you are worried about.
I think buying a new dress would be kind of pointless- you still don’t really have an idea of what your final weight will be right before the wedding. I think the corset is your best bet.