Post # 1
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Bumble bee
I don’t know if any other brides can relate but I’ve been feeling a lot of pressure lately to lose weight and the pressure isn’t even coming from myself.
My mom keeps saying thnigs without realizing that they are hurtful…”you better not eat too bad or you won’t fit into your dress…” She is constantly asking me if i’m dieting/going to the gym….
I am 5’8′, 170 pounds. Chubby sure. Fat no. The hilarious part is that I have hardly any self-esteem issues but I feel as though my wedding is bullying me. Does anyone else feel the pressure to be the skinniest, prettiest, most glamourous bride? It’s insane!
Since when did becoming a bride become changing your entire appearance? My fiancee is engaged to me because he loves me how I am right now.
I gained 20 pounds over the last two years and I feel shitty enough about it. I feel like people cross the line between trying to be encouraging and just being mean.
If I walk down the aisle 150 pounds great. If I walk down the aisle 170 pounds so be it.
Does anyone else feel the pressure??
Post # 3
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Helper bee
I am thin and I still feel that pressure! It doesn’t matter what size you are… it something about weddings that people always say those kinds of things! They watch you so closely and think they can put their two cents in. I think you look great! And you are totally right, you fiance loves you for you… not your weight. Just be conscious of what you eat so that you dont gain weight ( I think that’s where most people are coming from, they know that you eat and party before the wedding and they dont want you to GAIN weight and have to buy a new dress) but seriously don’t take those things to heart. I am sure they mean well and would purposely hurt you.
Stand up for yourself and say that you love your shape and your dress will DEFINITELY fit.. haha. And don’t let those comments get to you. Because trust me, your not the only one hearing that!!!
And smile 😀
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
@RoyalPurpleBride: Thanks for the insight! I really feel like sometimes families are even bigger bridezillas then the bride! I feel like a toddler in tiara sometimes lol
Post # 5
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Helper bee
Booo pressure. And the people who are causing it. I think you looked great then and now! I should be getting married next summer and over the past 2 years I lost 38 lbs but I had a bad body image. Now, I could still stand to lose another 15 but I’m okay if it’s not gone by next year. (I didn’t lose it for wedding reasons). As long as you’re confident (which it sounds like you are), who cares what size you are when you walk down that aisle.
Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
The weight I am on my wedding day is the weight I will be. I will not change my weight for the one day of my life that will be less than 24 hours! If I lose, then good, if I gain, that’s also good.
Does this include MEN? Nobody tells the groom to lose weight for the wedding, just the bride… MMMMM? What’s good for the goose should be good for the gander!
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
@bretonvirgniia: My Mom did the same thing to me. I’m 5’9″ and I average around 135 lbs depending on the day. She was constantly critiquing everything I put in my mouth telling me “you have to fit into your wedding dress!!!” I did not diet or do anything related to my weight for the wedding day. I was determined to look like myself (of course with nicer hair/makeup than I could manage) on my wedding day and I was ultimately really happy that I didn’t put that kind of pressure on myself.
You look beautiful in the second pic and you will look beautiful on your wedding day 🙂 Do you have a dress yet?
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
I feel you on the pressure. I’ve been putting the pressure on myself though. I don’t know why. I used to think I was a confident woman, after the past few months I’m really doubting myself. When I was younger I struggled with bulemia and lately all of those urges have resurfaced and I’m slipping back into that mind set. It really sucks! I don’t know why. I think you look amazing. Your curves are killer!
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
@happyface: TRUE! That’s normal everyday life though…women always have WAY higher standards to live up to then men. Argh!!
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
@MrsCarnival: I do have my dream dress! It looks amazing on my shape too 🙂
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
@Brideonabudgetlauren: I think it’s probably a lot of pressure to essentially put a show on in front of 100s of people so a lot of people want to feel their skinniest/prettiest. I’m sure you look amazing! Don’t let your wedding bring you back to a dark place when it’s supposed to be the happiest day of your life!
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
@bretonvirgniia: *GASP* That’s gorgeous. Is it from the new Allure line? It looks like an Allure. I LOVE the sleeves, the lace, the buttons, and the way the waistline drops in the back. Just beautiful.
Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Definitely feeling the pressure. I don’t even want to go try on dresses because I know they would look totally different if I lost 20 pounds which I for some reason feel obligated to do. I am most self conscious about my arms and shoulders. I really don’t want them to look heavy in my pictures. Plus, I feel that my face is huge because of the weight I have gained over the last two years. From 120 to 145.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
@MrsCarnival: Thank you! Yes it’s an allure 1001 from the 2010 or 2011 collection. It’s even more beautiful in person since every 5th button has a cluster of crystals. Suits my vintage wedding perfectly.
I am heavily tattooed so I love having sleeves…I also love being tattooed but didn’t want my tattooes to be the focal point when I walk down the aisle 🙂 I orginially bought Allure C153 so now I have two dresses sitting in my closet lol
I honeslty think it looks better on me then on the model hahahah…. Don’t mistake my confidence for arrogance I just think mermaid shapes look amazing on curvy ladies.
I’d love to see what your dress looks like 🙂
Post # 15
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Busy bee
I’ve gotten a ton of shit, to the point that I don’t even like my dress anymore : ( I feel like I should look like myself on my wedding day, not a completely different person! everything from nails, tanning, hair, skin, weight…very frustrating.
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
@beachbride1216: I feel you on the arm & face issue. Thankfully my dress has sleeves so I don’t need to focus on that too much. My arms have always been a problem area for me even at my smallest. Apparently your face is one of the first places you lose weight when you work out though so that’s good news? Plus having a great makeup artist can really work miracles for face contouring (take Khloe Kardashian as a great example lol)
You also only gained 25 pounds and went to 145…i’m sure it’s more in your mind then anything 🙂