(Closed) Weight Issue=Body Issue

posted 11 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
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1108 posts
Bumble bee

It’s a bother, and I hear it’s pretty common.

I was hoping that as I lost weight, I’d get less crap from people, but no, now they all want to know how I did it, and how I maintain.

I worry that I could be smaller, but at the same time, I’m at a healthy weight, and if I lose “that last 10” or so, I’d be teetering on “underweight” according to the charts.  

I can’t win on either end. 🙁

Post # 4
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990 posts
Busy bee

AWw man – I get the same way – I seriously sometimes could stand in the mirror looking and picking stuff out for hours. So, I just don’t look in the mirror anymore. I should have figured that out LONG AGO!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I used to have an eating disorder, so I completely understand weight obsession. 🙁 I also think the wedding industry puts a lot of pressure on brides to get thin for ONE day. Take care of yourself, I hate to tell you “DON’T OBSESS ABOUT YOUR WEIGHT!” but seriously, don’t. j/k. I don’t know what to say. It’s tough. It happens. 🙁

Post # 7
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1149 posts
Bumble bee

Wow, Ireland, you’ve accomplishe so much!

I too have lost 30lbs and am down a few sizes and I too am more nitpicky about my body now than before.  I’m happier, but still see soooooooooooooo much room for improvement.

For me, it’s being only partway on a longer journey that frustrates me.    I’m extremely impatient, but the truth is I didn’t gain this weight overnight (even though it is soooooooo much easier to gain than to lose) so, I’m not going to lose it overnight, either.  

Since you’ve lost so much, I assume you’ve treated yourself to some new clothes?  If not, do — it does wonders for making me feel great when I have something fun and new to wear which shows off my weight loss a little.

Hang in there!  It takes time and effort but it will be sooooo worth it in the end!

Post # 8
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159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

@ireland – i understand you completly and feel right there with you.  I wear a size 8 too. I’m not a small gal, but not large either. however I feel like i’ve become obsessed with my body image.  If I was happy where I was at, it would be one thing, but i’m not. I honestly feel like its a never ending battle.  I have 2.5 months to the wedding, i’m gonna try to win this battle this time once and for all

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I feel like for years I’ve been in limbo. I’ve probably lost and gained the same 10 pounds in the last 5 years or so.

But lately I broke the 10 pound marker by a little…so I’m trying to to keep losing. Its jsut so hard for me…its like my body just wants to stay at the weight its at. I don’t hate my body, but I know I def. need work, as I’m not by any means thin at all.

Ugh…its so hard

Post # 10
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990 posts
Busy bee

aww Ireland – this is totall natural. It’s exciting that you have done so well! Congrats!  I’ve lost about 10 lbs and I’m stil on the high high end of the overweight scale – dang BMI calculator SUCKS! Have you done toning exercises? Maybe they’ll help you feel a little better!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

The more weight I lose the more nitpicky I become.  I’d always been between the 115 and 122 range, (I’m 5’5), but over the last year and a half I went up to 140 due to various reasons.  Finally I got the kick in the butt that I needed to get serious about weight loss, (my dad said “you look like you’re getting a little chubby”).  yeah, nothing like critisism from your dad to break you down to tears and give you the motivation needed to stick to a weighloss plan.  So far I’ve lost 14 pounds, (in 2 months). I’m down to 126 and although I feel good about the accomplishment and generally feel better about the way I look, I just keep thinking, I’m still bigger than I normally am.  I don’t know what it is with me/women and not being able to love our bodies the way they are.  You rarely see guys being as critical of themselves.  Everyday I have to tell myself that even though I don’t look my best I still look amazing and to keep going.  The goal is at least 6 more pounds.

Post # 12
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159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

@meowkers- how did you loose the 14lbs in 2 months?  Great joB!

Post # 13
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5493 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

@sunnygal – thanks!  I know it sounds like a lot but it’s actually right in the recommended target of 1-2 pounds per week.  I cut out sweets almost completely.  I’ve had bites of birthday cake and a few frozen yogurts here and there but really, no sweets.  I also cut down my portions significantly and just told myself that I don’t need to eat until I feel like i’m stuffed.  I rank my hunger on a scale of 1-10, 1 being about to die of hunger and 10 being so stuffed that my stomach will explode.  I stop eating when I feel like I’m at about a 6.  It takes your brain about 30 minutes to tell your body that you’re really full so at a 6 in reality you’re closer to an 8.  I’ve also stopped snacking.  Instead of snacking I’ve broken up my 3 daily meals into 5.  So what I would normally have for breakfast I eat in two sittings, same goes for lunch.  I feel like I’m eating all day and never get hungry.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I personally feel as if the wedding industry is doing quite well as far as helping people of all sizes because the reality is most women aren’t satisfied no matter where they fit in. I know that a couple girls in my bridal party are tiny and have trouble GAINING weight and also wish they had bigger boobs while I am hippy and also have bigger boobs. The good thing is there are soooo many different types of wedding dresses!! I love it! And I also love that on all the wedding shows, from “Say yes to the Dress” to “Whose Wedding is it Anyway” to “My Fair Wedding” they feature women of EVERY size!! Because the truth is, “normal” is relative:) The body is beautiful! God made us beautiful and we also need to be healthy and that is what matters:)

Post # 15
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Newbee

@Ireland: first of all, congrats on the weight loss.  i’m so sorry it’s become more of an obsession now, but seriously, you should be so proud of your accomplishment!  I don’t have any advice, but I definitely now how it feels to become obsessed with weight.  I’m sure everyone can relate. 

 

@Colleen: I COMPLETELY agree with you.  I think the wedding industry is surprisingly one of the most open to beauty in all shapes.  It’s pretty wonderful.  Though I bet it’s because they make more money not discriminating…lol!

Post # 16
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5262 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yesssss. I think it’s a symptom of struggle with weight my entire life – I was way overweight as a kid and young teen, and then lost 40 lbs my freshman year of high school. Since then I’ve maintained an average weight, and even lost about 15 more lbs gradually, but still feel like the “big girl” when I walk in a room. No matter how many people tell me differently, I see myself as big, and always have excuses for why I should be smaller – usually, because I’m short and have small bone structure, so I can wear smaller sizes but I’m not small. 

Sounds ridic. typed out – guess it’s good to talk about!

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