(Closed) Weight issues- vent session

posted 10 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
18628 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry that you feel so bad about your health!  Honestly, I would try to get your Fiance to eat healthier too, he may be able to eat a bunch of junk right now and not gain a pound but that probably won’t last forever, plus it isn’t good for his overall health even if he stays thin.  I would allow little indulgences every so often but not often.

I would probably make sure that you get a dress that can be altered down and keep trying to lose weight.  I wouldn’t order it too small just in case something happens.

And as for feeling better, I think you just need to realize that you are beautiful.  If you really feel bad about how you used to look, you might want to consider therapy.

Post # 4
384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m a solid 30 pounds over where I’d like to be.  I started at a full 40 pounds over.  I’d love to lose it all before next May, but not at the expense of my sanity.  I started just working out, and then started just controling the meals I don’t share with Fiance (Breakfast and Lunch).  I’m also trying to control my dinner portions.  I’m preparing to order a dress in the next month or so.  I plan to order whatever fits at the time.  If I lose more than a dress size between then and the first fitting I’ll get it taken in and then take it in some more.  I’ve got a seamstress that can work magic.

If you just stick with it, slow and steady, you’ll get there.  Just remember Fiance loves you the way you are.  But I also totally understand the desire to look awesome.  When else are you going to have soooo many pictures taken of you. 

If you stick with it, slowly you’ll change your body into one that feels more like you.

Post # 5
9024 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

i know its hard but u can try to eat different things, he can have fried chicken while u have boiled or grilled.. and so on..

Post # 6
423 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Don’t forget too, that just because he isn’t gaining weight, doesn’t mean it isn’t better for him to eat healthier.  Your organs etc can be fat too, even if you are not showing a lot of visible fat.

Post # 7
1251 posts
Bumble bee

I think you need to change your idea of what healthy food is. Healthy food isn’t about boiled chicken (ick!) You can use spices to turn boring chicken into cajun chicken, make oven-fried chicken using Fiber One as breading, all kinds of things.

Making healthy food for him is like giving him a gift. Even if he isn’t overweight, fatty foods aren’t good for anyone.

Post # 8
1254 posts
Bumble bee

Miss Baz I am glad you started this thread because I feel better knowing that I am not alone. I have less than a year to get in shape. My wedding is May 7 too. SuperBrook we are date twins!!! 🙂 Anyway, I digress. So I’ve been at it for the last couple of months (diet/exercise) and found that setting a goal for 1-2 lbs a week is easier to handle than setting a goal for the total amount of weight that needs to be lost. Somehow, chipping away slowly is easier for my brain to grasp than taking large hacks.

Also, counting calories has helped me from feeling deprived. I still get to eat what I want but in portions small enough so that I don’t go over my total allowance for the day (1400 calories). I realized that often times, just taste of it is enough to satisfy my cravings. After a while, I’ve stopped having cravings for those types of food. Every once in a while, I will have the cravings, but not as often as before.

Keep at it and slowly but surely like SuperBrook says.


Post # 9
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

well, its good that you have a year to get into shape!

Post # 10
1251 posts
Bumble bee

Also, I am on Weight Watchers and it really is awesome. It’s a ton easier than counting calories, and I actually kind of love going to meetings. Some meetings really suck, but when you find a good one it’s really fun.

Post # 12
2820 posts
Sugar bee

Best wishes!  There’s lots of healthy recipies on here and other websites that will help you vary your diet more than boiled chicken and broc.  So hopefully he won’t even mind.   But even if he’s not gaining weight, lots of fried foods can do damage without putting on the lbs, so maybe it’ll be good for him try some of the recipies too. 

I wouldn’t worry too much about the dress.  I bought mine off the rack and got it altered several sizes down.  You don’t need to get it altered till just like 2 months or even 1 1/2 before the wedding.  So it should be fine. 

Post # 13
549 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

dont stress!!! You can do this, and you need to believe that you can!  I’m in the SAME boat, and have been trying to lose weight for over a year… slowly but surely!  Sounds like you need to get some healthy, yummy recipe books… I LOVE the Biggest Loser books… the food is incredible, and Fiance doesn’t even care that he is eating healthy food… in fact, he asks me to make many of the recipes in the book because they are sooo good!  What kinds of food do you like?  PM me, and I can send you a few recipes to try 🙂

Post # 14
4383 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@JenniBride: Exactly what I wanted to say!

Just because he isn’t gaining weight absolutely does not mean that he is healthy. You should get healthy together!

Post # 15
1752 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Miss Baz, I was where you were about a year and a half ago.  I went to my OBGYN’s office, with the dreaded weigh in, and weighed more than I ever had in my life.  My life had become too busy, and I got lazy & I loved snacks.  I knew that I had to make a change.

I started going to the gym.  For six months I went to the gym, 4-5 days a week, and no change… I lost maybe 4 pounds.  My jeans were still tight, and I was depressed.  One day I was looking online, reading a fitness webpage, and someone mentioned an online food diary… so I started my search.  I found one where I could log my food and workouts for free (there are a lot of them out there).  And I started seeing dramatic weightloss. 

My wedding was 11 months after I started logging my calories & I was 65 pounds lighter.  I was still further from  my goal than I wanted to be, but it was a huge difference!

Important things for you to know.. this isn’t a diet.. it’s a change in how you deal with food.  At the same time, your life does not have to be all boiled chicken and broccoli.  I had cheat days on Friday where I’d have pizza if I wanted and I would have a few drinks with friends.  I had an ounce of chocolate each night after dinner with tea.  It’s all about watching your calories & it’s about balance.  You can have pasta, you just have to carefully measure it out.  1 serving of pasta is only about 180-210 calories.  Fill the rest of the plate with veggies, top with a red sauce and you are talking about a 450 calorie dinner, that’s perfect.

Please PM me if you need support.  I have been there, and I would love to help others get there too.

Post # 16
1325 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You should definietly check out http://www.sparkpeople.com and spark recipes (dunno the URL).  It’s a GREAT free website!  And the recipe section has tons of healthy recipes that taste amazing! 

you can still eat the bad foods, but in moderation, or find a way to make them healthier =) 

And I know exactly how it feels.  I’m a good 40 pounds away from being comfortable with my weight. 

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