Post # 1
in a year I gained 25-30 pounds. I know I look horrible. Ive had a lot of stressful things going on in my life and I kind of let myself go. I’m 21, 5’5″ and went from being a cute little size 2 sitting roughly at 127 lbs to who knows what actual size and sitting at 155-60 on a bad day. a few months ago I knew my mom would be coming to visit from overseas and I figured I would be getting engaged. I started the myfitnesspal calorie counting app and fell in love. Lost about 10 pounds in a week and a half. I got hooked and did it for almost 2 months. But after that 10 pounds I plateaued and eventually gave up and gained the ten pounds back. I got engaged, then my mom came and we went to try on wedding dresses. And mind you, I was freaking out and nervous as hell. Maybe partly because I was about to be trying on WEDDING DRESSES, but also because I was going in to see how fat I really was. It did not help that they put other crap on me before putting dresses on that essentially made me look larger. I looked awesome in all my prom dresses two years ago and i looked in that mirror with the first dress on and I was done. I didn’t want to try anything else on at all. But I did and tried not to cry. I refused to look at what size dresses I was put in and didn’t bother to ask. I am so disappointed in myself. Everyone tells me I look the same. And i know they’re lying their asses off. I’m just feeling terribly in the dumps about myself. I’m going to try the calorie counting thing again and then work my ass off the get over a plateau again. But I refuse to try on dresses again until I get in somewhat of a decent shape. There’s no way I can go through that again. Thanks to anyone to reads or responds to this. Just needed to vent about my issues with myself. (:
Post # 2
FuturemrsMits: ok. You’re 21, and (I assume) fairly healthy.
If you liked MFP please do NOT loose more than 2 lbs / week or net less than 1200 cals / day.
You plateaued and regained because you were starving your body so it held on to everything – famine alert!
you regained because your lifestyle wasn’t sustainable. You started eating more and your body got happy but rememberEd the tough times so it saved, just in case.
So now you have to retrain your metabolism and make small cuts so you can lose safely and sustainablY.
Go to communit.myfitnesspal.com. Read the stickies. Read the success stories and the how to lose weight forum. Learn as much as you can and start making changes that will be sustainable and maintainable.
Good luck — you can do this!
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2017 - California
FuturemrsMits: I can totally relate. I’ve gained alot of weight over the past several years and made some really great progress earlier this year only to gain it all back (and probably more).
I hate looking at myself in the mirror and my self-confidence is completely shot. 🙁
And now that the holidays are here, dieting will be even harder and that just makes me feel hopeless.
Anyway, I just wanted to tell you that you’re certainly not alone and I’m here if you ever need to vent more! Good luck trying again! Sending you lots of good vibes.
Post # 4
bitsybee: I even went into the mfp threads be read what other people were saying. When I started I went with the recommend 1200 cal a day restriction, lost more than was recommend somehow and then when I plateaued I read even more threads and saw to get over a plateau was to take a few days off and eat normal without counting and try again. It didn’t work. So that’s when I gave up. I used to be decently healthy before. I didn’t have a weight issue at all and it was extremly easy to maintain my weight or if I gain like 5 pounds it would come off just like that. I’ve had people tell me its my age, I’m getting older. But it’s like really? I’m not like old enough to have a hard time losing weight. I believe it’s mainly stress. my doctors seem to think nothing of it and just acknowledge that I’ve gained weight and am now basically obsese. Haha. Thanks for replying!
Post # 5
bitsybee: this right here- best advice :).
FuturemrsMits: 1-2 lbs (2 being max) loss per week is healthy, anything over that is not healthy.
Post # 6
Brides come in all shapes and sizes and it just takes finding the right dress. Dresses don’t exist to humiliate their wearers; they’re supposed to enhance their wearers. No one “fails” to fit a dress; the dress fails to fit them. The right dress should make you appreciate the body you have and make you believe that no one could wear that dress quite like you do, thanks to your unique shape.
I know it’s really really hard to embrace your body after a change, especially if you perceive it as “worse” than your old body. It’s not. It’s just different. It’s awfully unfair of yourself to say that you’ll only appreciate who you are if you wear a certain size or look a certain way. That doesn’t mean you can’t change your body if you want to change it, but change–real change–comes from confidence and self-respect, not desperation and self-loathing. So you need to find a way to love yourself RIGHT NOW, even if “loving yourself” is more lip-service for the time being. Go ahead and perform that lip service: stop yourself from putting yourself down and force yourself to be nice to yourself. Catch your bad thoughts; replace them with good ones. Fake it, until you make it. Because, in the end, it’s not really faking it in the sense that you are not ugly, fat, or monstrous–that’s literally a fictional script you’ve been feeding yourself. I’m saying you need to flip that script.
It’s not hopeless, although weight loss will take time and patience. In order to feel at peace with that reality, you have to be honest and gentle with yourself because you have to believe you are capable of achieving a goal in order to do it. You will have a lot more trouble with weight loss if you demand you achieve a goal and tell yourself you’re worthless at the same time. You aren’t. You’re not ugly; you’re not fat; you’re loved and worthy of love, most of all from yourself. So when you find yourself frustrated, start there.
Post # 7
FuturemrsMits: 🙁 sorry To hear that.
Can you try to manage your stress somehow? I stress gain and if I do a lot of yoga and meditation and bubble baths, it keeps the lbs away. Also enough sleep helps too
Maybe try some different things and see what works for your body?
Post # 8
BothCoasts: all of this. I’m printing it and putting it on my mirror. Thanks for the words of love and kindness.
Post # 9
I agree with BothCoasts. People, especiallly young girls should learn to love and accept themselves and their bodies more.
Post # 10
I definitely hear you. I’ve gained about the same amount in the past year too. Its deflating, especially when you know your fiance has seen you at better. What’s your MFP username? Maybe we could keep each other accountable and encourage each other!
Post # 11
You can do it! “failing” ONE time at weight loss really doesn’t mean anything. Try, try again.
Post # 12
it is healthy to lose a LB a week, nothing more. Eating more small meals a day is good, and give yourself a cheat day! your body needs them.
And i hear ya! Ive gained 10 lbs in the last year and its gona be a BITCH to get off.
and i HATE HATE HATE cardio with a passion. Id rather do squats and deadlifts all day
Post # 13
FuturemrsMits: ever thought of getting your thyroid checked? i was about 130lbs and i gained a ton of weight. i attributed that to stress. wrong. it was thyroid cancer. not trying to freak you out but its good too to get some blood work done etc just to make sure you are 100% healthy as well.
Post # 14
I’m really unhappy with my weight now too and it’s affecting other areas of my life, including my relationship. I lost ~30 lb earlier in the year, then gained all of it back after becoming pregnant. It’s making me so depressed and ashamed =| I suppose that doesn’t help much lol
Post # 15
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
Sorry but…I don’t think you should be telling yourself, OR others, that 5’5″ at 155-60lbs is “obese”. It’s not. For some individuals and their bone structure it may be tipping over into “overweight”, but not everyone, and it’s certainly not obese.