Post # 1
Hello all! I’m a waiting bee, with the idea that SO will propose at some point in the next year. I’m very excited!
I’m also on a diet and exercise plan, trying to lose weight for my own health and happiness. I’ve lost about 12 lbs so far, and have ~30-40 lbs to go, with any luck. I’m trying to figure out how my weight loss will impact my ring size, as the ring I want has a micropave band, and I know that micropave gets less secure if you resize it…
My fingers aren’t super slender, but I don’t feel like they have a significant amount of extra fat on them — my knuckles feel pretty bony, so I don’t imagine they will get much smaller…I just don’t want the ring to end up being too big, but I also don’t want my SO to wait to buy the ring and propose until after I lose the weight just so we can ensure it’s the right size, because losing that much weight could realistically end up taking 1-2+ years.
I’m currently a size ~5.75-5.5, both before and after I lost the 12 lbs. All the stores we went to had size 6 rings on display, which slide on and off easily (a bit more easily than I would feel comfortable with for my engagement ring), and I was measured at all of those places as being in the 5.something range. My ring sizer at home from MoCo is ~5.5.
Do you think it’s safe to plan to get a size 5.5 engagement ring? And if it gets too loose, maybe put a tighter small ring on top of it to keep it from sliding? Or should I really wait a while longer to see what my fingers do?
(I’ve attached a photo of my hand in case that’s helpful — sorry if it’s super big). Any help/experience about this would be amazing! Thanks bees!
Post # 2
I lost around 30lbs after getting engaged and I have noticed my ring is slightly looser but not to the point that it slides up my finger or makes me feel like it’ll fall off. I plan to lose a little more weight before my wedding and I was worried at first but now i’m thinking I should be fine and might just get a smaller ring to put on top. I dont think your ring size will change drastically.
Post # 3
nalastardust : There are some old threads on this topic on the bee. It depends on how your weight is distributed but approximately a 20 pound loss will result in a 1/4 ring size reduction.
Post # 4
I can tell you that I have thin fingers and I fluctuate between 130 and 160 pounds: I got my ring at close to 160, and when I’m around 130 it’s almost loose enough to want to go down a size but not quite.
Post # 5
I would size for what comfortably fits now. And if you need to you can size, or use sizing beads. I tend to use sizing beads since I have had kids and my finger size goes up and down a lot.
Post # 6
bride22bee : Congratulations on your weight loss! Good to know that your size hasn’t changed that much too, that’s very helpful.
delphinia : Oops I’m sorry, I didn’t see those! I apologize for redundancy. I appreciate your response though, that’s good information to keep in mind.
Verona : Oh okay, great! That’s almost exactly the same situation as I’m hoping to have too, actually (currently ~160, would like to be ~130). Thank you!!
jcent : Ooooh yes I forgot about sizing beads. Perfect, that’s a really good solution. Thanks so much!
Post # 7
Over the past 30 years my weight has been somewhere between 140-180 lbs. I’ve always worn a size 7 but recently lost 14 lbs and I’m now slightly under a size 7. Your fingers might get thinner when getting older
Post # 8
My ring size went from a 4.75 to a 5.25 when I gained weight after having kids. It’s stayed at a 5.25. That said, I had a ring I used to wear that was a 5.25 and it fit just fine when I was 40 pounds lighter than I am now, and still fits…I do prefer my wedding rings a bit tight so they don’t fall off, which is why the wedding ring size changed, but I used to be able to wear tht 5.25 back in high school 40 pounds ago and I still could wear it now. I doubt your size will change TOO much more.
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle
At my heaviest (outside of pregnancy) my ring size was 5.5. I lost 28lbs several years ago; it went to a 5 and stayed there, even after I gained some of that lost weight back. I’d get what you can comfortably wear now.
Post # 10
nalastardust : Also, just be aware of what the inside of the planned ring’s shank will be like. Will it be flat with an edge on each side, or will it curve away from your finger on each side? If it’s the curved variety, you may even want to go down to 5.25. MOST people will need to go down 1/4 size if the inside of the ring is curved (and the shank is ~2mm, which is becoming pretty standard these days.)
I have a pave band on my ering and had sized myself off a flat-edged ring at 4.25. Then I got the ering and it was so big it was flopping all over constantly and felt like it could slide off when wet! Unfortunately, you can really only resize pave shanks about 1/4 size, so now it’s a size 4, when really I’d like it to be a little tighter.
I’d just hate for you to get a 5.75 or 5.5 only to find out you’re actually a 5 but can only resize the ring 1/4 size.
Also, keep in mind the sizers at jewelry stores and the ones you get in the mail are all usually 3mm or wider. If your ring is going to be thinner than that, you’ll need to size down a little from what the sizers tell you.
For instance, if you size yourself on a 4mm-wide, flat-edged sizer as being a 5.5, in a curved-edge 2mm wide ring, you’d be closer to a 5.
Post # 11
My weight fluctuates between 120-144lbs and ai haven’t needed to get mine resized as yet; the difference is similar to the difference between hot/cold weather, maybe 1/4 size? It does affect people differently though so if you do plan to lose quite a bit more maybe wait until you’ve lost say another 5-10lbs, or order a slightly smaller size?
Post # 12
I got engaged (broken engagement) back in 2011 and I weighed about 115 lbs at the time, I wore a 3.75 ring.
I got engaged this time around in January 2017 and weighed about 142 lbs, and still wore a 3.75
I have since lost about 18 lbs and am down to 126, and I still wear a 3.75
Post # 13
I went on a pre wedding weight loss kick, and while I don’t weight myself, I estimate I went down about 20-30 pounds. I lost 30 inches on my overall body measurements. Pre weight loss, I got sized for an engagement ring, and I was a size 7. After the weight loss, I got measured at a size 6, and had my ring resized. I have a platinum pave engagement ring, and was able to have it resized no problem.
Post # 14
duchessgummybunns : Oooh good point! I don’t believe this is a flat ring, I think it’s curved… And it’s ~2mm or less. Maybe I should go to another jewelry store and get sized one more time with those things in mind, and see what they recommend. The size 6 rings at the store fit fine and they didn’t fly off my finger or anything, but they were able to slide off without any effort, which isn’t what I want in an engagement ring. So maybe I should consider 5-5.25 as well…
Although everyone here saying they mostly stayed the same size is reassuring! This is all so helpful everyone! And pigpug10 : , congrats on your weight loss and I’m glad that you were able to get your pave ring sized down a whole size and it didn’t affect the integrity of the stones! I really don’t want to have to deal with stones falling out, so I’m nervous about that… But maybe resizing isn’t impossible with pave after all!
Post # 15
nalastardust : over the last 6 years having my ring I have never sized it. I was 145 pounds when I got engaged and 210 when I gave birth. I’m now 155 (damn those last 10 pounds) and I’ve kept my ring at a 6.25 since I got it. I will say that I prefer my rings a tad bit loose since I swell occasionally. I wore my rings my entire pregnancy with no issue.
On the other hand… my friend got engaged about 6 months ago. She was a size 8. She recently dropped 15 pounds and 1.5 ring sizes. So it’s different for everyone