- 1 year ago
My best friend had weight loss surgery about a year and a half ago and I am EXTREMELY proud of the success she has had with it. She has ALWAYS been a beautiful person inside and OUT and would drop whatever she was doing in a second if you were having a crisis. A few months back she found out her longtime boyfriend and father of her children was having an affair with a married woman that was a friend, this has been tormenting her for MONTHS (understandable). My friends and I have listened and cried WITH her over her heartbreak because at some point in our lives we have experienced this situation. It’s devastating! We also have asked her what her plans are (leave him or stay). Both extremely complicated situations. She is still with him at the moment but states she wants to leave and get her own place. They still sleep together and go out places together (confusing).
The past 2 months she has been “acting out” I guess you could say. Talking and sending nudes to strange men on weird websites and striking up conversations with OLD friends from back in our highschool days on Facebook. Some of these old friends (Men) are now married with young school age children. I have been VERY CLEAR to her about my thoughts on marriage and infidelity. I think it is an indefensible act to cheat on someone, NO EXCUSES, it is the cowards way out. She had the very SAME opinion at one point in time. And she is well aware of my disapproval about sending nudes and talking to married men when she herself is still in a relationship.
Fast forward to this week… She confides in me that she booked a hotel room the other night and slept with a married man with 2 young children and that she feels so much better about her boyfirend cheating on her now! I was SHOCKED to say the least. Who IS this person?? I straight up told her “That’s messed up!” and that I don’t agree with her actions at all but that it’s not my life. She quickly tried to make a case defending what they did because the guys wife was supposedly an abusive alcoholic but I shut it down real quick. I just don’t understand how she could do that to another person when she JUST went through that heartbreak herself! Since her weightloss she has turned into someone totally different. I have never been extremely overweight before so maybe I CAN’T understand what she’s going through. I love her VERY much but I can’t wrap my head around this situation. She has suffered with depression and low self esteem since our teenage years and I was THRILLED that she FINALLY felt sexy. But it seems to me that she fixed the outside but not the inside. I am beside myself right now. I am just disgusted by the fact that she could do that to another human after experiencing it herself. I feel like with her weight loss she lost her moral compass. Any advice?? Thoughts???
I forgot to add that she was seeing a therapist before the surgery and just stopped afterwards like that solved all her problems.