- 6 years ago
- Wedding: January 2010
Hello everyone! I’m a former wedding bee member from a few years ago and decided to return to the hive 🙂 albeit a bit more discreetly this time around. After trying a few other pregnancy/mommy message boards, I knew I needed to come back to a place where I would get honest but supportive feedback.
I’m looking for some real world advice here. I’m currently working hard to lose the weight I’ve put on over the last few years in order to have a healthy pregnancy and be a healthy woman – for myself, my husband, and everyone who loves me. I was never a ‘heavy’ girl, but as the years went by the weight crept on ten pounds here, ten pounds there and I found myself in a place where I no longer had energy or confidence. Something had to change! 🙂 I’ve done very well and really enjoy my new lifestyle (which is a return to healthy eating and exercise, just like back in my early 20’s). That being said, I am not scheduled to hit my goal weight until Christmas time, a date which I felt pretty comfortable with.
That being said, my husband and I had decided to TTC this fall regardless of where I was at weight wise. We have been talking about this, looking forward to it for months. Now that the time has arrived, he came to me to say that he feels I’ve done really well weight loss wise and wants to support that… by letting me choose to either TTC now or wait until I’ve hit my goal.
I’m really torn by this. I had not even entertained this idea until he said something. He also made sure to tell me he IS still ready, wants to start trying, but feel like it’s my body, my decision (God help me, I am so in love with him for moments like that!) I know to some it’s only a few months, but to me I feel as though we have been waiting for this a very long time. I am not a spring chicken, I’ve never been pregnant or tried to be, and there is a part of me that feels like we should stick to our plan to try now and see what happens… and another part of me that thinks it would be better to get to my ‘goal weight’ now that the idea was put into my head.
I’m not in the category (now, I was before) where my current weight would be an issue if I were to get pregnant, based on what I have been told by my doctor. He said three months ago to go for it whenever, just eat right and stay active as best as I can while pregnant.
Anyone had a similar struggle or decision? I’m not asking to have someone else tell me what to do… It’s just that don’t have anyone in my life who relates to this situation and I really need some support.
(thanks for reading my novel)