Post # 1
I’m new to the scene but I need some advice. I have been trying to lose weight for awhile now. Okay so……my son is almost 3 and I have been trying to lose weight since he was born. I have no motivation. I think I do and then I just never stick with it. My boyfriend and I are talking about marriage……not yet engaged……but looking for the right ring…..and I have to lose this weight. I’m around 190 and I want to get back down to my weight before my son at 155 or even maybe a little less. Maybe around 140!!! I really need to do something. I make excusses for myself constantly! I just started back to college and I am in my first term. My son is going to be 3 in May and my boyfriend is an OTR trucker. In other words it is like being a single mom working a full-time job and going to school full-time. It’s hard to make time to work out. I had myself on a routine and my son on a routine but then it got mess up and I just can’t back to it. I lost 15 pounds and I need some advice….how do I get back to that routine and how do I lose the weight! We set our date for next July 23rd, but I want to try dresses on and see how they look when I am the size I want. HELP!! Please!
Post # 3
I was in a very similar situation. My daughters dad worked on the road and I worked and went school, so I felt like a single mom too. I am still struggling to lose some weight now but it is because I moved and gained some back. I had no time for a work out schedule then but I tried to stay very active with my daughter, who was 3 at the time. I would take her to the park and instead of just watching her play I would run around and play with her. We tried to spend as much time outside playing and doing yard work as we could possibly stand. I cut way back on foods I knew where not helping and when I snacked I made sure it was veggies or something of the sorts. I just tried to be smart and sensible about what I ate and at any chance tried to be active. Heck I use to lay on the floor with my daughter and lift her over my head or try to pick her up with my legs, that actually made me a little sore the following days. I look at it like every little bit helps but you really have to put in a conscious effort.
Post # 4
Thanks! Ya I have been trying to spend time outside with lil’ man but it’s hard some days with school! But I could do exercises with him! Thats awesome! Thanks!!!
Post # 5
I am also in a similar situation as you ladies. My fiance works seven days a week and I am full-time student. I had my daugher 1 year ago and I am finally 3lbs away from what I used to weight before getting pregnant. I was 164 when I gave birth and I’m down to 128. I know that it’s recommended that you eat small healthy meals several times a day to speed up your metabolism but that didn’t work for me. It might sound bad but I’ve cut down to one small meal a day, no juice, only water, exercise maybe once a week and I’m losing a lb a week. I can’t believe it. I even feel lighter. I have no time to go to the gym every day and I have almost noone to watch my daughter. Just find what works for you and try to stick to it. Good luck!
Post # 6
I know it is tough to get healthy. You should concentrate on what you are eating. The majority of weight loss occurs when you create a calorie deficiency (by eating fewer calories than your body needs to maintain your weight). If you eat 500 fewer calories than your BMR a day, you will lose a pound a week. You can find more info about this here. Never go below 1,200 calories in a day though! You can track your calorie intakes on sparkpeople.com.
Post # 7
Ok I’m not a mom (unless you count a 75 lb furbaby!) but I do go to school full-time and work part-time so I have a small inkling of how busy you are!
My best suggestion, focus on your diet more than the exercise as diet is about 80% of weight loss and takes less time.
Second, plan your meals ahead of time. Dedicate one night every week (I choose Sunday) after your son goes to bed and plan the dinners you will be eating for the week. I use sparkrecipes because the recipes come with nutrition info and you can get nutrition info on your own recipes. Knowing what you will be eating every night will cut down on dinner time and you will be eating healthier and cheaper (no stops at the fast food place).
When I grocery shop I only get what I need to prepare my dinners. Then I add low fat dairy (milk, yogurt), bread, and lots of fruits and veggies. When I get home I wash and prep all the food (cut up veggies). If chicken breasts or ground turkey are on sale I stock up like crazy. Then I split the meat into invdividual freezer bags so they are easy to defrost every day. Maybe you could turn healthy grocery shopping into a game with you son??
Like I said, I have no kids so I don’t know how well this plan would work for you. I do know that planning ahead allows me to eat much healthier, and cheaper!
Post # 8
I absolutely agree that diet needs to be first followed by exercise. I had to lose almost 50lbs before I was comfortable enough to exercise and not be in pain(joints) after the fact for days. I was in a similar boat. It was rough for me because I have never had to deal with not being able to lose the weight easily. Per my doctors suggestion I went on a modified low carb diet. It wasn’t as hardcore as atkins but it was there. I started in November at 236 and today I weighed in at like 182. I now bike ride everyday with my youngest son(3) in a seat behind mine, he’s getting ready to move up to a trailer though. I try to bike everyday at least 4 miles. On the way back home we stop at the park so he can play. There are lots of things there for me to use to help get my muscles toned now too. Just be creative.
Good luck! I know it feels like it’s going to take forever or you can’t do it but you totally can!
p.s keep a food diary! No matter what route you choose to go down for a diet keep a diary! Also make sure that you measure out portions so you can keep an accurate count. It’s a pain but it’s worth it in the end.
Post # 9
I’m also not a mom, but I have been losing weight pretty consitently for a year. However I started trying a year and a half ago.
You know what changed six months in? I started logging all of my calories. I found a great website called “nutrimirror” & you can log your food and exercise. It was amazing how QUICKLY food adds up in calories.
I started noticing dramatic changes. Now that I got a LOT of weight off, progress is slow. Esp. since we just came out of winter, and my body didn’t want to give up any insulation in the winter.
And yes, the rule is that if you are 1000 calories under your goal for the day, this should result in a 2 pound per week loss. Unfortunately for me, now that I’m 60 lbs down, I have to stay about 400-500 cals under just to maintain. I make this happen by still eating around 1500 cals a day, and working out for 400-500 calories a day.
My routine. I work out from 530am-630am Monday thru Friday, and I go to the gym for an hour and a half on Saturdays. I do about 80% cardio & 20% weights. I eat around 1500 cals aday, and like I said, work off about 400-500 thru strict exercise.
Good luck!!! It takes TIME nothing comes off quickly. Its taken me about 8.5 months to lose 60 lbs. I’m still not at my “goal”, but I’m getting real close! Just don’t lose your patience, it takes a LOT of patience!!!
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Thank you to everyone you all had good suggestions….I’m just wishing i would wake up one morning and it would be gone! not going to happen I know but a girl can dream!
Thanks to everyone!
Post # 12
I lost weight on South Beach, and have been able to keep it off, for the most part. I gained weight after college (disposable income + legally able to drink = disaster to the waistline) and have been trying to lose the weight since. I’m down about 25 pounds, which is about what I gained. Since January 09, I’ve lost about 20 pounds, and I was NOT following South Beach the whole time.
However, I will say that it depends on your body. South Beach works for me because I have a HUGE sweet tooth and carb lover (I had sugar free ice cream for lunch today…so not healthy and not what South Beach prescribes, but it was delicious!) and I tend to gain weight in my belly. It’s a hard diet to follow, but I really like it, and it works for me!
Post # 13
Ok, so- this is what has really helped me:
I started out by counting calories. I ate 2000 a day and started to see changes- Prior to this venture I must have been eating way more and not realizing.
Then I went down to 1500 a day. I have seen a lot of changes. I focus on eating healthy and thinking of it as “for my health.” Eventually I just got into the swing of healthy eating. Every once in a while I still cut loose.
I also switched to non-stressful exercise. What I mean is- I take my dogs for a walk or hike instead of making myself do a strict routine that I don’t enjoy (because those never last more than two months for me). Also, I try to stay busy and get enough sleep. If I am tired or stuck around the house, it is much more difficult.
Remember- baby steps…
Post # 14
Wow, so much inspiration here! I’ve been dreading dress fittings too, and I’ve 4 bms that just don’t get it. They’re all disney princess about it.
But it’s just amazing to read some of you, 60lbs in less than a yr! I’ve 60 lbs to lose, and 54 weeks to do it, and I’d been totally doubting my ability to get there! God knows, it’s simple really, isn’t it, Eat Less, Move More!!
Also, the exercise is a lot more important than you might think, lots of interesting studies detailed on NY Times website, lately a lot about the helpful effects of exercise on your metabolism, how it will really help keep it off…. And I def want great arms in my dress! Let’s do this!
Post # 15
My best piece of advice is that you can’t out-train a poor diet. Making small, but smart, changes in your diet will make a huge difference in your body, i.e., eating *clean* limited processed, pre-packaged foods, whole-grains (and not just wheat grains), plenty of lean protein, and getting most of your carbs from fruits, veggies, and whole grains will help you more than you think! It is really easy to spot a body that is the result of a lot of starchy carbs and processed foods – they generally retain more water, and look softer and squishier.