- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
Almost every day I’ve been assaulted! Lose 20# in 30 days! Look your best for your wedding! Bridal Bootcamp! Glossy skinny models in dresses that look too heavy for them are flying into my email, my facebook…everywhere!
Why after he/she proposed to you, would you then want to do everything to change your body that he/she fell in love with? They want to spend the rest of their life with you as you are now! There is no condition with the ring. “Marry me, and be my best friend, but you need to lose 20# by the wedding day” And if that was the case, you shouldn’t be marrying that loser anyways!
My issue with all this, is that this is a normal thing! It’s a Million if not Billion dollar industry that just stresses out all brides! I need to lose (insert weight amount here) I hear it from practically EVERY bride! Why? Because the industry tells you so? Because the dress company naturally asks you how much you are planning on losing when you are fitted for your dress? Why is that a natural thing to ask?? Why add the stress of losing weight and being unhappy and eating carrots and water and working out NONSTOP till your day to the point where you can’t even enjoy it!
You look beautiful as is…he/she thought so! Why do we beat each other up and ourselves?
I was a size 12 (my perfect body) when I met Mr. Holiday and 8 years and medical issues and other things I gained weight to the point I’m a size 18 now. He doesn’t love me any less and yes I’ve been trying to lose it for now 2.5 years and everybody asks me “how much are you planning on losing for the wedding”? And, my answer is “none” He loves me for me, he has seen me through all the ups and the downs. The bad and the good. He has seen me on the bathroom floor so sick I’d rather stay there and die and he has seen me so high on life I’m floating.
You should be able to say that as well, especially if you are getting married!
Don’t get me wrong, I have my own insecurities! But, I hear/read all these LOVELY ladies that are just talking about their body like it’s a disease! Comments about their arms and hips and thighs and feet… cheeks, necks, chins….so many things they just worry over. But think of it this way, he/she is holding onto those hips and arms lovingly. He/she is kissing and nuzzling those cheeks, necks and chins and I can guarantee you he is not thinking.. hmm she needs to tone this up, or says “wow a lot of cottage cheese there, I should let her know that’s not ok” No they aren’t thinking that at all! So, why should we???
So here is my question.
Why is the world so obsessed with brides losing weight for their wedding day?