(Closed) Weight Obsession

posted 8 years ago in Fitness
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

For me it’s about looking and feeling my best on my big day. All you have back to look upon is your pictures and your memories and I want to look confident in my pictures. It has nothing to do with losing weight because that’s what people say you should do, i personally feel more confident whenI have been exercising, which also happens to be a way to reduce stress for me,

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think in a world where models are size 0 and fashion is at it’s height there’s no wonder why brides are pressured to loose weight for their big day. Peer pressure is a very strong thing and we’re all subconciously trained to think that celebrities are perfection and therefore we must emulate them and so people go to extreme lengths to do that – whether that be to lose weight or to have plastic surgery. We’re so obsessed with the “perfect” woman that everyone seems to neglect that fact that we’re all healthy and happy and really what more can you ask for? 

Living in the UK where we’ve been labelled as the fattest country in Europe you tend to see this a lot. Everywhere you’re being told about the latest diet and the newest fad on how to look good. I think so long as you’re happy and your health isn’t in danger then who cares what other people think?

Good on you for not giving in! Personally I want to tone up my arms and legs but only because they’re going to be on display and I like working out!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

My issue with the whole industry is that I feel there are two ends of the spectrum: the dangerously obese, and the dangerously thin. On one hand, our culture promotes obesity. We advocate unhealthy eating, huge buckets of buttered down popcorn at movies, drive-thrus, lack of fitness, etc. But on the other hand, we get slammed with media images of girls (and guys) who are photoshopped to weights that aren’t even physically possible/healthy. Even thin celebrities get altered to look pounds lighter, so our sense of what’s “thin” or “healthy” is totally skewed. 

It’s so hard to find a balance that doesn’t promote one of these ways of thinking. It’s not okay to just be complacent with being overweight and out of shape, but healthy isn’t the same as stick thin. I see family members who are okay with being obese because they can run a mile – but that doesn’t mean that they’re healthy inside. On the flip side, I see girls that think it’s okay to eat 500 calories a day to lose weight. 

It’s really too bad that our society doesn’t preach more to health and fitness instead of “thin” or “fat” – and that we don’t make understanding nutrition and health more of a priority. 

Post # 7
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485 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree with you. I see a lot of posting on here of people bitching about their thighs and bellies when there is nothing to bitch about. The insecurities are amazing. Sometimes I feel down on myself after looking through a magazine or watching TV but I try to not let it get to me and just stay focused.

I myself was slightly overweight so I decided I wanted to be healthy and have been going to the gym for the past 3 months. I am not looking to lose weight just to please my Fiance but I want to be strong and healthy and enjoy a very long life with him.

Post # 8
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236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

FH and I are working out together because we love each other and a wedding is a good reason for a goal. He does my silly dvd workouts and I spot him on the weights he picked up at a garage sale. I am loving this part of the wedding “planning”. I really love when we do Taebo and he talks along “6 and 7 and 8 GET AMPED!”. It’s honestly some of the only time we really get to spend together not multitasking other things. We used the wedding as an excuse.

That said you are completely right. Outside of health reasons, it pisses me right off when our culture tells us we “have” to do something – like obsess over our weight for a wedding. You asked why? I’ll tell you what I have seen of the world/my opinion – it boils down to money. They make a lot of it telling people what they should do, gambling on our emotions as they focus on profit. Thus is the way of the business world, and it has a right to do so. Being smarter than the psychologist that consults with the marketing team that creates this situation is, in my opinion, the best you can do.

Post # 9
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209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I think that everyone wants to look good for their wedding day- and for some that means being skinnier.  And you are going to look at these pictures for the rest of our lives, so i think it is smart to want to be toned, not neccessarily stick thin, but at a healthy weight that you won’t look back and say– “jeez, i wish i would’ve lost those couple pounds, or not eaten all that junk food for a little bit” 

In today’s world there is ALOT of obesity and overweight people, who aren’t living as healty as they should.  I think that an adequate measure of your body relative to being in the healthy range is measuring your BMI – (Ex. I’m 5’5″ 115lbs = 19.1 BMI —  yeah for a HEALTHY ME)

Everybody try it- it does help to know where you stand, not just for your wedding day, but for your overall health)

http://www.nhlbisupport.com/bmi/

BMI Categories:

  • Underweight = <18.5
  • Normal weight = 18.5-24.9
  • Overweight = 25-29.9
  • Obesity = BMI of 30 or greater

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

well said lilyfaith. to me i have needed to loose this weight for a while and my wedding is a great “deadline”. It gives me some motivation (as if my health is not enough).

I agree with you TPholiday. These girls that weight 120lbs and want to loose 15 before their wedding is crazy! its sick. when i think of someone who weighs so little i think of a sick or elderly person. my Fiance once said “your skinny when you are born, you are skinny when you are sick and you are skinny when you die; why in the world does everyone want to be so skinny”!!??!!!!! but then again my Fiance is 6’3 and weighs less than me πŸ˜€

When he said that to me it really stuck. since i met him it is no longer about being a size 6 or weighing 130lbs…its about my health. i currently weigh about 50lbs more than i shoudl and thats a health problem not an image problem. My Fiance thinks i am perfect and loves me just as i am and does not want me to change a bit but he also wants me to be healthy. if he knew how much i weighed he probably would want me to loose weight but unfortunatly i am ashamed and hide it from him. 

I think being thin is just as gross as being obese. My point is not to offend anyone here but i think it needs to be said. Everyone thinks being overweight is so gross….but why is skin and bones not gross? IT IS!! It IS sick.

You have ppl on both spectrums..you have ppl that are proud to be obese and then you have ppl who are proud to be too thin. both are a health issue. but for some reason the media favors skine and bones

Post # 11
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209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I agree- just be who you are- but be healthy a healthy you so you can enjoy being who you are longer πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I like that lilmispriss πŸ˜€

Post # 13
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209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

daniellealys – thx πŸ™‚ I think it’s smart to be healthy

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Definitely agree with lilyfaith…  But I must say that slimming down for the wedding only is easier and of course very temporary.  It’s much harder to aim for being healthy, because that’s an entire lifestyle of changing unhealthy habits.

Post # 15
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209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

For alot of gals its a good reason to jump start the health plan for the long run though- much more inventive and after you see the benefits you’re much much more likely to continue with that lifestyle.

 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Personally, I’m trying to lose weight for the wedding because I WANT to, not because someone asked me how much I was planning on losing or because people on TV are thin. It’s a matter of how I feel in my body and how I look in clothes and right now I don’t like either. It’s also, as PPs have mentioned, a health issue. Right now my health is OK, but one needs to break certain habits as one gets older – junk food all the time, lack of exercise, etc. WILL catch up with you. So for me, YES the immediate goal is losing weight for the wedding, but ultimately it’s about making a lifestyle change. The wedding is just a good motivator and a catalyst for that because I know I have X amount of time to do it.

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