Post # 1
Hey Bees, first post here. I am struggling re: my weight for the wedding. When we started this process I was so confident, I know my fiance adores my body the way it is, told everyone I wasn’t trying to lose weight for the day, the whole nine. Now… today I went to the doctors and they told me that at 5’7 and 195 (WHEN DID THAT HAPPEN??) I’m clinically obese. Cut the legs right out from under me. Yesterday was a dress fitting that left me literally in tears. I’m going on a strict diet now until the wedding, but I still feel like sh*t for now. Please help? Anecdotes, ideas, thoughts? It doesn’t help that I’m on the other side of the world from my best friends and my mom so I’m trying to do this all alone and really struggling…
PS: Dress doesn’t have the right underwear/slip/etc underneath, I know! Will look better with corset etc.
Post # 3
@Improbable: I think you need to use this as motivation for turning things around. Don’t starve yourself for the wedding… that will just lead to misery and gaining the weight all back when you resume your normal eating habits.
You need to make a healthy lifestyle change. Gradually make healthier choices, eat less, exercise more. Find some exercises that don’t feel like a chore. Eat everything in moderation. I don’t think you have a significant amount of weight to lose to get back into a healthy range… and also keep in mind that BMI isn’t the best predictor of how healthy you are. If you use this as a bit of a wakeup call, you can make changes for the better.
As far as the wedding goes, sure it would be nice to look the best you can, but depending how far away it is, that may not be possible. Just focus on getting healthier, and I think your confidence will return. Remember your Fiance loves you as you are, but probably also wants you to be as healthy as you can be. You will look great on your wedding day even if you don’t lose significant weight – remember that. Brides are happy and glowing! 🙂
Post # 4
@Improbable: You can do this! Just keep that mindset while you’re making changes, and it is a lifestyle change, not a diet, that’s also important to keep in mind.
Start by cutting out foods you know you can replace with healthier options. Also, keep in mind the amount of sugar per servings your food has. I very healthy place to keep it is at 5 grams or less.
I learned this from a book called the belly fat cure, and it’s honestly the only book I follow when it comes to my eating habits. The sugar makes you hang onto extra weight, so kicking your intake way down, is going to do wonders for you! If you ever need a pick me up or a little motivation, let me know! I gained 20 pounds by the time I finished college and I’m just now really kicking my own butt to get rid of them. You’re never in this alone, so many of us are trying to be healthier!
Best of luck to you!
Post # 5
I know how you feel. I lost weight because of it and feel a little better but still no confidence. But like everyone told me on here its not weight, etc, its how you feel on the day. Do what u need to do to be happy. Looking at your pic i dont see anything wrong. Just trying on different dresses u wouldnt usually can give flattering results.
😀 your getting married try be happy
Post # 6
First of all, you look so amazing in your dress…except for the frown. 🙁
If the weight is an issue try to increase your activity and lower your caloric intake to drop a few pounds.
Your dress really makes you look slim though
Post # 7
Thanks guys. I’ve started dieting again, I’ve successfully lost a LOT of weight int he past (although it was also combined with bulimia, which I will not being going back to!), as well as found a one month membership for a local gym. Part of the problem is that I’m on medication that makes losing weight extremely difficult, so it’s not as easy as it was – and I’m in grad school and working, so weight hasn’t exactly been on the top of my list. On the day itself I’ll have a corset, which will help, and hopefully I can drop a few pounds between now and then. Just such a kick in the teeth to hear that word!!