Post # 1
So, yesterday I went to meet with our invitation lady to get down to the nitty gritty about ordering these invitations. My estimate is coming in at around $600 which is under budget (YAY!) for some beautiful, great quality invitations. Now.. she suggested that not everyone have a reply card. She explained to me that my generation (I’m 22, hubby is 24) is very tech savvy and very much into “instant gratification”. She thought that if we reduce the amount of reply cards we have I could potentially save around $70 (including postage) and just have some guests RSVP via our wedding website.
I’m super traditional.. I love the concept of mailing back an RSVP card that has beautifully hand written calligraphy on it. So I’m a bit apprehensive about doing this. Plus, I feel like maybe some guests would feel left out without the reply card and blah blah.
What are your thoughts? Is this crazy? Make total sense? But most importantly, is it worth the potential $70 savings?
oh and i don’t know how I feel about having our website on the invitation.. so she suggested that it would be through word of mouth. But then that just sounds like a total disaster.. missing RSVP’s and what not.
Post # 3
@nemoandthebrain: No way, this is not worth the $70 savings. I would send traditional inviations and traditional mail in rsvp cards to everyone. Plus, you will miss the fun of checking your mail everyday to see who has rsvp’d. I am very traditional as well, and I do think the online rsvp is tacky. So my vote would be no, don’t do it!
Post # 4
@Sea_Ashley: totally agree. I am waiting on RSVP’s and it is SO FUN to check the mail everyday and see if I get RSVP’s back. So much better than bills and junk
Post # 5
since you are already under budget i do not think that $70 is worth the hassle.
Post # 6
i’m with you, i’ve debated this myself. For me, I LOVE the idea of getting the mail and checking my response cards. I’m using techy thigns for a lot of stuff (seating charts, budget tracking, venue comparisons, RSVP tracking etc) but I want the little cards in the mail. If you’re doing them for some just do it for all. It will save you headache trying to figure out who the straglers are!
Post # 7
I hate RSVPing to someones email. It just means I have to hold onto the card until I get around to sending the email so I can find your email address… Or website address if you would go that way. UGH I hate it. To me its really annoying vs checking YES ill be there and popping it back into the mail box. So not worth the $70 savings to me.
Post # 8
We asked people to RSVP online or via phone to my parents in case they weren’t comfortable using a computer. So far it has all worked out really well – the older generation clearly preferring the phone, the younger the website.
We selected this option as we personally feel that the card is a complete pain. You fill it out, have every intention of sending it off and then, for the next two months, you realize that you left it on the fridge every single time you walk past a mailbox… The “instant gratification” concept really appealed to us. Then again, FI works with computers and most guests are Swedish where pretty much every single person knows how to operate a computer (my 85 year old grandma use Skype all the time and she LOVES YouTube). Based on our set of guests, traditional RSVP cards felt archaic.
Now, we did put our website info on an insert that came along with the invitation – I would not rely on word of mouth. That does sound like a recipe for disaster.
Post # 9
$70 isn’t worth it, though I don’t think online replies are tacky. If you do go the online route, you HAVE to put the website on the invites. Trying to spread it by word of mouth is a recipe for disaster.
It also depends on the type of wedding you are having. If you have having a fancy affair, then the invites and replies should reflect that.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
My FI asked me about doing this and I said no, too many people we are inviting are NOT of our generation and are NOT tech savvy.
I could just see getting a jumble or RSVPs in the mail, phone calls, online. People thinking that just by visiting the web page they’ve RSVP’d ….I am always shocked at how difficult something like this can be for some people since I am pretty tech savvy. However, not everyone is and I can’t see this working out at seamlessly as an RSVP card. Unless like 80-90% of your invitees are in the “younger” generations, I’d say stick with the cards, especially for $70, it will be worth it!
Post # 11
@nemoandthebrain: I did both, and gave everyone a card. Some people told me it was poor ediquette but oh well… My card has the option of mailing or RSVPing online 🙂
Post # 12
i would put an rsvp card in every envelope.
either all or nothing, everybody responds via website (which i don’t like) or everyone respond via response card.
Post # 13
The hassle of keeping track of everything would just not be worth it. Just get the RSVP cards.
Post # 14
@nemoandthebrain: We did only online RSVPs (and RSVP by phone/email) because in DH’s culture, they don’t do reply cards at all and just list a phone number—and I know my friends/family well wnough to know that even with a pre-stamped envelope, I could expect about a 30% return rate.
With online/phone RSVPs, we got about 75% rate of guests RSVPing on time–we had to track down the rest. From what I’ve heard on the Bee, that’s standard even for paper mail.
In the end, it just depends on what your circle of friends is used to.
Post # 15
Totally up to you. I think now days having online or email RSVP is totally okay and seems to be the way most people are going. I was invited to 4 wedding this summer and all of them did that. For our invites we went traditional mail back because I love getting mail! Checking the mail box every day was literally my favourite part of wedding planning.
Post # 16
Seems like a lot of trouble to go through to save $70. I’m not a fan of online RSVPs, and I’m definitely not a fan of doing 2 different things for 2 different groups of people. It just complicates things and will be a bigger headache than it’s worth.