- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
Just a backstory – met this person about a year ago, we’ve gone to lunch in the past occasionally (we work together). FI and I have hung out with her and her husband twice a long time ago, and pretty much after the second time we decided we did not like him. He’s obnoxious, and from things my friend has said, is a controlling jerk (though she doesn’t seem to see it, but she says he changed his mind about kids and thinks he “saved” her from a worse life – um, no).
Anyway, I have been distancing myself from her for the past month or so (after she’s mentioned the four of us hanging out and my brushing it off, saying Fiance and I were busy, etc) since, in addition to the husband, I find her to be a draining person. She seems to think the world is out to get her, she has absolutely no other friends and she is very negative, clingly and hates her job. I have never hung outside of work with her other than the second double date thing. She will come over to my desk if I haven’t e-mailed her back after a couple of hours.
So, this weekend, Fiance and I ran into them at the store. We saw the husband, I said hello as did he, then he turned around abruptly. We didn’t see her until we were in another aisle. We thought that strange, since he’s the one always wanting to chat (awkwardly) when we have run into them. We were also relieved, lol.
Then, yesterday at work, and also today, not a peep from her. Think she’s mentioned my distancing myself from her to him? Should I send her a note or just let it go? I didn’t want to burn a bridge, and I don’t think I was being rude. I was just trying to let things fade out a little. I have also been talking to other people at work that are more positive and I have more in common with and I wonder if she’s jealous. I had a friend like that before (very possessive of friends) and I had to cut that friend out.
Thoughts? I appreciate you reading!