Post # 1
I live in the midwest, where the average stone size is probably between .5 and .75 carats. I received a lovely one carat moissanite ring, and everyone assumes its a diamond.
I’ve noticed that sometimes other women notice my ring and give me a strange look. It just happened today. It makes me feel like they’re judging me for being pretty young with what they presume is a very expensive ring. (Luckily it wasn’t!)
This happens a lot in indoor lighting because Moissanites sparkle like a rainbow under flourescent lights. This might be further aggravated by the fact that I’m a teacher and that other women in my profession are wondering how I’m able to afford such a ring. I hate the feeling like they’re judging me and my fiance’s income or spending choices. I don’t want to sound like I’m complaining- I’m just uncomfortable and don’t know what I should do.
Has this ever happened to you? Sometimes I feel awkward when people stare at my ring and don’t quite know how to handle it. And I wonder what would have happened if we would have gone with a 2 carat ring !!
What do you think, bees?
Post # 3
Hmm, people have been staring at my ring, but I assumed it’s because I’m young and look even younger. It’s a 1 ct princess cut diamond, but I’ve seen so many flashier rings that I think that 1 ct would be a weird size to judge?
Post # 4
Thats funny, this actually happened to me today. I had to go down to the community college to take a test that they offer at their assessment center. While I was in there I could see this girl staring at my ring from the corner of my eye. I’m 23 but I still look pretty young, and its not like my ring is huge or anything! lol its a 1 carat emerald cut diamond.
I didnt really mind it though because no one really knows your story, just take pleasure in the fact that you have a beautiful ring!
Post # 5
I am 23 and got engaged at 22 and my ring is 2.78 carat center diamond and for the entire ring it has 3.14 carats.
I have had HORRIBLE stares and questions. Everything from did he borrow money for it (no – and its not your business!) to is it real (yes!) to well you probably got a big ring because it has flaws (um NO – there are no inclusions and it has one of the highest color rankings!).
A lot of times what I do is look at the person looking at my ring and make it obvious that I saw them staring and say something like – my Fiance has such good taste or wedding planning is so much fun! Just come up with a line that clearly says I saw you and I am not going to let you bring me down!
Post # 6
I have a very large ring (10.5 ct center stone) though it’s not a diamond. I’ve never had any stares but when people notice it they often ask if it’s real.
I say don’t worry about it! Just feel blessed that you have a lovely ring and Fiance.
Post # 7
@laural- can we see a pic of that ring???? it sounds amazing, a little ring porn never hurt anyone lol
Post # 8
I think part of it might be that people tell me I look really young. Maybe people don’t expect someone my age to be engaged?
Post # 9
eh try living in Los Angeles, they’ll look at you weird if you’re ring is smaller than 3 carats! lol . . . Just be happy and enjoy it, try and brush it off as awkward as it can be sometimes. Woman can act strange about all sorts of things but the other thing to remember is this, just cuz someone is staring doesn’t mean its not in admiration. I am guilty of this myself. I’ll look at a girls dress or shoes or purse and realize I’m lost in thought then realize she’s looking at me like what’s your deal? I quickly voice my thought and compliment and that usually explains the whole thing but some people are really shy. Ya never know what people are thinking and I know personally I always think people are thinking negatively instead of positively.
Post # 10
Where I live it es very common to see large…large rings. My godmothers ring is a total of 9 karats =0
My center stone is a 3.02 and I don’t think I have had jealous looks….but I have been stopped in the middle of a restaurant for someone to talk to me about it. They are always very nice an complementary.
Rock your ring with confidence. And ignore any jealous people because that is what they are, jealous.
Post # 11
I sometimes get the looks too. I’m pretty sure that it’s because I look young. I’m pushing 30, but probably look 21ish and my ring sparkles quite a bit, which I think can be pretty eye catching. Like the other bees said, just enjoy the fact that you have a gorgeous ring that was picked out just for you!! Your Fiance would probably love to hear that your ring is getting attention 🙂
Post # 12
I don’t think I’ve ever noticed that. My center stone is 1 ct and I live in the midwest. I feel like most younger people around here have similar rings… although i guess i spend most of my time with professional types who have a bit more money than average.
Post # 13
Yeah, when I first got engaged I was working at a bank and I would get comments ALLLL day long like “WOW that’s big. He must really love you”
My ring has a 1ct center stone, but we didn’t break the bank to get it or anything and I in no way base his amount of love on the size of my ring.
People have no tact sometimes. I even had one guy say “Oh no. Please don’t tell me you’re engaged” and when I said yes he said “Good luck with that!” In a not so pleasant tone.
Post # 14
I don’t think I’ve ever had that happen either, I’m in the Midwest too. I do get lots of compliments on it but I the only jealousy I get is from this one random, desperate single girl I work with. She’s the one that always wants to try it on…. I have a 1ct round brilliant solitaire.
Post # 15
Funny thing one day at work before a meeting one of my collegues said to me “that’s a lot of love on your finger!” and I didn’t know what to say, was that a compliment? Was he judging me or the FH? So I replied with a “yes, I am blessed with a lot of love,” so rock it girl! I look at it and do think about how lucky and in love I am with my hubby to be.
Post # 16
Ring Porn as per request:
This is actually a really bad picture of it – I took the picture with the ring on the baseboard in my bathroom after reading the tutorial and totally did not clean it before hand.