Post # 1
So, by some dumb twist of fate, both FH and I go by our middle names. I’m wondering how to address invitations, since I don’t want people wondering “Who the heck is this person?” or in the case of extended family who haven’t met one of us, thinking that our names are actually John and Lauren.
FH’s mom (in general, not for wedding stuff) prefers that he write “First initial, middle name,” while I usually write out my full name for official things.
Ideas? I’m thinking I might experiment with writing out our full names but having our middle names in a bigger font…not sure how it will look, though.
Post # 2
Why can’t you write out both of your first and middle names? People will probably all receognize you by just your last names, anyway.
Post # 3
Does it matter if people think your middle name is your first name, if you really only go by your middle name? I would just use your middle and last names– it’s who you both are!
Post # 4
Putting your first name as an initial is the convention for this sort of thing, in my experience. Not sure I would really call this an “official thing” since it’s just a wedding invitation, it’s not like buying an airport ticket or signing a credit card receipt. It’s not like you HAVE to use your first name for this. Makes the most sense to use what people actually know you as.
Post # 5
Our invitations had our full names; your guests should be able to recognize you both that way.
Post # 6
Use your full names, I would assume people you are inviting know your names or that you go by your middle name and if they don’t why are they at your wedding?
my friends husband goes by his middle name and she put Gary Geoff ___ and I knew it was her and Geoff’s wedding…
Post # 7
First Name (Middle name) Surname
Post # 8
I would just do your middle names that you go by. It’s whatever you prefer!
I was just thinking that for our invites we had my first name as the full version, (Elizabeth and Doug) and then on the info card just put my nickname (Eliza and Doug) . I use my full name at work though and thought it looked better with the invite layout!
Post # 9
My name is Jillian but I go by Jill. That’s what everyone knows, so that’s what we put on our invites. I say use the names people know you by.
That being said, we wanted to keep a casual vibe. We didn’t include our last names and didn’t include guests’ lasts names on the mailing envelopes. I’m sure that’s a major faux pas, but it’s in keeping with the laid back vibe we want. So perhaps you should consider how formal the event is going to be when making the decision.
Post # 10
My Fiance goes by his middle name and I go by a name that is not common for my first name. We just used those on our invitations. Would have felt weird to do anything else.
Post # 11
I definitely would include both of your names (first and middle) and all three of your FI’s names (first, middle and last) on the invitations. Not only will that help to avoid any confusion, but also it will look formal and beautiful. That’s what we did for our invitations.
(If the two of you are hosting your own wedding, then I would use all three of your names as well.)
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2013 - Outdoor
I think it’s great that both you and Fiance go by your middle names, that way however you decide to do it it can be the same for both of you.
Our invitation actually had our first names in big font at the top and then our full names underneath, so you could do something similar except featuring your middle names!
Ours was like this:
Stephefanie & Darling Husband
Stephefanie Efanie Fefanie Maidenname
and Dearest Husband Lastname
Invite you to celebrate their wedding!
Post # 13
Since you mentioned extended family who may not know one of your names yet, using only the names that you actually go by seems like a no-brainer to me (lest you have to repeatedly explain the situation to endless 3rd cousins). But really, it’s whatever you feel like and are comfortable with!
Post # 14
Thanks for all of the input! Most people, of course, do know us, I’m just thinking about those random great-uncles or whomever that we “have to” invite who might only know one of us, or not recognize our names at all!…but I don’t want to lose the formality of having our full names on the invites. Lots of good ideas to consider 🙂
Post # 15
betterbuckley: oh this is an easy fix – either go by your full name, or just go by your known names. ta da!
wanna hear a truly weird name sit? my last name is FI’s mother’s last name (and so the last name of that entire side of FI’s family), and also FI’s middle name. no matter what we do, it’s going to look like someone is marrying their cousin.