- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
I am just completely at a loss on this one. People make no sense to me, and I am almost 40 years old, and people seem to confuse me more and more as I get older!
Summary: My spouse has an Aunt who she didn’t meet until a few years ago. This is her father’s sister and when my spouse was young, her mom moved her away from all of that side of her family. She met her dad once when she was a teenager, apparently knew her Grandma and aunts/uncles/cousins when she was very small, but didn’t remember them.
Thanks to the internet, and an ancestry website, she reconnected a few years ago with a half sister and this aunt.
This aunt has been amazing. We went to Colorado (where she lives) for Spring Break a few years ago and that’s when they met for the first time. She is only a few years older than my spouse, she’s also a lesbian, and has a child. She’s very successful in her job, fun to be around, we all clicked instantly.
For the past couple of years we’ve kept in touch regularly via phone/text, facebook, etc. When our 8 year old (spouses daughter) became seriously ill, this aunt flew to Texas to be here with us. She is / was the ONE PERSON I never dreamed wouldn’t attend our wedding.
In fact, she told us she would ABSOLUTELY be there. And, because she’s successful in her job, she has the money and ability to take time off. She was the ONE invited guest who we knew would have no financial barriers to attending. And, the week of the wedding she told us she’d be driving in on Thursday, arriving Friday. Wedding was Saturday. She was driving from Colorado to Iowa.
Well, Thursday comes and we don’t hear from her, figured we’d hear an “I’m on my way” but we don’t worry. Then Friday comes, no word. We message and call and repeat. Nothing.
Wedding is Saturday. Nothing!
We call and call after. No answer, no emails.
The wedding was March 19th and we still have not heard from her. Furthermore, we are both no longer her “friend” on Facebook. I sent her a friend request. Nothing. My wife emailed her. Nothing. Yet she is “active” on there, so she is obviously alive.
Anyone care to guess just what in the hell could hav happened here? There is NOTHING at all that would have made her mad or in any way justified this sort of behavior. My wife is now convinced that “that side” of her family is just useless and awful, just like her father. 🙁
It’s all so perplexing AND I am so sad for my wife who finally thought she’d found family who gave a damn.