(Closed) weird phobia controlling my life..

posted 7 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Our phobias have a way of creating patterns that control our life, because they attempt to keep us from doing the thing we are in fear of.

Have you browsed any forums or websites regarding Emetphobia? Recieved any counseling?

Do you have a trigger experience that you know started it all?

 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t really have any advice other than counseling.

I have a similar phobia though. I’m terrified of other people throwing up, to the point where I start to get panicky in enclosed spaces if someone looks like they might possibly feel unwell. I always have to sit by the window on a plane (so no one will be stepping over me/running down the aisle by me).

If there are enough people in the car where someone has to sit middle seat, I ALWAYS sit middle seat (even though I’m tall) because I want everyone to have a window in case they have to throw up out of it.

It’s to the point where if we are looking at cars, I don’t want to get a two door because what if someone in the back seat has to throw up.

I really hope you can find a counselor who can help.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Emetophobia! I had the exact same thing for many years. One word: Xanax! I told my primary care physician about my symptoms and she prescribed it to me on an “as needed” bases. I carry it in my purse with me everywhere and I actually no longer have symptoms because psychologically I know that if I do, I can pop a pill and they will go away.

I’m not saying it it will work for everyone, but it did amazing things for me!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I have had this phobia my whole life (as well as several other women in my family). I am not as worried about being in an unusual place when I have to throw up, but I am more so scared of the actual action of throwing up. I got a stomach bug last winter (worst thing ever) and Fiance asked why I hyperventilate and sob uncontrollably everytime I throw up. I told him I thought that was normal…

Don’t be embarassed or ashamed!!! I am a obsessive germaphobe because I’m terrified of coming into contact with germs that will give me a stomach virus and make me throw up. TERRIFIED!

Since I have had this phobia for as long as I can remember (seriously since I was a young child), I have come to conquer it slightly. I have also come to realize that the logic I formulate in my brain to rationalize this phobia is just crazy. I will make up the weirdest excuses for why I can’t touch something or why something needs to be cleaned because it could cause me to throw up. I’m not kidding. 

Once your insurance kicks in, I suggest seeing a therapist or counselor. You don’t need treatment, per say, but talking to a professional really really helps with phobias. My aunt is a psychologist and talking to her about this has helped me battle my fear.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Don’t be embarrassed, lots of people have phobias and fears. My friend recently confessed to me that she had a phobia of swallowing her tongue!!!

What do you think is the worst that will happen if you throw up? What is it about throwing up that frightens you so much?

I recently read this book I bought for my anxiety and it had some amazing drug-free techniques in it for phobias like yours. I highly recommend this book to anyone with anxiety or phobias. It’s called “When Panic Attacks.”

Good luck!

 

 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@ashamedone:I have no side effects from Xanax except that it makes me very relaxed. It takes my heart rate from 100 to 10 almost instantly and stops my head from spinning a million thoughts. I literally take it anytime I feel anxious, empty stomach, day, night, during meals. I now mostly only take it when I get on planes (which I do fairly often for work) and it completely has cured my fear of flying. 

I used to not be able to go to bars, drink any alcohol, eat anything that could be “suspicious” (seafood, yogurt), be a passenger in someone’s car, or sit on the inside of a booth at a restaurant for fear of getting sick. I would have massive, sweaty panic attacks where the only cure would be to run outside. I couldn’t concentrate during work meetings because I would sit and think “If I got sick, how would I leave without everything thinking I was crazy” which would only cause me to get more anxious and nauseous. I have been there. I think my cure is a combination of medication and growing out of it (I’m almost 30 now and I had symptoms between 21 and 25).

 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

Don’t be ashamed as people are often too quick to judge on matters such as these. I suggest counseling as well to get to the root of the problem. As you stated, it is starting to run your life so I think taking the next step and getting some help for it.

I too have a “ridiculous” phobia that I have been laughed at for years, even by family members. It doesn’t make it any less real for us.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Basically your phobia is tied in with several anxiety disorders/issues, so of course its not just something you can turn off!

I think CanAmbride had a great reccomendation with the Xanax and it is worth trying. Those side effects are very broad and thrown out there to cover everything.

Also exposure therapay may be something that can help to desensitize in conjuction with your therapist.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Aww hon, I know exactly how you feel. I don’t have the same phobias as you, but I do have some life-controlling phobias that prevent me from enjoying perfectly normal things (like eating!). I can completely relate to the stress of being completely “owned” by your phobia. I’ve been living with my phobias for years now, and I finally recently put my foot down and said, ENOUGH. And I’ve found a therapist who fits with me perfectly — and I think that’s absolutely the key.

I’d been in counseling three times previously for my phobias and nothing ever came of it. I only ever went to two or three appointments with each one before giving up. But, I’m three or four weeks into my counseling with my new therapist now, and I have done a complete 180. I made my first appointment to deal with a specific phobia, and she asked me then what my other phobias were. I do have GAD so that complicates things (sometimes I feel like EVERYTHING in my life is a phobia) but I was able to make a bulleted list of different phobias, see if/how they were connected, and we’re going to work on one phobia at a time until I’ve conquered them all.

The key to successful therapy is finding a therapist who you jibe with. You need to find someone who is willing to respect your wishes for treatment, your situation in life, and who uses a method that works for you. There are a bunch of different ways to conquer phobias and you won’t know what works best for you until you try them — there’s cognitive behavioral therapy, there’s hypnotherapy, there’s progressive relaxation and visualization, there’s desensitization, and probably more…you can read up on each method and see which one you think would work best, or give them all a try and see which one you like. I’ve personally done the first three of the four I listed, and found that progressive relaxation/visualization works the best for me — it’s what I’ve been doing for the past month to conquer my current phobia. For some of my phobias, just talking them out helps. For others, hypnotherapy worked. You just have to keep trying until you find what works best for you.

Also, bring your Fiance with you to appointments if you think it will help. For someone who’s never gone through a phobia like that before, it can be hard to understand that what you’re suffering from is not something you can help, and is a legitimate “medical condition”, for lack of a better word. The therapist can explain to him exactly what causes phobias, what it’s like to have a phobia, and how he can help you, if you want him to, in your treatment. Sometimes it helps just knowing that your other half fully understands what you’re going through.

It feels like an uphill battle at first, but trust me, once you get over the hump of finding the right therapist and method, it’s rolling downhill from there. Once you start conquering one phobia, you may find that your other phobias start to lessen in severity too as your “logical” brain starts to come out from its blanket of fear, which makes further treatment even easier.

I am sending you big big internet hugs. Don’t give up! I know you can do it. πŸ™‚

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