(Closed) Weird Rehearsal Dinner Locale?

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I wouldn’t think it was lame at all, but as a guest, I would feel really horrible going to your house, dirtying your dishes, and making you work for me the night before your own wedding!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

i don’t think it’s lame. i’ve been to a rehersal dinner at a home before and had a blast. plus it was so much more relaxed then some stuffy restaurant where we had to be concious of the noise level [a common issue when we all get together. lol]. i think a more relaxed rd is a good thing in front of a formal wedding but that’s my opinion. plus, if your aunt is going to cook and pay someone to serve and clean [meaning they’re doing the dishes and not you] then there isn’t too much work for you and your fi. just keep everyone in one central location [or two] so your potential mess is minimal.

i think this would be a fabulous idea. plus it’ll be easier for you both to mingle amongst everyone; it’d be more like a party than anything else. i say go for it and have fun. and just think, once it’s over you’re already home!

Post # 5
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Worker bee

MJ, we are doing the same thing.  Because like you we are paying for the wedding ourselves and about 90% of the guest will be out of town we wanted to have a Welcome/Rehearsal Dinner for everyone in our backyard.  We hope it will be a elegant affaire even if it is in our backyard.  It will be mostly cater except for a few things we are making ourselves but plan to have linens and decor to make it elegant.  We feel it will be cozy and a good way for everyone to visit our home and relax before the big day. 

 Good luck with the planning and let me know if you would like me to share some of our ideas with you.   

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2008

i think it’s a great idea. since you’re having a formal wedding, it would be nice to have a more casual, elegant Rehearsal Dinner.  i’m sure everyone or your bridal party will chip in and help clean up too.  i’m having the same issue but our house is too small for 45 guests.  i’ve been looking at restaurants near the ceremony site but they are either out of our price range or too small.  it’s frustrating…

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

oh my gosh, I totally missed the part where your aunt was going to cook and hire people to clean up. In that case, I think the Rehearsal Dinner at your place is a great idea. I’m sure people will enjoy the relaxed atmosphere!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

I dont think its wierd at all.  After realizing what kind of KICK ASS honeymoon we could have had if we had had a pizza and beer Rehearsal Dinner and spent the money on our vacation, I’m wishing we had gone youre route. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

i think its a great idea! we are having ours catered at a non-restaurant location (and by catered, Im thinking cheese& crackers/ gourmet sandwiches & fancy ice cream or something similar) & expect noone to say a word about how its usually at a restaurant.  positives are, you know your costs in advance & can share a bottle of champagne or 4 without worrying about our noise or your time limit or the bill… or a drunk Bridesmaid or Best Man or 4 who keep ordering drinks & will have a hangover for your 10 am catholic ceremony. see? it’s multi-benificial.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yes, it is fine to have it at your house, especially since you will be offering a fantastic meal from your aunt! I don’t see why people even have to ask if it’s ok to host one at your house, that’s what people used to do

My fiancee’s sister in law had her shower, Rehearsal Dinner and baby shower at restaurants; and while there’s nothing wrong with that, I sort of miss the old-fashioned quaintness of holding it at a house. That’s what I plan to do! Especially since I love to bake!

 

Have fun- the most important part! 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Do it at the house.  Essentially it will be catered and if the serving help are also paid to clean up what is the fuss?  The hosue will still be clean and you can decorate the table up with arrangements from the florist, candles and beautiful linens that will make the whole thing wonderful.  It is better than a restaurant since you can relax in the living room for cocktails and hds and then move on to the dining room.  It will be much more relaxed but still very elegant. 

Even better you don’t have all of the extra noise from the kitchens and the restaurant.  you can also pick your own background music.

It may be worth hiring an additional person to work with your aunt so that the dishes are cleaned as they work and prep work, dicinng veggies and such can be done more quickly.  This way your aunt can socialize with everyone and the server will have help with the cleaning later.  A simple but elegent meal will allow your aunt to join you (a must as she is essentially paying for this) at the table.  Do an easy desert, such as strawberry shortcake or a mouse with fresh berries, that can be prepared ahead and just plated by the server while everyone (including your aunt is eating).

 This will be a lot more memorable than a restaurant.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

Go for it! That sounds wonderful to me. We’re probably going to do at least part of our Rehearsal Dinner at my parents’ house since there has been a change in plans (I have some future in-law stories as well regarding the RD). We’re thinking maybe Mexican food catered or something fun. Tell your Fiance that it would be fun and everyone would really enjoy it.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

nah.. I want to have a BBQ at my parents house for Rehearsal Dinner, because I have alot on my plate with wedding planning, so I want something less formal and just families and friends getting together.  you’re already spending an arm and a leg for the wedding day.. y kill yourself further by having a formal event for Rehearsal Dinner.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I think you should have it at your house, but come up with some plan to get everyone to leave at a reasonable time. When I have had dinner parties, sometimes people linger until really really late! Maybe plan some kind of event that signals "dinner’s over, now get out!" Or else you might end up very tired on your wedding day.

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