(Closed) weird relationship with my man

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

If you have been together for 4 years and he still isn’t communicating with you, I think you need to evaluate what is best for you and your future. Personally, I would not be wasting anymore time on a guy who obviously doesn’t deserve you.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@arsing89:  1+

Post # 5
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586 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@arsing89:  agree

 @sweetkari85:  If you want to give him one last chance I would say don’t give it too long. He has had 4 years to learn how to treat you right and if he hasn’t learned by now then I have a strong feeling he will never learn.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t mean to be harsh but if email is the only way to communicate and it’s been 3 weeks you do not have a relationship. It’s over, he is just waiting for you to realize it. It doesn’t sound like the two of you have the same goals in life or that you are compatible in any way.

I think it is time for you to accept that this relationship is over and learn from it so you don’t accept so little in return the next time you date a man.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

@sweetkari85:  I hate to say it, but, you are broken up. If he hasn’t come to his senses by now and either apologized, come over, told you he was commited to you, or any sentiment of the sort, that means that you are no longer together now. To answer your lingering questions; No, you deserve better then your ex boyfriend who wouldn’t communicate with you and who distanced himself. He not only put emotional space between you, but, he put physical space between you. He was with you 4 years and being someone who is in a 4 year relationship, the way you described your relationship sounds like he hasn’t treated you right, or with the respect that you deserve. A boyfriend worthy of your time is someone who will justify your feelings by being straight up with you and telling you that even when you are fighting, that he is in it for the long run, no matter what, good, bad and ugly. Sure, things get tense, but, not 4 weeks of no talking tense. That lliterally means that there is no going back. Girl, please, please find a man that deserves you, your time, your energy and will appreciate you for the wonderful qualties you have and sticks with you through the bad. A man that cannot put up with a woman’s insecurities is a man who will be alone because all of us have them, you just need to find the right one that is suited for you. Forget about this guy because I think you’d much rather have a guy that wants to be with you and openly is ready for a commitment, then put up with a jerk just for the ring and the principle of the 4 years. Its not the time it takes, but, the quality of the person that you should be considering in making a lifelong commitment.

 I just read that you are kindof understanding that its over. Right now the best thing for you to do is stop emailing him. I know its going to hurt badly, but, you need to delete his email address and you need to get out of the house. Go anywhere, but, do not email him. Do something fun, throw yourself into some fun classes, go hiking, go to the gym, go for a run, go buy some violent shooting games to take your aggressioin out (Um, cough cough, I just did that), join a kickboxing class,a painting class, go adopt a puppy or a kitty. What I’m saying is, go make a commitment to something. Even go buy some jewlery thats fake and looks like an engagement ring, it helps. But make a commitment to making yourself happy right now and forget him because he’s not worth your time and doesn’t deserve you.

 If you ask me, I thnk you dodged a bullet. Good luck and don’t worry. I’ve been where you are before. You will see that some guys, just aren’t worth the stress, and if they are, they show you through their actions why sticking with them is worth it.

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