- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
okay… hrmmm… where to start…
so I have a large extended family. 3 aunts, 4 uncles plus their husbands/wives… I have a TON of cousins etc…
I am obviously the ‘black sheep’, no one tells me about family reunions, some come here to golf or on vacation and I never know that until after they come here, no one even really wishes me a happy birthday on FB when its my birthday. My mom died and I saw them then and met a sister for the first time ever… Then when my grandma died I went to her funeral (that was the last time I seen them, so its been a few years ago) My mom was kind of the black sheep of the family, but I do not think its fair that they are basically cutting me out of the family… Not keeping me up to date or anything else…
I am trying very hard to reconnect with family, although I never did anything wrong. My mom moved us to AZ when we were very young and they all live out of state except for some distant cousins here that I love and have become kind of close with. I wish them all Happy Birthday on FB when its their birthdays, I send them quick “hello” messages and emails through FB and email. I am TRYING very hard and its being reciprocated by some, but not others.
So now comes the invitiation to the VR. I am trying to decide who to invite, and if I should even invite family at all as i feel they are, in a way, rejecting me and my efforts. (at least that is how I feel and I understand my reality may not be actuality)
I guess my question is, should I still send an invitation. I am sure they are not going to attend, but its more about the principle of thing… don’t you think? They all know about my VR and stuff. So I’m thinking I will send them an invitation and be prepared for a lot of “no’s” Perhaps this should be put in the Emotional board? I don’t know.
But I have been thinking about this alot lately, and part of me is like… why would I want these people there? they couldn’t give 2 shits if I died I don’t think and they wouldn’t come to my funeral, but… I am trying desperately to keep in touch with my family, so its more sentiment than anything (none of them were invited to my wedding and I am trying to figure out why, and it would mean alot to me if they were invited to this)
So, even though I know most of them will say no, in fact, they probably all will. And I am prepared for the heartache that it may cause… So, should I invite them anyhow?
I guess I needed to vent LOL… I mean, just because I am not included in things like Family reunions and other events (weddings, anniversary parties, holiday get togethers, etc…) Doesn’t mean I shouldn’t make a true effort? Right?