(Closed) Weird situation, what would you tell this guest?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
1306 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Just tell her that you are not comfortable around her boyfriend and that he is not invited. While you can’t control whether he is in her life or not, you CAN control whether he is in your life, especially on your wedding day. I wouldn’t want him at my wedding, either.

Post # 4
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864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@auroraborealis:  Man, I don’t think I could be friends with a women who was like that anyways. Sorry I wouldn’t want either of them to be there.

Post # 5
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873 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Make it clear to her that you do not want him there, but confirm whether or not she has a plus one to bring any other guest with her.

Post # 6
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15 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

If it makes you uncomfortable to have him there, then definately not.  Good luck!

Post # 7
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46375 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would not feel comfortable having a single guest bring a married man as her date.

If  she brought up the subject, I would make that clear. If she didn’t bring up the subject, I would find a way to tell her why she didn’t get a plus one, to avoid any chance of her just showing up with him in tow.

ps” the baby was an accident”? Like his penis accidenatlly fell into his wife’s vagina. I feel sorry for your friend who does not have the self- esteem to see how she is being used.

Post # 8
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2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@julies1949:  LOL, my sentiments exactly!!!  He accidentally slept with his wife that he allegedly doesn’t love?  I think these people don’t fall into the ‘social unit’ rule…

Post # 9
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1281 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

The real victim here isn’t your friend, it’s the man’s wife. 

I would tell your friend that at your wedding- a place where you are celebrating the sanctity of marriage- you don’t think it’s appropriate for her to bring a married man. 

Post # 10
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1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Rubybride718 – spot on.

Your friend clearly has codependency issues. And you don’t have to be an enabler and allow the married guy as her date.

Bright side, maybe there will be a nice SINGLE guy at the wedding for her to meet. 🙂

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