Post # 16
Thanks so much ladies! I feel so much better venting it out and hearing that I am not crazy in my feelings. I am definitely the most anti-drama person I know so I am hearing you all loud and clear. I know what I need to do, that being not asking her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man.
We have been friends for a couple of years, and through most of that time pretty close. It just seems the last few months she has became super obsessed with getting married. Honestly, I think she just views being married as being ‘stable’ and ‘safe’ but the relationship has to be that way before the marriage to be that way during the marriage.
PeachSnapple and alyssaC: I had to laugh at your replies saying she was going to find a way to get married before us, because he and I have had that conversation a few times this past week. If she wants to get married before us, that is totally ok with me, we are having a long engagement anyways. But with this new behavior from her, it would not suprise me at all.
Post # 17
I’m glad you’re not making her a Bridesmaid or Best Man but I’d also advise against sharing your wedding plans with her, taking her dress shopping, etc.
if your friend hears about your relationship woes and she makes it about HER…
if your friend hears you got engaged and makes it about HER…
if you cut your hair and she makes it about HER… (real story btw)
You have a friend who is incredibly narcissistic. Steer clear when you need a shoulder to cry on, someone to confide in, emotional support, share a joke – everything. Because it WILL end up like this: “oh AnnaP86 is so needy you know? She always needs me. I’m such a good friend that I’m always there. Oh AnnaP86 that’s awful but I have an even worse story than you…just the other day I was telling AnnaP86 this wonderful joke…I supported AnnaP86 while she became a bridezilla you know? She copied my DIY lanterns too did you notice? My wedding was before hers, how tacky, well I guess I should feel flattered huh?”
Post # 18
AnnaP86: Yeah, your friend sounds like a huge drama queen, as well as quite immature. She’s 30 years old and acting like that? Wow. And broken up 3 times in less than a year? It’s no wonder her boyfriend does not want to “put a ring on it”; she would be a nightmare to be married to. You would think that kind of stuff would be normal for a highschool chick in her first relationship; not a 30 year old.
It sounds like she’s the type of so-called “friend” who will always try to “one-up” you (as well as her other friends) in some way. I agree with PP’s who suggest putting a bit of distance between you and her because her drama will just bubble over into all your wedding planning and she will try to twist everything into being about her in some way.
Post # 19
AnnaP86: because she’s an immature person who keeps breaking up with the person she is supposed to love the most in the world; cares more about the status of the ring and being a wife than she does about the hard work, honesty, trust, love, respect, and fidelity that one needs to invest in their relationship to make a marriage; and because she simply doesn’t get that the depth of your relationship is more important than the breadth of hers. Simply put, because she’s limited.
Don’t feel hurt, feel lucky that long after her ring and divorce, you will have a lovely man who supports you in all you do, without making it a contest. Feel sorry for her, that she is missing out on something really, really wonderful. And ignore her, because sister doesn’t know what the hell she’s talking about.