(Closed) Weird to have my dad be our officiant?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
258 posts
Helper bee

I had my brother as an officiant and for me, I couldn’t think of anyone else. I would say is that it can be more work just because you are mapping out how you want your ceremony to go. I pretty much wrote the ceremony script, my husband and I also did our own vows. And my brother had input on the flow and put his own spin to it. It turned out really beautiful.

It is beyond easy to get certified online. We did it through.. http://www.themonastery.org/ordination

Just double check the regulations for the state that you’re in.



Post # 3
937 posts
Busy bee

My dad was mine. He married all 5 of his kids. I personally felt like it was a beautiful gift. He walked me down the aisle and then took his place at the front. He’s passed now so the memory means that much more.

Post # 4
11535 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

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evergreen90:  My DH is a pastor, and he has served as the officiant for the weddings of both of my older stepchildren. I was not yet married to him when he performed the wedding of my older stepson, but I was present for and participated in the wedding of my older stepdaughter. As this is part of what he does for a living, DH does an amazing job with weddings. However, I know that the weddings of his own son and, later, his own daugher, were the most meaningful to him of all those he has officiated.

Post # 5
5356 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

I was in a wedding where the brides stepdad (her dad passed when she was young) officiated. it was beautiful and I definitely think it would mean a lot to all involved. 

Post # 6
6802 posts
Busy Beekeeper

My father in law officiated. It was a great way to be able to involve him as they generally don’t get a role in the wedding.   It added a whole other level of personalness to the ceremony to have his direct blessing like that.  My husband almost cried (he joked later we shouldn’t have had his dad so that he could have avoided that but I think it’s great, though I didn’t notice at the time).  His father was not ordained – we just had the legal stuff done a couple of days before.  We would never have a stranger officiate our marriage when someone who knows and loves us could do it.  You should go for it!

Post # 7
526 posts
Busy bee

My grandfather and great-grandfather married my parents!

Post # 8
1399 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

My grandfather is a pastor and married us. It was great!

Post # 9
200 posts
Helper bee

It sounds like you’re okay with it and it would make you happy so that’s all that matters.

My FI’s mom wants to officiate our wedding- she’s not a professional or anything, she just went online and easily got  certified… But she doesn’t actually use it. Personally, I hate the idea because to me it’s just a way for her to take some control and also I don’t like the attention it would take away from FI’s dad or my parents-hard to explain unless you know her.

It’s weird to me (in my case) – maybe it wouldn’t be if this was her career, or if her personality was different. It probly wouldn’t be weird to me though if I went to somebody else’s wedding and saw it being done. 

Post # 10
404 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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evergreen90:  I think it’s sweet. My future SIL’s father officiated her wedding (and her brother’s), and will be officiating ours, as he’s a good family friend. We also went to a wedding just last night where the bride’s father officiated. In all of these cases though, the fathers were already in a position to officiate, being church leaders in some form.

I think it adds a nice little personal touch, if the officiant knows you that well already.

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