Post # 1
One of my bridesmaids called me tonight to tell me she and her family (husband and 2 small children) are moving to VA. I’m bummed because I’m going to miss her but this is absolutely the right move for her and her family. She will be back for our wedding but she definitely won’t be able to come back for any pre-wedding events (which is fine and I totally understand). Originally we were planning on my shower being at the end of August/early September but now I’m wondering if it would be weird to have the shower before she leaves at the end of June? I know that she would like to be there but I could never ask her to make the 10 hour drive back home for the shower after she moves.
ETA: This probably should have been posted in “parties”. Mods, if you see this can you please move it?
Post # 3
Mine was 3.5 months before the wedding, simply because that date worked best for everyone involved. No one seemed to think it was weird or out of the ordinary. Plus it gave me plenty of time to finish my thank you cards before the wedding!
Post # 4
My shower(s) will be in September and my wedding isn’t until March, so 6 months ahead. It’s the only time that works for us as my whole family is in a different state so we have to have it during a visit back home.
Post # 5
I don’t think that would be weird at all. I am having my shower 4 months in advance by choice. I say go for it!!
Post # 6
Good to know! Any bridal showers I have hosted or attended were always 1-2 months before the wedding so I wasn’t sure if it was weird to have it so far in advance. I would love to have it when all of my bridesmaids could be there. They’re my 3 best friends and I always invisioned us all being together.
Post # 7
@UpstateCait: That sounds like a good enough reason too. I don’t anyone would give you a hard time or even think it’s weird. And if they do, ignore them 🙂
Post # 8
Mine was six months before the wedding, due to out of state friend’s schedule. It was my #1 priority that she be here, and it was the only time.
Post # 9
Mine will be about four months before my wedding, too. I think it’s probably better that way so the festivities are spread out a little :). We’re doing it because my sister is moving out of state, too.
Post # 10
I don’t think is weird. I am thinking about it bc two of my bridesmaids are due end july and august so they are going to be busy moms right up until my wedding, and they want to be at the shower. Also my one friend had her shower in beginning of April and her wedding was at the end of July, so about the same.
Do what works for you! I wouldn’t think it is weird any time within 6 months of getting married.
Post # 11
I don’t think it’s weird at all! We’re doing the shower in July and the wedding’s not until December, because my mom and all of her shower-throwing friends are in a different state and that’s the time that works for us. I also think it’s kind of nice, it keeps the excitement going throughout the year! As long as it’s within a reasonable amount of time to your actual wedding date, it shouldn’t be a problem.
Post # 12
My shower is going to be in May – and my wedding is in August.
Post # 13
I think it is nice when the shower is a bit closer to the wedding cause it is contributes to all the momentum and excitement build-up.
BUT I think it is super important to have your dearest girls with you, so go with the earlier date!
Post # 14
I think you should have it when you can have it. I think everyone would be understand especially if your dear friend is moving away. I think it is really sweet that you want to have it when she can still be there.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
I say have it early, especially if it works for everyone! 🙂 Mine is next weekend (!!) and I am SO excited, even if it is three months out.