(Closed) Weird to NOT have a bridal shower?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I didn’t have one, and didn’t notice it.  It was nice.  I didn’t have a bridal party, though, so I didn’t have people around that expected to be serving in certain wedding-related roles, if that makes sense?  Maybe talk to your wedding party if you have one and see what they think!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I didn’t have one either.  In Chinese culture, bridal showers aren’t really all that common and all my bridesmaids are spread all over the country in school, etc. so it was difficult to find a time to get everyone together.  I am a little sad to not have a bridal shower, but circumstances were just too difficult. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

No bridal shower here, no bridal party either.    I still kind of hoped someone would suggest it though, but overall my wedding brought up many dissappointments in people I thought I knew well. 🙁

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think its weird not to have one.. I know several friends who have not had one.

 

Depending on who your bridesmaids are (like if some are sisters or other close family/a best friend etc) you could maybe mention you want to have one? It depends on your relationship with them I guess but maybe they just don’t know you want one?

 

Do you have a MOH? They are usually the one to organize it. Maybe mention it to them? If you don’t have one that may be the reason, it may just not occur to others to put one on.

 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I am still not sure if I’m going to have one or not. I don’t have many friends and the ones that I do have are all over the place, have kids etc. My mom isn’t thrilled about my engagement and I can’t think of anyone else, except for my Future Mother-In-Law who might throw me one.

Right now, I don’t really care if I have one or not. I mean, I wouldn’t mind having one, but I’d be ok without one too. Of course, my feelings may change as I get closer…

I don’t think it’s weird though. I know several people who haven’t had showers.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We didn’t have a shower, but we did have a meet-n-greet party hosted by his mom. I think if you just want a party but not a bridal shower, one option is to host a Bridal Luncheon. Traditionally, you host it for your maids and anyone else you want, and you give your ladies gifts. I wanted to do this but there won’t be time.

But yeah, a lot of people don’t get showers! I would have liked one, but no dice!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m not having one! I have no bridal party, we’re not registered anywhere, and I feel a little uncomfortable having a party that’s just about people giving me presents.  I thought about having one for my mom’s sake, but most of the people we’d invite would have to travel. And several of my closest lady friends are already traveling for my bach weekend (in California, not where I live now), so  I didn’t want to ask them to do more than that.

Overall, the idea of working around all these issues just stressed me out too much.  I’m happy with what I’m having.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I doubt I will have one- I’m in Texas most of the year but my family is in Penn. I’m the first of my friends to be married so I don’t expect any to think to try and host one. Maybe I’ll be surprised with one when I visit my hometown for a couple weeks this summer but I doubt it.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m not having one, basically because no one has offered. My bff is getting married next month and both her mother and her mother-in-law threw her bridal showers. My mother doesn’t have the money and my Future Mother-In-Law is not even coming to the wedding. I must admit I am a little jealous. *sigh*

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Ditto on the no bridal shower/no bridal party. Our wedding will be very intimate & I didn’t want additional gifts. However, now our families are throwing us a wedding shower the week before the wedding (both Fiance & I will be there) & his mom’s talked me into registering for it.

Post # 14
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491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am in the exact same position.  Friends and family mostly out of state/country, and no bridal party.

Post # 15
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am not having one either. I dont want stress out my bridesmaids to buy me presents or the Maid/Matron of Honor to host one. I will be glad when they show up on their dresses for my wedding 🙂

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