(Closed) Weird wedding experience: Time between ceremony and reception

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
3332 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

That’s so bizarre! I think I probably would have left after a while to get some food, not stuck around for 3 whole hours!

I am not a fan of gaps, but at least they usually TELL you theres a gap! I wonder what happened. Def not normal.

Post # 3
9527 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

That is incredibly rude. Ugh. I don’t know if I could be friends with that person anymore. It would be one thing to have pictures run over time but bar hopping? Awful.

Post # 4
9717 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Wow, I hate gaps when I am aware of them ahead of time but this is just a whole new level of rude! I would have left and taken my gift with me to buy a nice dinner.

Post # 5
5893 posts
Bee Keeper

Bar hopping btw ceremony and reception is something I’ve seen only once and have read about a few times here on weddingbee. It seems to be rather uncommon and new-ish, but not unheard of. FWIW leaving your guests waiting then showing up half-hammered to the reception is a horrible idea I hope doesn’t become trendy. And the purpose of bar hopping in wedding party and bridal finery seems more about attention seeking than anything, I want to yell out You are not starring in your own reality show!!!! 

Post # 6
734 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

underblueskies1016 :  I have never seen this or heard of this. If there is a large gap it should be indicated on the invitations. Every wedding I’ve been to this was the case, or if it said “reception immediately to follow” there was always a cocktail hour or the reception really did immediately start. This sounds like a poor etiquette situation to me!

Post # 8
1148 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Doesn’t sound like an invitation mistake. Because no one should have a gap that long anyway. They’re extremely rude, they obviously don’t respect the time of other people.

Post # 9
279 posts
Helper bee

Gaps are so rude!  But especially without letting anyone know!  I would be so mad. 

Post # 10
13660 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

This doesn’t even seem like a necessary gap.  It seems like the couple was so into their day that they literally didn’t care about inconveniencing everyone who had traveled to be there.  I would not have waited four hours for them to show up.  I would have gone out, done something fun, and posted pictures of that. 

Post # 11
1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Mississauga Convention Centre

Our wedding ceremony will be at 1:30pm and will last between an hour and an hour and a half. Our reception is 30 minutes away. While we will be taking pictures our guests are welcome to come and take pictures with us, or go to our reception venue for cocktail hour.

Post # 12
4231 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

I once attended a wedding where there was a FIVE hour gap between the wedding and reception…but they let people know ahead of time so they could make other arrangements!

For our wedding there was an hour gap…but during that hour we did a cocktail hour so guests could mingle and chill while we did our photoshoot. I think we ran a little late with the shoot, but the venue was professional enough to keep the appetisers coming, and the DJ had some ambient music on.

Post # 13
170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I was part of a wedding recently that did this, too. their saving grace was that they did have a cocktail hour for their guests at the reception, but no food. and they (we – the bridal party went barhop ping with them) were almost an hour later than they were supposed to be. 

It was very strange to me, but apparently the tradition in their very small town. I didn’t care for it at all. 

Post # 14
996 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

If there is a gap, the time the reception starts should be listed on the invitation. Never seen this happen, that is ridiculous and I probably would have left after an hour.

Post # 15
1169 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

This reminds me a little of a wedding I went to this summer.  After the ceremony, the officiant actually said “in lieu of a cocktail hour, the bride and groom invite you to go for drinks in town until 6pm when the reception starts.”  Lol so basically, you didn’t want to pay for cocktail hour. Fine.  So we do as we’re told, go for drinks with a bunch of people, didn’t have the foresight to eat a ton of food, and got to the reception at promptly 6pm.  The B&G showed up at 7:30pm to start dinner.  Oh man I was starving, and it was outside with no heaters either. 

I think your situation is way worse though, they actually went bar hopping while keeping you waiting?  That’s beyond rude and I would have left once the FB pictures started popping up.

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