Welcome Bags

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are welcome bags necessary?
    Yes : (5 votes)
    19 %
    No : (22 votes)
    81 %
  • Post # 2
    8440 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    It’s nice, but not necessary, especially if you don’t have events other than the ceremony and reception.

    Post # 3
    47151 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Of course, they are not necessary. People managed without them for years until someone did them and posted on Pinterest. That does not make them a necessity.

    Most of the stuff I have received in welcome bags is just junk that goes in the garbage. If you want to compromise with your Future Mother-In-Law, make up a little welcome card that lists the closest coffee shop, 7-11, breakfast cafe etc.

    Post # 5
    543 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    We are giving them out because our wedding is a destination for most people…but they are not necessary

    Post # 6
    455 posts
    Helper bee

    Not necessary at all, but in the end I’m glad I did them. I put water, advil, some snacks, and a few postcards. Lots of people really enjoyed them and were grateful for the refreshment. For less than $80, it was worth it to me.

    Post # 7
    5132 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I am having a small destination wedding with 30 or fewer guests and will be giving welcome bags as opposed to favors.  I think it is not necessary but nice to give one or the other.

    Post # 8
    3821 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    emmagreen482017 :  My parents insisted that these were necessary, so I very kindly told my mom that if she wanted them, they would be her project to fund and execute, because I just did not have the patience or energy to do them. I believe our welcome bag consisted of seltzer water, candy, chips, toiletries (mouth wash, dental floss, aspirin, toothpaste, etc), and a list of our favorite bars/restaurants in the area. I will be the first to admit that I know a lot of people did not eat everything in their bags and either dumped it in their luggage and took it home. Everyone loved the bars/restaurant cards though!

    Post # 9
    3172 posts
    Sugar bee

    I dislike welcome bags as I believe they simply create more landfill. I feel like this about bags for weddings, corporate events, anything. People might like them, because some people get a buzz out of getting free junk, but I’d resist the temptation to add to our wasteful society. I lovely welcome card, as they do in fancy hotels, would be much better IMO 

    Post # 10
    1629 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2016

    We did welcome bags as we had a high number of people traveling 2-3 hours and staying in a hotel. We included local places to eat, grab a coffee, fun things to see/do while here (and approximately how far away each thing was time-wise), and info on the wedding events (appetizers/snacks the night before/welcome event), etc. We included waters, local beer, local snacks, and other snacks (candy/chips/cookies). They were, obviously, not necessary, but people seemed very appreciative. A number of people told us that the local info was really appreciated, as they wanted to see the area, but didn’t know exactly where to go, how far things were, etc., so I’m glad we included that. (and, we included a little thank you for coming- we can’t wait to celebrate with you type card in each bag). 

    Post # 11
    7275 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    emmagreen482017 :  I thought they were unnecessary and didn’t want another thing to deal with but my Mother-In-Law thought they were essential. So I put her in charge of them and literally never even heard about or saw the finished product. We both got our way!

    Post # 12
    580 posts
    Busy bee

    I’ve been to 3 different weddings where variations of this were done:

    1) Brother’s wedding, we live in another bourough of NYC but stayed in Mahattan for the wedding. Received a bag with 2 cream sodas (we don’t drink soda and the flavors looked kind of gross), a giant pretzel (this was hard by the time we ate food the day after the wedding), probably some chocolates, and some other thing I can’t remember. They also created a mini flip book with places they recommended to eat or go to, they had reserved a table for some restaurant for a large party if guests wanted to go out for dinner.

    I thought overall it was a sweet gesture but a lot of the food went uneaten and no one else wanted it. I think it was mostly a waste of money. I kept the cool ribbon they used to tie it with.

    B) Best friend’s wedding: They made thank you bags for each guest/couple, most guests were from out of town. These were NOT cheap. They were all NYC candies and foods, Dean & Deluca, Mariella chocolate, good stuff. All of it was eventually eaten/shared with my Fiance. This really felt like a gift.

    C) Traveled to TX for a friend’s wedding, they gave us a basket with a big bag of tortilla chips, salsa, and some oranges (I think). Was actually nice because we got hungry before the wedding or earlier in the day and could eat the food instead of running down to the lobby to pay $10 for 2 snacks. We ate maybe 1/3 of the chips though, had to leave the stuff in the room because we didn’t want the salsa to somehow open in the suitcase and the chips would all be broken in our bags.

    I have been to other weddings where I have traveled and received no welcome bag. I was fine with it. I think it’s just this other “pintrest” item people expect others expect of them. If you think your guests will need/want dinner ideas – you can have a print out or something to share with guests. You could do something simple like some fruit, water/seltzer for everyone but don’t think you need to.


    Post # 13
    771 posts
    Busy bee

    I plan on doing this relatively cheap by buying in bulk, but I am looking at a destination wedding. If somehow my Destination Wedding falls through, I will not do these. Many of my guests will have to travel anyways (hence why we chose a relatively inexpensive DW), but I felt like they were a nice gesture for a Destination Wedding as guests will have spent so much to be there.

    They are absolutely not necessary, but as long as it’s not junk, I think they’re appreciated. Bonus points for a reusable bag without your wedding date or monogram on it, as people usually don’t want to reuse something like this 🙂

    Post # 14
    101 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I loved putting mine together – and so glad that I did! I think people really appreciated the gesture. 

    Post # 15
    2110 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    They are a really kind gesture but not at all necessary! We made some really beautiful, really thoughtful welcome bags for our out of town guests. We included waters with cute labels, a guide of where to eat and what to do around the town, some local baked goodies, my favorite candy and DH’s favorite candy, a sweet letter we both wrote and signed thanking them for traveling to celebrate with us, and some cool local made essential oil chapstick. A few days before the wedding, there was a bad storm and our dog went nuts and turn our bags into a pile of shredded and eaten trash. So, we went without. Nobody missed them.

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