- 8 years ago
**Faux account. I’m sorry bees, this is not typical of me & I’ll have it deactivated ASAP. But this issue is very personal for FI’s family. I would hate for them to see this post under my regular name. (but, I bet you know who this is…..)
Divorce: The perfect way to make a beautiful wedding super awkward.
So here’s the skinny: FI’s dad cheated on Future Mother-In-Law with one of his undergraduate college students (eek). Ultimately, he divorced Future Mother-In-Law and married the student. Fiance and I are very close with Future Mother-In-Law, and not as close with Father-In-Law (and definitely not his wife).
Future Mother-In-Law is a wonderful woman, but unfortionately she’s never dated since the divorce 10 years ago. She’s in her fifties and is making huge efforts towards losing weight, and getting back to living a healthy lifestyle. She still misses Father-In-Law, and sends him birthday, and Christmas gifts. But they have no relationship–I’ve seen them in the same room together once (it was horribly awkward. Think: no speaking, no standing near each other…)
Father-In-Law is living happily with the new wife (who is in her 30’s now, blonde, fit, etc, etc)
Welp, as you can imagine, this poses an interesting dilemma for our wedding. What’s your take on the wife being invited to the Rehearsal Dinner, ceremony, and reception? Obviously, Future Mother-In-Law doesn’t want her there. And my loyalty will forever lie with my Future Mother-In-Law. But yet, my parent’s are hosting and refuse to not invite FIL’s wife of 8 years (I completely understand! And agree!).
I was just informed that wife is not invited to the Rehearsal Dinner. But yet, FI’s sibling told me that Father-In-Law has every intention on bringing her. Yet, she is definitely invited to the ceremony and reception. I’m looking for a way to make things comfortable for my Future Mother-In-Law who I love very much. My heart goes out to her. On the other hand, I don’t want to blatantly disregard FIL’s marriage of 8 years!
Remember: the last time Future Mother-In-Law saw this girl was when she caught her in bed with her husband. Go easy on my Future Mother-In-Law, this cannot be easy for her.