Post # 1
So Fiance and I went to my aunt’s funeral today and after the service at the lunch, a couple of my cousins were asking about our wedding plans, which at this time isn’t much. they both told me “Well just so you know, if you don’t invite us we’ll be crashing so we’ll be there either way, it’s up to you how you invite us.” REALLY!?!?!?! These are grown women who are married themselves, you’d think they’d know what that’s like. I really don’t want to have to start paying for a ton of people to just show up at our wedding uninvted. I was so shocked I didn’t know what to say. Has anyone said this to you all? What did you tell them?
Post # 3
@futuremrste: WTH. Hopefully the venue is top secret…
Post # 4
Welll that’s a bit rude. Hope they were joking, at the least.
Post # 6
@hisprettygirl: I second this!
I would make sure it’s known that no one who isn’t invited will have a seat or meal. You shouldn’t have to pay for people you don’t want at your wedding, and there is no way I would.
Post # 7
OH HELL NO.
WTF happened to manners?! I mean I’m not exactlly the etiquette police but COME ON.
Post # 8
This is something I’d totally say to someone as a joke, so are you sure there isn’t a slim chance that they’re just playing with you?
Regardless, you have tons of time. Don’t worry about this, and when your day comes around just enjoy it.
Post # 9
@futuremrste: Condolences on your aunt.
As for your cousins, throw them off the scent of the wedding. Give them a fake date and venue, sit back and chuckle to yourself.
Post # 10
… oh man thats super disrespectful. 🙁
Post # 11
This seems like a joke to me. They seem to just be teasing about how much they want to come to your wedding. I dont think they will hiding in bushes in camo unitards anytime soon so you probably dont need to worry about security 😉 . If you dont plan on inviting them just keep telling them that you havent really planned anything yet. Enjoy the planning process and forget about the crazies
Post # 13
@StuporDuck: Thank you.
The one cousin we will for sure be inviting, my immediate family and I spend most holidays with her and birthdays and all that, I was the flower girl in her wedding, and her in-laws (my aunt and uncle… she’s a cousin by marriage) are like honourary grandparents now that my grandparents are both gone. The other cousin I’m not so sure we’ll be inviting her. Fiance hasn’t met her in the almost 3 years we’ve been together and it seems like the only time I ever see her is at funerals (which fortunately are few and far between).
To be honest, if we were doing a cash bar or no liquor and uninvited people wanted to ‘crash’ after the meal is served it wouldn’t really bother me, but the fact that we’re doing an open bar means that having uninvited people could mean that we either run out of liquor if we bring in our own or end up spening way more than I anticipated on liquor.
Post # 14
@futuremrste: I think they’re joking….noone could say something like that to your face and mean it seriously…I hope!
Post # 15
I might say something like that in fun…but not with any seriousness intended! Do you know them well enough to know if they would actually do something like that?? If they would, that is just plain crazy!
Post # 16
Yes I have some fam members on my dad side of the fam trying to do this. I’m not even giving them a date. I just said its undetermined right now cause we got so much other stuff goin on. That’s all I’m giving them… that or tellin them it’s going to be a Destination Wedding. I don’t care. I dont even socialize with these people and they EXPECT to be at my wedding?? This is NOT a family reunion.