(Closed) Well crap.

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
1116 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Hugs* but, he/she is here so there is no use in people being upset it wont change anything hopefully they understand that and once telling your father is out of the way (fingers crossed he will be happy) hopefully you can start being excited too … Once he has that little one in his arms he will melt  sounds like you have a lot of support it will all be okay … promise 

Post # 3
2600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Well, you JUST figured this out, so I would let it settle for a few days. I think that you should definitely do whatever is right for you, but as written, it sounds like you would like to keep the baby, so I am going to respond as if that’s the case. 

Have you actually talked to your dad? Sometimes we think we know how someone would react and they surprise us. I don’t know your dad, but if he were to fire his own hardworking daughter because of this, that would make him not only a pretty crap father, but also a really crap businessman. Anyone who fires someone who really does put their heart and soul into a business (provided you’re not a disaster, which I’m betting you aren’t) is dumb. I highly doubt your dad would want to even start on a hiring process for something you’ve been helping him to build. As for him being disappointed, that’s hard, but well…sometimes we disappoint our parents. They get over it; it’s part of the gig of being a parent. 

And otherwise, it seems that you’re worried because it’s a wrinkle in your plans and a disruption in your timeline, but from where I sit, you’ve kind of won the jackpot: 

– you conceived, even though you are low fertility

– your family and friends are supportive

– you have a caring partner who wants to marry you and have a family with you

I understand the disappointment about the wedding and all, but you have to remember that a wedding is about getting married. And honey, this is marriage. If your Fiance has been supportive and you feel comfortable with him, at the very least, I’d say that you’ve got a bright future together. 


Post # 4
4821 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

*hugs* everything will work out! Thinking of you!

Post # 5
8483 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014


I’m sure everything will work out. Its all new to you, so of course you’re freaking out right now. Give it a few days, and your head will be clearer. 

Post # 6
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

MrsRoberts52:  This is a huge change so it’s normal to feel sadness and anxiety.  I think once you tell your Dad and have some time to wrap your head around it, you will feel SO much better.  Try not to worry too much about your Dad’s reaction, even if he is upset at first he will eventually turn around.  This is a blessing even though it doesn’t seem like it now!!  Congratulations!!!  You will be a beautiful glowing bride and at about 5-6 months prego your bump should be adorable.  Life takes some unexpected turns sometimes, just try to keep your head up and take care of yourself!!  Hang in there, and congrats again.

Post # 7
5372 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

Just from talking to you before, you dad might be upset/shocked at first, but I would really hope he wouldn’t cut you from the business or will. I don’t think he will based on what I know. I know this wasn’t your timing, but life has a funny way of doing that to us sometimes. I know your dad is older so it will be nice for him to have his fav grandchild (I’m sure your baby will be his fav lol) around sooner rather than later. You’re a little older than me, but I know if we were to get pregnant, we would be shocked but happy and would make it work. I have faith that you will be the same way!! 

Post # 8
812 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

MrsRoberts52:  once this sinks in, and you hear that little heartbeat, it will seriously melt your heart. Everything always works out, just often not the way we plan! 

And, as far as your parents, this is their grandbaby! Unless they’re crazy, they’ll be super excited (even if they’re shocked at first). 

Btw, pregnant brides look gorgeous! You’ll look beautiful, and you’ll always look back at your special day knowing that your munchkin was there to celebrate it with you 🙂

Post # 9
238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

First of all, congrats on this little miracle person! You’re not 15 and lost, you’re a grown woman with a supportive crew behind you. It’s all going to work out the way it’s supposed to. Trust the universe! Your father will support you no matter what, just find a good way to tell him, in private. 

Post # 10
210 posts
Helper bee

Like others have said…and I will tell you from my own experience…it is rare that things go exactly as we plan.

But, you have to look at it this way.  You are having a baby with the man who you are marrying.  You know him, you love him, you trust him…it isn’t like a random stranger or someone you barely know.  So all will be A okay!!!


Just move up the wedding, and like you said, this will help you keep it smaller and more initimate.  And ten years from now, heck orobbaly 5 years from now, you will not have had it any other way…the exact timing won’t matter al all:)


Good luck and congrats XX

Post # 11
1312 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

MrsRoberts52: Wow, that is very big (scary big) news, but it sounds like you have a pretty awesome team on your side! Not sure where you are or how far along but you probably have the option to not become a mother (right now) if that is what you would prefer, though I am guessing that if you’re announcing it to all your network you have already decided. Best of luck whatever you choose and however it goes but know that it’s okay to feel how you feel.

Post # 13
1943 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - City, State

MrsRoberts52:  everything will be okay. Sending you big Internet hugs! 

Post # 14
3718 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

MrsRoberts52:  Congratulations! This isn’t what you wanted, but it’ll be okay. Instead of eloping, you may want to consider a super small wedding where you tell your parents and siblings and invite them. I would only give them a week of notice, but would absolutely invite them. I know my father would forgive me for being pregnant, but not for eloping.

Post # 15
2024 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

 I’ve been following your story and I really think once you’re married and your father sees the photo’s of you and hubby happy as clams it’ll be okay. Just sit him down and tell him about your wedding and then say that you have another surprise for him and tell him slowly. I’m sure you’ll cry and he might need a little time to let it sink in, but tell him that you’re happy and nervous and really need his support. Fingers crossed for you 🙂 Smile like a crazy person and remind him this wasn’t how you intended things to go but you’re here now. Hopefully he thinks back to himself and your mother and decides things will be well. You sound like you’re a favorite and you’re smart, he won’t drop you that quick over something you’re handling like an adult. *Hugs* and warm wishes, oh and congratulations on your little surprise 🙂


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