Post # 1
It was sort of a disaster. We went to Crate and Barrel and we were just plain stumped and dumbfounded by the sheer amount of stuff there was in that store. Lemon zesters. Egg poachers. Avocado peelers. Toasters in five million different configurations. Knife sets with a greater number of knives than I have pieces of silverware.
WTF. I got dizzy. Fiance and I got so frustrated by the zillions of different styles and options and colors and shapes and combinations that we just gave up. And had a little fight in the coffeemaker section too.
Dear god. Don’t these companies realize that more options make us crazier and less likely to buy stuff? How do we choose?? And how can I, in good conscience, register for a 10″ saute pan that costs $200? For pete’s sakes.
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
I did mine online for Macy’s– then, once I had the bulk of my selections made, Fiance and I went to the store and supplemented the few items not available online. It was way easier, and definitely no fighting!
Post # 4
For the things you know you need the best thing to do is go to the store’s website and check out the reviews. That helped us a ton! and registries that allow you to add things online are AWESOME!
Post # 5
@juliette.eliza: We will probably do that. I wanted to check out Macy’s but there wasn’t one in the mall we visited. I also thought we should see the items in person, to get a sense of what everything was like. Won’t make that mistake again, LOL.
Post # 6
Also think about the things you REALLY need and want. Do you poach eggs and peel avacados on a regular basis? If you don’t, leave it off! I went back and deleted a bunch of stuff a few days after registering once I sat and realized that I would not use half of the stuff!
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I used to work at C&B, so I know how overwhelming that can be. (We’d see couples walking around with that glazed look in their eyes.) Have you and Fiance figured out what items you need, both new and to upgrade? Making a list can really help. Skip the gadget aisle until you have the big items figured out. You can check reviews on C&B and amazon.
Knives- trust me, you only need 4 or 5- no one who worked there bothered with getting a set. And that $200 pan- you’ll have it forever. I bought All-Clad 7 years ago, versus buying crappy cookware that I’d replace every 5. Anyone who has top-shelf cookware will tell you it’s worth it. And friends will chip in for expensive items, or you can use your completion bonuses to buy them.
Post # 8
We did almost all our registry online. It was so much easier. I could filter by things we knew we wanted and read reviews. The only thing I wish we had really gone and held in our hands was our dishes. They are super pretty but they are seriously heavy, super brittle (like I broke a plate by it falling 3 inches into the sink) and don’t fit in the cabinet because the dinner plate is huge, the salad plate is almost as big as a normal dinner plate and the bowls are more like serving dishes than soup bowls.
Post # 9
Oh, I’m sorry you had such a bad experience trying to register. This should be one of those fun things you get to do!
If you decide to make another go at it, you might want to do a little homework before you go. Google around and you can find different versions of a “registry checklist,” which can help you figure out what sorts of things you might need or want. Also what you *don’t* need or want, which helps you bypass things you are never going to use (maybe like the avocado peeler?). Doing that really helped my Fiance and to keep our registry to just the things that we actually wanted, as well as helping us to say no when our consultant kept coming up with more and more suggestions.
Post # 10
We’ve agreed on some basic important stuff–set of cookware, good set of knives (although a small set, not a gigantic one), etc. It just got so overwhelming in there the other day! Not because we want egg poachers and whatnot, but that there was just so much choice.
Anyway, I think we’ll just do it all online one evening and get it out of the way. I couldn’t believe how crazy it made me to just choose stuff in the store. Never again, LOL.
Post # 11
Aw, we had a lot of fun registering. I started it online (Target) and then we went in store to scan stuff. I’ve been adding stuff online when I get bored, and we’re going to back to Target sometime to scan more stuff in store (they just redid our store). My Fiance has been really good with “Okay, we don’t need that…” I’ve been trying to focus on upgrading what we do have and adding what we don’t. Hopefully we’ll be purchasing a house within the next few months, so it should be easier when we have rooms to fill somewhere that we can actually make our own!
Post # 12
It can definitely be overwhelming. Fiance and I went to Macys one day and just stayed in one section. It took us a while but we went around and around only in one section and picked a bunch of stuff. Then we went online and edited/added/deleted our first days selction. Then after this we had a much better idea what to expect and eventually went back and walked around the other sections and this seemed to go much faster. Then again we edited at home.
I think its nice to go in the store and don’t overthink it. I was so stressed over what color towels, sheets, decor, etc I wanted and how do I know if I don’t have a house yet but in the end we just picked what we liked and knew we needed or wanted to upgrade and that made it easier. I would suggest giving it another try, it will be better the 2nd round.
Post # 13
We did Crate and Barrel as one of our registries and we loved it. Compared to some other places (e.g. Macy’s, BB&B) I thought theirs was actually less confusing with less options. Fiance was definitely less bored in C&B, especially because we went during their monthly registry party. The only thing I will note about C&B is that it has a tendency to clearance out of products somewhat frequently. We’ve had to replace a few things on there, and we only registered when we sent out the invitations. Some of these were items I never would’ve guessed would be discontinued in the middle of the year, such as wine glasses and sauce dishes. If anything you picked was on sale when you registered, it will likely be clearanced out within the month. This is what a sales associate finally warned me.
FWIW, Fiance and I have already co-habitated for years so we definitely were not starting from scratch. I could see how trying to register for an entirely new household could be overwhelming.
Post # 14
I’m sorry you felt so overwhelmed, we loved registering! Although, there’s no harm in registering for a ton of things you think you want, then going online to look at your registry a few days later and deleting things you change your mind about or adding things you forgot. Even after guests start buying you can still change things. So do what you can, and then just check it every now and then to see if you want to update anything.
Plus, you can always return or exchange anything if you change your mind even after the wedding! Try to let it be fun! 🙂