- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
My best friend and I have been friends for well over 10 years, she is literally the sister I never had.. to say I am protective over her is an understatement. We’ve always grown uo telling each other when we get married our husbands would be great friends, always go on double dates and have our children grow up being best friends ( Oh to be young again… everything seemed like rainbows and sunshine) I’m now married to the best husband in the world and we are now in the process of ttc. I’ve always wanted the best for my friend and honestly wish she was at the same place in her life as I am (i.e married, starting a family) and I know 100% she wishes she was in the same boat as me. I want my best friend to have the most amazing husband that will love her, take care of her and treat her like the queen she deserves to be.
– A little back story –
My friend met her boyfriend a few years back, at first I was supportive because she was so in love and he treated her so well. I came to later find out he had a brush in with the law and had a drug problem. I tried to continue to be supportive and not judge. He ended up going to jail for a year and during that time she had decided to move on and date someone else, the new boyfriend ended up not working out and when the current boyfriend got out of jail she went right back to him and I thought to myself “hey who am I to judge, people make mistakes and deserve second chances” well as time went on he continued to have a drug problem and owed not such nice people money this is when I said enough is enough this is not the kind of person she should be dating
A. because of his record he can’t find a job so what kind of husband and provider can be be for his family
B. He’s becoming rude to people
C. My best friend is one of the most important people in my life so when I have children she is going to be front and center in their lifes… is this man the kind of person I want around my child?
Throughout time they broke up and got back together, she stated she always got back with him because she loved him and knew he was the one! During one breakup he went as far as trying to commit suicide. It got to the point where I told her I just couldn’t support her relationship with him ( he even ruded a wedding event of mine.. showed up high, made snarky remarks). Yes he worshipped the ground she walked on but he had ISSUES! In the beginning I was so supportive of her relationship but over time the thought of them together sickened me because I knew he was BAD news. Obviously our friendship seriously began to suffer from all of this to the point where weeks would go by without us speaking once they moved in together it was pretty much like we were aquantences (sp?). I knew one day he would mess up so I just left well enough alone.. well eventually he did. A few days ago he attempted to rob a bank. The things she went through between the cops at her house, changing the locks in her house and losing the love of her life was just terrible. Am I happy its finally done? YES!! Am I happy it ended like this? NO 🙁 I warned her so many times only because I knew this would end in heartbreak for her.
She is holding it together as best as she could but I know she’s embarrassed considering everyone warned her and now this happened and she’s shocked.. one minute she was kissing him to go to work and the next he’s on his way to federal prison. Imagine kissing your SO not realizing it will be the last time you ever kiss them. She hasn’t eaten because of all of this but luckily i’ve gotten to spend last night and today with her and have gotten her to eat a little bit, she’s angry and him which is a good thing – sometimes anger gets you through the hurt and doesn’t want him to ever contact her but she is hurting and lost. I know this will take time but I know she will pull through and find the most AMAZING man.. she just needs to give it time. She feels depressed because she feels she’s almost 30 and needs to start over and just wishes she could have been married and starting a family and I totally get it but things will happen when they are suppose to.
Considering his prior record and this federal offense how long do you think he is looking at in prison? He is looking at 1st degree robbery. Also obviously i’m at the point of trying to have a baby but I feel so bad bringing it up.. I find myself trying to down play my life and avoiding the ttc topics but she’s my best friend she’s the one I always turn to with talks like this.