(Closed) Well i guess guys have their own opinions :/

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 32
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

Please dont be too sad.  I showed m Fiance 6 dresses.  5 I actually tried on and 1 that is extremely similar to mine and he ranked that one last.  Straight men have little to no fashion sense.  He will love it.

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

your dress is bananas, and you look amazing in it!

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Diplomat Country Club

@STBMrs.Waters:  Which dress did you get? In your first post you said divina but then the picture you put is different. Trust me he won’t even realize it’s the same dress and he will love you in it

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You look gorgeous! He will love it on you. 

Post # 37
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Guys aren’t there for the process so getting their opinion on the dress doesn’t work. My Fiance wanted me in a “puffy dress” (a line or ball gown) but when I tried those types of dresses on they didn’t work with my body type (I am short and skinny) I look like I’m being swallowed by the bottom half of the dress. So I bought the dress that looked best on me and was honest with him explaining that the big dress idea just doesn’t work with my body type. Your Fiance will love the way you look on your big day and won’t think twice about your dress decision!

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Diplomat Country Club

@STBMrs.Waters:  You look great in this dress i love it trust me he will love it. I showed my Fiance a picture of a dress on the model he hated it i showed it on me he didn’t even know it was the same dress and was like “Wow that’s gorgeous get this one” I was like are you kidding me? LOL He honestly didn’t realize it was the same dress he hated on the model

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think you girls are crazy for showing your gowns to your FIs 🙂

The reaction is NEVER going to be what you want. The BEST reaction you can hope for (at least from the majority of men) is “It’s pretty” or “It’s nice”. They are never going to ooh and ahh over it like your friends.

However, I also think these men are pretty insensitive to say they don’t like it, after they know you already bought it. It’s just not a smart move.

OP – your dress is gorgeous – I like it better than the Divina, actually.

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I was flipping through an Alfred Angelo catalog after I bought my dress and my fiance casually looked over.  He saw the picture of the Ariel dress and goes “I hope you didn’t get something ridiculous like that just because its a Disney dres”.  My heart melted since I had just gotten the Ariel dress.   Granted, it looks completely different on me then it does in the photo, but i was still amazingly upset byt it. 

But I realzied that on the day, he’s going to see me and NOT remember anything about saying that dress looked silly in the picture.   its all about how you look!

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

my Darling Husband had his opinions too, but mainly “I like that” and “I don’t like that”. I got the “I like that” for the picture of me in my dress before alterations so phew!

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Reading posts on the Bee, I always think that we give men WAY too much credit for caring about what our dresses look like.  I really don’t think they care.  All they care about is if you look good.  And if you feel good, you will look good.  The other day I asked my Darling Husband to describe my dress.  We were married in June, and there are photos from our wedding in our home.  He gave me a blank look, and then said “it was white, and had straps.”  It was ivory, and there was much more going on besides the straps.  But when he first saw me in it on our wedding day, his reaction was priceless.  That’s all that counts.

Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Haha I showed the divina to my FH the other night because it’s a dress I’m seriously considering. Yeah, if I go with his choice, I’ll be wearing something thats totally not me. As he told me last night “I’m not looking at the dress, I’m looking at the woman I am going to marry. It’s not about the dress, its about you and me.”…..Yeah, that made my heart melt. I still care about the dress but I know whatever I choose as long as i love it, he’ll love it. Even if he thinks it’s a little too frilly. And I bet your FH feels the same way, the dress is something you care about and maybe hime slightly but the day of, he’ll be way more into you than anything else.

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

 I showed my Fiance pics of dresses I was considering trying on before my dress appt.  Soooo glad I did cause a couple I considered he didn’t like at all.  I had shown him lace dresses as well and he said they all look like the bride is wearing a giant doily so out went lace for me, lol.  Luckily one of the ones he really liked(based on pics) was the dress I actually went with.  He saw the dress when I came home with it the next day(got a steal on the dress, it was discontinued so I came home with the one they had in the store).

 

 

A few weeks before the wedding I asked if he even remembered what my dress looked like….he did not. 

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m sure you will look stunning on your wedding day and that’s all he’ll notice.

I’ve realized it’s a bad idea to show them anything, especially if they’re opinionated.  I am much more stylish than my Fiance (I have helped him pick out new clothes so he does much better now 🙂 haha) yet he still has strong opinions.  

I made the mistake of showing him 3 different shoes I ordered from Zappos to try on and he HATED all of them.  I found this incredibly frustrating and got quite upset.  Because I had thought they were cute and his reaction was so no what I expected.  I just didn’t think he’d care that much anyway.  The next day (after I sent him a couple dozen shoes I thought were cute that he might like better lol..) he apologized and thanked me for sending them to me but said he understood it was hard for me to find shoes I like (he’s barely taller than me and I want low heels so I’m not taller than him the day of the wedding) and he realized that he is going to love whatever I wear and to just pick whatever I like.

Tho after the effort sending him all those examples I still made him tell me which he liked haha.

But seriously, he will just be in an emotional bubble and think you look gorgeous the day of.  Def don’t stress it.  As long as you love it and feel beautiful in it, that’s all that matters.

Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@STBMrs.Waters: first of all you look spectacular in that dress and i wouldn’t just say it. second, i’ve struggled with my dress and been up and down in terms of how much i like it and have wondered if it’s the right one, etc but in the end it’s my dress and i put SO much time and so many outings into finding a dress not to mention all of the THOUGHT and conversations with people close to me (and not so close to me… haha)… that there is no way in hell i am so much as whispering into his ear while he’s sleeping anything about the dress. guys can be insensitive and truly not realize how much time and energy we put into things like this and can give a ‘meh’ reaction that can send us spinning. i’m only half sure that my fiance would love pics of me in the dress taken on a cell phone when it hasn’t been properly fitted. but i know when it’s my size and i’m all done up he will love the OVERALL picture of how i look. (ideally he would love the dress but for men, it isn’t really about that!) 

there is no way i could handle any doubt from him right now. i’m sorry you got that reaction but don’t let it hold you back from wearing it OR feeling like a million bucks, because you look outstanding.

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