(Closed) Well, I ruined last night

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

That’s a strange reaction.  My Fiance was psyched when I offered to use my grandmother’s diamond. However, I agree with him that having one of your friends hold onto your diamond is bizarre and unnecessary. If you have already spoken to him about the proposal, he should be able to ask you for the diamond. The only thing I can think of is that maybe he has already bought you a modest engagement ring and you made him feel insecure about that choice.  I would just keep quiet about the diamond for now and let him come to you if he decides he wants it.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

Awwwh 🙁  Well, I personally would give it to my mom and say to him, I know we weren’t discussing until after grad, but, knowing you were planning a summer proposal, I figured you would want to shop a little sooner. That being said, I was trying to do the best for US and thought you would be HAPPY to hear about the ring.  So, it’s with my mom, I will not bring it up again now that you know where it is.  And tell him that you weren’t expecting the ring sooner, but you were very excited to hear a timeline, and he hurt your feelings with the reaction.  I’m SURE he just got panicky like most guys do, I wouldn’t take it too personally, but I understand how upsetting that must have been!! *hugs*

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree with Floridagirl. Letting him know about the heirloom diamond was a good move, but I wouldn’t let a friend – no matter how close – hold it. If he wants it to be a surprise for your then he can hold it or you can give it back to your mother who can keep it until he wants to have a ring made. If you agreed to not discuss plans until after your graduation then you should try and stick to that. Go ahead and look at details you like, get an idea of the wedding you want, but remember he is involved in this too and if he wants to surprise you then let him 🙂

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Do you think maybe he just had not thought that far ahead?  To him the summer could seem still pretty far off and he just might not have been expecting ring talk just yet?  I know with my bf he can only do one thing at once and that once thing gets all his attention and energy.  So maybe your bf overreacted a bit because he just really hadn’t put much thought into the step on getting to the proposal just yet? Just something to think about – but either way defiantly hang in there! He clearly wants to marry you and it will happen.  I defiantly think if you give him some time he will come around to thinking about the ring!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

“in the summer” probably seems like forever away to him and like tomorrow to you.

It probably just felt very real very quick for him when you brought up the fact that you had some plans towards a ring and had said the “M” word out loud to others. 

I’m sure it will all be okay 🙂 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think he still plans on proposing this summer, but he may have freaked out a little when you brought up the ring. It may have seemed to him that you were rushing him into the proposal. You only discussed this a week and a half ago – so maybe bringing up the ring made him realize how real it is without giving him time to process it. It’s like one day you were talking about getting engaged in the summer and the next you had the ring – it may have been a little too fast for him. I would give him some time. He knows the ring exists, if he wants to use it he can go to you or whoever ends up holding it for you.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think that’s a good plan. I’m sure he’ll propose by Sept since he told you he wanted to this summer. Good luck and happy waiting!

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