- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
Hi Bees, The other day I was at an amusement park with my family and Mother-In-Law. My Darling Husband and older stepson decided to go on a thrill ride together and asked if I would like to join them while Mother-In-Law and younger stepson waited. I decided to do it as it struck me as a more controlled ride than most, and I had a decent time. Afterwards, we were about to eat lunch and my stepson said he was happy I went on the ride with him so that we have this shared memory, and that he was proud of me for going on it. Immediately following his remark, my Mother-In-Law said, “Well, I think she’s stupid.” You could have heard the record scratch a mile away. Her tone was clear in that she wasn’t saying it to be playful, she meant it. She continued saying she was all for facing one’s fears but… and then she just trailed off.
I was a little confused by her statement for several reasons. It was the first time she’d ever said anything negative like that about me in my presence, so it took me aback and I wasn’t about to start pressing the issue in front of the boys. I’d be on thrill rides all day, some even with her. Why this ride? Why was I the only one singled out? If she thought that about me, fine, why did she have to say it in front of the kids and DH? Did she oppose my risking my life and if I perished in said thrill ride who would care for the younger stepson? (The birth mother is very much alive and well and a part of our world so…wtf? Why am I getting all the heat and not her son?) And if she thinks I’m stupid, does she also think her son and grandson are, too? It just gets more and more bizarre every time I think of it.
I just sat there wondering where she was going with it all and quickly the subject was changed. Darling Husband didn’t say anything, though I think after a while he held my hand.
AWKWARD! Now I’m wondering if I should say something to Darling Husband to nip this in the bud before worse things occur, or if I should just let it go. I know this is piddly to what most of you have faced in MILs and my Mother-In-Law and I get along so well otherwise. We’ve gone shopping together, I’ve had her over for brunch/tea, we’ve had great conversations. I just feel so weird about this. What do you think? Thanks for reading and adding your thoughts.
EDIT: I’m sorry, this posted in the wrong category. Please move as needed. Thanks.