Post # 1
Me and SO were talking earlier and he brought up the idea of buying a house and wanting to save as much money as possible when we both graduate next june. Now… we are are WAY off buying a house and he was talking about it in a “5 year plan” kind of way. He said that he will try and work a little bit for his dad as well as finding a job which whould bring in some extra income and then he said that he also had “something else” he had to save up for first but that would happen before we were graduate “or maybe a bit after”. I played dumb and asked him what it was… and he said “a beautiful diamond!”.
I’m so so happy that we are able to talk about it so openly and that he is planning for our future but I think I’m about to chew my nails off! We have chosen a ring, I *think* he has the money for it (I have also offered to contribute to it but he refused) and I was really hoping for a Christmas proposal. A couple of my friends accidentally found out that I was waiting for a ring (I left a page up on my computer and forgot about it) and although I asked them not to mention it to anyone else or talk to me about it (because I want it to stay as a surprise for everyone else) I sort of know that they will be expecting it after I come back from the Christmas holidays and it’s driving me crazy to think I will have to wait over half a year longer than I thought.. at the moment I’m deperately trying not to bring it up and act nochalant about it but I’m not sure I can do that for 7 months!!
Post # 3
Fiance told me he wasn’t going to propose for 7-8 months. We got engaged a month later. He just really wanted to throw my off. It was really important to him that I be surprised.
Literally hours before the proposal, we were in Jared’s, looking at rings, even though he had bought the ring months earlier!
Sending good vibes your way!!!
Post # 4
Like the PP said maybe he is trying to throw you off. If he isn’t and it will take longer I know it’s going to be hard to wait and not say anything. In the end it’ll be worth it because you know he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. I hope by focusing on that it’ll make it easier on you plus you have the surprise of not kowing when his going to propose. I hope you keep us updated.
Post # 5
Thank guys, I really really hope that he is trying to throw me off! But I don’t know if that is his style… Trust me, I know that whenever it happens it will be perfect and I am not resentful about him doing it on his own time, I just don’t know how I am going to cope!! Haha seriously, I never understood when previous waiting bees got so antsy close to the end of their waiting period…I ust thought they should be happy and relaxed when they got to the point where they 100% knew it was going to happen. But now that it’s me… it’s so exciting/stressful/overwhelming I’m bursting to tell everyone!! At least I have the waiting boards to keep me sane 🙂
Post # 6
Sorry to hear you are frustrated at the wait, MrsT2B.
Yes, he could be throwing you off yet you say this is not his style. You seem to have an open communication between you. If I may give my two cents here…. European men are usually quite direct. You could just sit down with him over a bite or something and mention that you are feeling a little ‘antsy’ as you say, and have a chat to clarify matters for you.
I am only giving this advice as it is what I would do (and have done with the Canadian – I asked whether or not I would be getting engaged before he heads to Canada for the Christmas break). I know the ring is due to be ready mid november as we designed it ourselves. I myself don’t believe in putting myself through agony and I would not like to see my SO in the same boat. I’m sure your SO doesn’t know how you feel right now.
Well, whether you decide to have a chat or not, I wish you and ‘the Pole’ the best 🙂 xxx
Post # 7
Thanks Peeps. I’m so torn between letting him know how I feel or not saying anything, trying to follow Mr Bee’s plan so that I don’t end up putting him off proposing because he thinks I am talking about it too much and it won’t be a surprise. I think I may play it by ear and if it hasn’t happened by the New Year, sit him down and talk to him about how I feel.
Post # 8
@MrsT2b: I don’t see anything wrong with open communication. My SO told me he wanted to propose in March and I was shocked. I told him that seemed so far away. He laughed and said he will see what he could do. I am hoping for Christmas, maybe New Years, I would even take Valentine’s day. March just seems 50 years away!!!! I am there with you sister:0)