Post # 1
The past 2 months at my job have been really frustrating. I’ve been having conflict with a very aggressive coworker, and a newly hired manager seemingly hates me. She will not enforce policy with others, but hovers over me like she’s waiting for a fuckup. She’s nice and happy and upbeat to everyone else, and the second I have a question she goes dead behind the eyes and acts like it’s a chore to talk to me.
I am officially done. I feel so defeated, like I’m being a baby/quitter but I seriously can’t take it anymore. This was supposed to be a job that helped me maintain my sanity for a few days a week and get me out of the mommy routine. Now I just dread going in.
Ever had to quit a job and beat yourself up over it?
Post # 3
Don’t beat yourself up over it. If you don’t need the $ -try volunteering. 🙂
Post # 4
This same thing happened to me and I tried to stick it out… lasted 2 years with the new boss and she finally had a reason to fire me and they jumped on it within a day of a new policy being put into action about how many training hours we had to have… I was 5 short and had already sent my training work sheets in for the last 5 hours but they weren’t back in time so I was let go of…
She was fishing for an excuse for 2 years… I should have just quit when she started treating me unfairly =(
I feel for you!
Post # 5
Yes. But that’s because good, responsible people have a good work ethic. Like you. You shouldn’t beat yourself up about this (even though I know we’re our own worst critics). It’s not your fault, and you should not be subjected to a hostile work environment every day. No one should.
Get out of there, fuck those bitches. Don’t look back. Don’t feel bad.
Post # 6
I know how you feel! My current coworker treats me like garbage. To everyone else, she’s genuinely nice to, but to me whenever I ask her for help, or advice, she acts like I’m making her go out of her way to do something. She actually makes me do HER job, and MY job and another coworkers job, and gets upset when things don’t get done. I’m over it, but I need the money, and am desperately searching for a new one.
I’m happy that you had the balls to quit. Too many people (like me) stay in something, even though it makes them cry every night. Good luck with your future and whatever you choose to do!
Post # 7
I think a lot of it is my own weird Elle Woods like mentality. “Your family doesn’t like me? But everybody likes me!”
I am just having a hard time processing the fact that 2 people, for whatever reason, just don’t like me. Maybe I have an annoying voice or something. I don’t know.
So tomorrow I have to actually say “I quit!” and my husband says I’ll feel great once it’s over. I hope so. And I also intend to be very honest about why I’m leaving.
Post # 8
Do what makes you happy 🙂
Post # 9
It’s best to do what you feel is good for you. If you are feeling this way about your job, then it probably is best to walk away from it. You may not notice it, but stuff that happens at work can sometimes be brought home and affect the relationships you have with people you love.
Post # 10
Not a job (the two jobs I’ve left, I’ve danced my way to the car) but a leadership position.
I was elected VP of an organization, the president resigned so I became president fairly early on in the term. Conflict after conflict with individuals about compliance with regulations without the other officers really supporting me (they were friends with the individuals) left me burned out. So I quit (“resigned”) with a month and half left on the term. I gave myself a week lead up to set things up so that the new VP- now president- could just pick up where I left off. I felt guilty for about a week and now a month later feel content.
Post # 11
@KatyElle: Yesh I quit my teaching job last year as the workload and behaviour were getting me down and it’s obviously not just a 9-5 job and I was resenting it. I now beat myself up as I shouldn’t have left the job I had previous to that in industry. Now, I substitute teach. What have I done with my life, I should have this all figured out at I’m 30.
Post # 12
I’ve had two previous bosses that sound like yours, and I should have not dealt with it as long as I did.
One boss was a male, and made me do things like scrub the grout in between the tiles on the floor of the men’s bathroom underneath the urinal. To prove a point. There would be days I would cry the whole hour drive home b/c I hated him so much but liked my actual job and the other people I worked with.
The other was female. My Fiance got a new job in August last year which caused us to move 6 hrs away. I told my boss, and gave her a MONTH’s notice. She was cool w/ it the day I told her, then all of a sudden the next day she shut me out and wouldn’t talk to me face-to-face, it was only over our headsets. And this had been someone that I was close with. Like, her and her bf stayed at our apt and they watched our dogs when we went out of town.
Do not put up with this kind of treatment. You’re better than that!
Post # 13
I quit a couple hours ago. I guess I feel ok about it, but still kind of unresolved. I didn’t really get to tell my boss why I was leaving, she was just like “Ok, whatever here’s your last check.”
I think I’ll be bummed today and over it tomorrow. I just don’t need the anxiety in my life anymore.
Post # 14
Yay! Trust me, you will be soooo glad you quit! If you felt disrespected there, it is better to move on than wait for them to make you more miserable. I’ve been in your place, and my one regret is that I didn’t leave sooner!
Post # 15
I’m sorry. = (
I used to Work at Sears as an MCA (those people use see organizing racks and finding things). We got a new manager and I was planning to transfer in the fall for our move to Portland. Well, it didn’t pan out and she was so rude. She cut my hours from 19 to 0 in one day and wouldn’t talk to me about anything. So I went to HR and quit. It was the only thing in my life I’ve ever quit. I felt bad at the time, but now I have been with my company almost 3 years and it is the best!
Do what you need to do to be happy! you don’t need them to treat you like dirt!
Post # 16
This sucks, but as PP posters have said, you will feel better now that you’ve chucked those assholes. It’s not worth the stress.
I’ve only quit one job (but been miserable in many:). I used to work at as a pharmacy tech while I was in college (free drugs!) and I had just started working at a new drug store and this one girl just had it in for me. Blamed me for every single thing that was screwed up.
One day, she freaked about some order that was fucked up and, as always, tried to pin it one me when I’d been nowhere near that area. I just told them “I’m out of here”. Didn’t even finish my shift. As I was walking out of the store one of the managers caught up with me and I just told him I was done and not coming back. Felt GREAT:)