Post # 1
I had a lovely time at high tea on Saturday, but alas, no proposal! I actually wasn’t disappointed since the day was so awesome anyway!
Yesterday though, we were at church and in the announcements the pastor reminded the congregation about the “Love Connection” day they have every year. Basically it’s a day focused on strengthening your marriage or preparing engaged couples for marriage. This year it’s on the 12th of February.
When this was announced I leaned over to my SO and said “Maybe we should go this year!” he just said “Nah, we’re not engaged”. I giggled and said “What, we’re not going to be engaged by February 12th? *nudge nudge*” and he laughed and said “Nooooo” lol.
I am actually, genuinely not upset at all (Hey, I know it IS coming), but I am feeling a little stuck in limbo. It’s kind of annoying because we ARE engaged by every meaning of the word. We have decided we want to marry each other. We have a wedding date picked out. He even has the ring! But, we’re not engaged in his mind. Not until he decides to give the ring to me… which is completely up to him. I really would have liked to have gone to that “Love Connection” thing this year, but looks like we’ll have to wait until next year, I guess.
I guess I am just tired of waiting for him to make it official. I want to be able to tell people we’re engaged. It just seems silly that I am waiting on a piece of jewelry (that he already has! AUGH!) so that I can finally say that we’re engaged. Apparently I still have at least a month more to wait if he really means that “Not by the 15th” comment. >_O
I’m so happy that we are going to get married and I know he’s going to make it official soon… I’m just kind of sick of waiting lol.
Post # 3
There are probably other engagement/marriage classes in your area. That one is probably preferred since its your church, but others host them. We did one that had several classes throughout the year held at different churches depending on when you went. It was a day and we had booklets and really meaningful discussions. Because it’s a state program, attending the class got you like $60 off your marriage license too. But we didn’t get married here, so that didn’t really apply to us (though on a side note, a marriage license in Tx is like $67 and in LA it was only $28 crazy).
Post # 4
Our pastor suggested that we take the pre-marriage class before we were engaged. They think its better to talk through all the things before you decide if you want to marry someone or not. That was a somewhat awkward conversation at first- ‘hey, pastors wife asked us if we want to take the pre-marriage class- she said we don’t have to be engaged.” He said yes to that pretty quickly though. Maybe you should suggest to your pastor that they change it to Marrieds, engaged, or thinking about marriage. Then he wouldn’t get hung up on the word engaged.
I was in your situation for awhile though- we had decided we were going to get married, I knew he was getting the ring, we started planning the wedding, but he didn’t consider it engaged. I think that if you have decided to get married and started wedding planning, you are engaged. Boys can be silly sometimes 😉
Post # 5
Hugs girly- I am sure the surprise is going to be very good for having you wait so long.
Post # 6
Sorry if this is a stupid question but if he proposed and you’re engaged, then why won’t he let you have the ring?
Post # 7
@deetroitwhat: That’s a good point! And wow.. $67.. $28?? In Toronto (Canada) we pay $140!
Post # 8
m in the same boat as you...he has the ring and Im waiting for it. Totally sucks…I thought it would get easier after I knew he had it but it doesn`t!
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@BanditGirl: He didn’t “propose” yet, but we’ve mutually decided to get married and when. He doesn’t consider us engaged until he proposes and gives me the ring.